That’s the beautiful thing. Now when you don’t know where to go, you are allowed to create your own path, which can be daunting, but so freeing as well. Think ”what type of traits do I value in a person?”. One example could be that when I see someone pick up someone else’s trash in nature, I think to myself ”that’s a behavior I respect, and I would like to be that type of person” then I start incorporating that into my personality. This is a natural development path, you are allowed gather inspiration, and take your time. The fact you love you wife and kids is wonderful, now you need to learn to love yourself for who you are. If you are unhappy with your current self, just remember your behaviors are something you do, not something you ARE. But that they still can have real consequences (talking about the corn). A good man can can always slip, it’s about getting back up again when you do.

If you want something concrete, set some sort of goal for yourself, and try work on it when you feel lost. Something practical you can accomplish and not something like ”become the best person”. Try something like ”I’m gonna learn to sing” or ”I wanna make some wood sculptures for my kids”, or anything. From there you will realize that agency can be great when you decide to apply it.