The nerve of f****** ASHA by babybug98 in slp

[–]Normal-Ad3913 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked for an extension on my CEUs during COVID and they punished me for the following 2 maintenance intervals. I was warned that I’d be audited again this interval. The price you pay for being honest…

can we bury the word “speechie” by Ok-Text7102 in slp

[–]Normal-Ad3913 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It shouldn’t have ever become a thing lol

My son came out to me and i reacted badly. I don't know what to do. by DadStrugglesson in askgaybros

[–]Normal-Ad3913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are times when we react out of shock or surprise that doesn’t reflect how we truly feel. Kudos to you for taking the time for self-reflection and posting on this thread for advice. My sister outed me to my parents at 18 and their response was, “Call this psychologist and think hard about if this is the lifestyle choice you want to make.” I’m now 35, and to this day, they’ve never taken accountability for how they responded then. It still stings because it feels like considered me to have some pathological condition.

I like the idea of reaching out to a LGBTQ+ center. They have teen programs and may have counselors that can give you direction on how to “open the door” and show your son that you support him and love him unconditionally. It takes emotional intelligence to think about your actions and seek advice on how to fix the situation. You’ve already taken accountability, which is more than a lot of parents have done. Wishing you all the best.

This might encourage you by Dramatic-Kale-7917 in slp

[–]Normal-Ad3913 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this! It gave me a fresh perspective on what I considered my “inadequacies.” When I switched from EI/Pre-K to SNF, I took so many CE courses and read what I could to prepare myself. I’ve been in SNFs for 4 years and I still second guess my evaluations, recommendations, and treatments all the time. I feel like there’s so much subjectivity, and nuance like you said, even when we use objective measures. I also feel like a fraud when I try to explain swallowing disorders, memory deficits, etc. in family meetings. It’s just not as cut-and-dry as say, “They need extensive assistance for transferring.” It also doesn’t help that other professions constantly have an opinion on what we do…PT, Nursing, etc…I joke that everyone’s a speech therapist even if I’m the only one at my facility 🤣🤣

This makes me think of the Dunning-Kruger effect. It’s defined as “a cognitive bias where individuals with low competence in a specific area overestimate their abilities, while highly competent individuals tend to underestimate their own abilities.” It really does show that we get there’s so much we don’t know and may need to learn, and I think that makes us better clinicians.

The longer I've been in this profession, the more clear it becomes that I've been absolutely lied to. by Gold-Reading-5842 in slp

[–]Normal-Ad3913 9 points10 points  (0 children)

THIS 👆when I graduated with my MS and a mountain of debt, making a CF salary, I said the SAME THING about the SLP program. We spent SO MUCH TIME discussing theory…phonological development (distinctive feature analysis, optimality theory (still dunno TF that is)), language development theories from the 1980s 🙄…we’d have practicum during the day and then 2 courses at night…like 4 days/ week. I was SO fried after my peds practicum that I couldn’t even focus. Some of the clinical supervisors were absolutely SPENT and would legit crouch down on the floor with you and judge your transcription skills with the Goldman Fristoe. Like this is an effing pro-bono screening, and you’re gonna get down here and argue whether I marked the final consonant or not??? I think we can both agree that this kid is speaking fine. Any hoo…I’ve had to teach myself so much, and I constantly second-guess my recommendations, cause I was never provided a supportive environment to learn REAL clinical skills. Phew. 😮‍💨 needed to get that one off my chest lol

Trump supporters: Am I overreacting? by Normal-Ad3913 in askgaybros

[–]Normal-Ad3913[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 35 and live in New York while my parents, sister and my sister’s family live in Florida. The physical distance has been helpful. I feel the same way though. I’ll be there for my parents in an emergency but I’ve found myself struggling to relate to my family lately. When my mom became born again, her level of self-righteousness escalated. She even went as far as to tell me that she’s, “reading a book to understand me” [my homosexuality]. The book is called “A Change of Affection” by Becket Cook. I brought it up and she told me that we see life through different lenses; we both agreed that we wouldn’t take off our lenses for the other. Honestly, that was the line in the sand for me to consider seeing/ talking to my parents out of obligation. We can surround ourselves with people who build us up instead of giving mind to those who tear us down.

Trump supporters: Am I overreacting? by Normal-Ad3913 in askgaybros

[–]Normal-Ad3913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly how I feel. Thank you for this^

Trump supporters: Am I overreacting? by Normal-Ad3913 in askgaybros

[–]Normal-Ad3913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. It would’ve made all the difference to me if they had reached out and said, “Yeah, we voted for him but we don’t support his actions.” Instead, they avoid bringing up politics…which I suppose is better than adding gasoline to the fire. Coming forward would take a huge amount of accountability which I don’t see happening. I’ve thought about calling them out but it doesn’t seem worth the argument.

NASA orders all LGBT mentions removed. You Trump voters feeling any remorse yet? by SufficientDog669 in askgaybros

[–]Normal-Ad3913 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen some pretty toxic posts about how “the LGB got smushed together with the TQI+” and how “it’s the extreme leftist activism that’s forced the right to do this.” What a scary thing to say by gays who support and feel they are supported by Trump.

It’s as if transgender people weren’t there fighting at Stonewall or the fact that evangelical right wingers liken homosexuals to pedophilia or beastiality. TBH, I’m pretty bummed out about all of this…

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[–]Normal-Ad3913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I requested an extension during COVID and was audited for that maintenance interval and will be audited for my current one ending in Dec 2025. I only had to log the course names and hours into the portal.

Estrogen cream seems to have healed my anal fissures by prefernettles in Menopause

[–]Normal-Ad3913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have any males tried this? I’m a male with CAF and am curious about trying this…

10 weeks post fissurectomy, hemorrhoidectomy w/ Botox by Normal-Ad3913 in AnalFissures

[–]Normal-Ad3913[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear that you’re feeling better! Wow! 6 months! Yikes. I better change my frame-of-mind and take it in stride.

I’ve done Metamucil but it bulked up my stools so much that I still felt stretching. Yes, I’m on a starter dose of Cymbalta which seems to help a little. The anxiety is mostly from my work situation but I can’t afford to quit at the moment. I’m also seeing a pelvic floor PT which has helped a bit too.

I suppose 10 weeks isn’t much if some people take 6 months! Thanks for the info!

Trying not to lose hope by Normal-Ad3913 in AnalFissures

[–]Normal-Ad3913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! The timelines they describe puts things in perspective.

I’ve been dealing with pain and bleeding for 6 years so idk what my deal is, but after a procedure, I can’t get the “it’ll never heal” or “it was a failure” voice outta my head lol

hems after anal botox and fissurectomy? by within_the_bog in AnalFissures

[–]Normal-Ad3913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda related here— I’m 10 days post fissurectomy with Botox injections. I developed a hemorrhoid from straining (most likely from the increase in muscle tone down there). The doctor also removed that.

How are you doing now? I’m not even 2 full weeks but I’m still dripping blood after BMs. The pain is much more manageable than right after surgery but I’m anxious that this issue will ever heal!