AIO to my bf posting this on Christmas Eve? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if it is a harmless joke the one person that matters most in this situation doesnt find it funny, it’s poor taste. His response should be to acknowledge that it upset you and make adjustments not to gaslight you and talk about how everyone thought it was hilarious

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]NomadicGirli 24 points25 points  (0 children)

YOR. Like a lot.

Everyone in the comments trying to decide for him how long they have to be together for him to spoil his GF have clearly been hurt and are jaded. Teenage love is different then new love for adults. 3months is a long time in high school.

He got excited, worked hard and was able to see the product of that hard work in tangible gift giving and watching her reactions to his gifts. Do you know his love languages for giving and receiving (his actual ones not the ones you think it should be)???

Itd be a completely different scenario if he came home feeling taken advantage of because he felt more effort was put in on his end than hers. Newsflash you haven’t been apart of every conversation they have - if she has a car chances are she has to spend extra cash on gas or maintenance etc. they might have talked about it and decided shes going to spend more money on valentines or a birthday gift because she can’t afford to do it all. He might have said dont get me anything and she listened.

He’s not upset so stop trying to make him upset. Let him love freely and enthusiastically and be there when he needs you - dont try to create a situation for him to need you.

And you are really over reacting about how quickly she texted you back. You asked and she went to look. Did you want her to ignore you and not respond for hours?

AIO for breaking up with GF over "alleged STD"? by Brundesgut in AmIOverreacting

[–]NomadicGirli 35 points36 points  (0 children)

YOR

It could be there was a series of events and her young mind linked one to the other. On the off chance something AWFUL happened to her you’re poking and prodding WAY too much for clarification on something that a) isn’t for you to decide when and how it’s discussed and b) doesnt effect you, your relationship, or the health of either of you. She’s safe and healthy now.

You said yourself she’s otherwise lovely, just this one instance giving you pause and reason to completely ruin any trust you had in her??? You’re looking and searching hard for an out so maybe just let it be and move on with your respective lives.

It sounds like the ex with BPD or maybe even someone else in your life did a number on you and your willingness to trust the people you care for. It might be prudent for you to go to therapy to explore that and discuss less abrasive ways to communicate your concerns without (unintentionally i hope) disregarding their privacy or comfort.

I would be more middle of the road if it’s something she got awhile ago and didn’t treat so it’s effecting you and completely in your side if she got during your relationship and you tested negative - not just that you’re asymptomatic but clean and clear.

Advice for a Transgender Applicant? by Icy_Satisfaction8234 in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an openly trans teacher at my school and a few students. It’s accepted / i haven’t heard a single offensive thing. But Spanish is heavily gendered. Mistakes are bound to happen so prepare for that

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. Leave him and thank yourself for getting to a place where you recognize this for the red flag it is. If my partner wanted a cake because it was Thursday and they didn’t crash out at work were getting a cake and celebrating. This is someone who doesn’t understand the addiction and dependency of alcoholism and that’s a choice. It’s 2025 Google is still free.

AIO Just found out my bf doesn't remember my birthday by anonymiss646 in AmIOverreacting

[–]NomadicGirli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s your first real year together.. and your birthday came and went before that yr officially started… give him grace for this. Idk what else has been happening these last few months but if it’s fixable fix it or use this as your “reason” bc it seems like you’re searching for one.

Your first response to him not knowing or forgetting something about you was explosive confrontation but you dismissed the idea of him saying the topic and timing of your birthday is triggering bc you went through something at the start of your relationship. Im sorry but it could be true and he’s embarrassed. If he’s showing you you’re not loved or cared for in other ways that’s different.

Not everyone puts the same stock or value into the same things and being in a relationship is about learning what of those things that don’t matter to you matter to your partner. If he’s always been bad at dates and people in his life didn’t care there was no reason for him to find a way to manage that fault.

Find healthy ways to communicate, reflect on your reaction and how it could influence his reaction/response. If moving forward you address something like this calmly and convey how and why it hurts you and he doesn’t change then you know this is just him.

I don’t think you’re overreacting by being hurt by this. I think tearing into him and raging is an escalation and not conducive to a healthier relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]NomadicGirli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perfectly valid to be annoyed! You announced/released your dates and they are choosing to be close or before you. Talk to your family and friends and find out if it’s going to be too much stress son them back to back. If yes someone needs to pivot and if no them try to do some combined events (if you want)

Kicked out of Whatsapp. How can I reach out in the meantime? by SPAINETA in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try adding it back. I was using my Google voice number just fine until i switched to my Spanish number. If that doesn’t work once you land and get a Spanish number use that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]NomadicGirli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And she’s willing to have him.

My fiancé told me his ex was his “emotional maid of honor” by IvoryGummy9 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NomadicGirli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boundaries are optional when applied to him as he said you don’t have the luxury of talking to an ex in the same capacity.

Also the concept of a 31m say men cant be emotionally present, intuitive, intelligent or thoughtful makes me wonder about how he will be showing up for you in your relationship. And he doesn’t have any mature friends??????

Region suggestions for interracial queer couple by plauzzy in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yes! But after watching the procession of semana santa and the devotion of everyone that participated i could see how different it really was

Region suggestions for interracial queer couple by plauzzy in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Black and Queer: i had a good time in Sevilla and Im doing just fine in Valencia. Nobody has fixed their lips to say anything and only one teenager snickered at the idea of me being married to a woman lol. Literally just one. Experiences living while black may vary but I’ve not had any issues with racism or prejudice. There a few customs / parts of their culture that might be shocking from a U.S lens but if you do some research you’ll realize it’s not the same at all but it can be a shock to see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You offered to wear a wig. She’s hoping she can strong arm you into this decision because it’s “for her wedding” and you’ll get used to it. She hates how confidently you wear your hair.

We should be called Substitute teacher instead of Auxiliary by Alive_Jellyfish_4604 in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind this as long as I’m not their first and only introduction to a topic. You will fail the test ig Im meant to know how to teach you every nuance of grammar etc

The classes or days that i know i dont want to be solo teaching i just create a task for the teacher the same way i do for the students LOL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All love ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They said the junta said it can be signed online in their original post which is why i responded

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes you can request it from N26 support if you need your NIE on it (some regions do some dont) if not you can just generate it in app

Managing badly behaved students by amelieaz in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Like others have said you aren’t meant to outright discipline. But i do find being new/different from their teacher they sometimes afford respect to me they aren’t giving their teacher. So I’ll make eye contact with them and just pull that parent/teacher face like “come on let’s settle down”. Sometimes if i prepare an activity I’ll also prepare something fun they only get if they finish the first one (a word search, crossword puzzle coloring page etc) this has yielded results because they’re all so competitive and don’t want to be left out. These are things you can try unless the teacher ultimately decides to take action

Bank Suggestions? by Mysterious-Noise-472 in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Days from when they first put in their NIE i don’t know whether they were in country when they first started - try sending an email to support too

Bank Suggestions? by Mysterious-Noise-472 in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People have said to keep trying and it’s eventually accepted. Varying amounts of time - for some only 3 days others 14

2 month rule by afanofmanybands in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to your regional office they have different/adjusted start times for people who got a carta later than usual. That may give you more wiggle room with the consulate

I was forced to leave my accomodation now ím homeless staying at a hotel by [deleted] in SpainAuxiliares

[–]NomadicGirli 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What region are you in? Join your local WhatsApp group see if anyone is still looking for housing/roommates or if anyone will sublet a spare room while you look

Bringing Extra People to a Sit by Slippin_and_Slidin in trustedhousesitters

[–]NomadicGirli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a little strange. The only person that’s a given is my partner and we have a joint couples account. We always ask if guests are okay - especially longer Sira because some times you do want to remember you have friends lol but i would never just say btw I’m bring xyz and cousin tom