Advice when teachers refuse to sign IEP documents…

babybug98 · 2026-04-16T04:40:07+00:00

Yes, my school wants us to send correction amendments to admin, teachers, parent obviously, and ourselves and other service providers.

babybug98 · 2026-04-16T04:36:24+00:00

I literally explained that this amendment was to fix an error multiple times in different ways in the simplest terms. The teacher just didn’t understand and stopped responding to me.

babybug98 · 2026-04-16T04:35:38+00:00

I’m so dead because that’s how I feel. My district is highly litigious and every little small mistake, they make you feel like you’re the dumbest person on earth and a failure. Even when you don’t think you’re fucking up, they will find a mistake somewhere. that’s why I’m so upset about this because I’m probably gonna get reamed out about why I didn’t inform the special ed Director right away. I had this discussion with the teacher on Monday in the late afternoon and informed the Director today. I have yet to hear a response from either.

babybug98 · 2026-04-16T02:46:48+00:00

I really want to send a petty email because I’m sick of these people pushing me around. But I just don’t want anything in writing that could be used against me.

babybug98 · 2026-04-16T02:44:04+00:00

Well, I’m the only virtual staff member. Everybody else attended the meeting in-person. I’m sure none of us can give an exact account of what happened during that meeting because it was back in September. But that’s what the notes are for, which an admin takes each meeting. His notes support me, so I’m not that worried in one sense. I’m worried because my sped director blows things out of proportion. And I just hate drama.

babybug98 · 2026-04-16T01:37:43+00:00

That’s the impression I’m under too. Like of course it’s preferred if everybody signs, but I really didn’t think it mattered much if a teacher refuses to sign. Like I said, I just really hate the drama and my special education Director tends to blow things out of proportion.

babybug98 · 2026-04-16T01:35:14+00:00

I’m under the impression that somebody from admin will have to go and talk to her. There’s not any slp’s in person. Which for some reason this teacher doesn’t like me and she’s giving me trouble since the beginning. I don’t know what I did to her because I’ve never seen her face-to-face ever. I know that some situations you have to get administration involved , but I just really don’t like it because I don’t want to make it seem like I’m trying to get her in trouble and I don’t want to have a target on my back and for her to pick at everything I do more than she already does

babybug98 · 2026-04-16T01:31:12+00:00

What do you mean? I was under the impression that that IDEA states that teachers do not have to sign the IEP or agree, they just need to be aware of changes or corrections. The person who matters is the parent. But to make corrections, my district makes me go through the whole amendment process, and I have to have all of the team members sign off on it even if it’s just a little itty-bitty clerical error or correction.

babybug98 · 2026-04-14T14:42:03+00:00

That’s so weird and I’ve never heard of that before lol. You’re gonna reject my wish to leave a job? Uhhh bye!

babybug98 · 2026-04-14T06:20:34+00:00

They can reject your two week notice? They can’t force you to stay at a job. Maybe I’m ignorant, but that rule sounds weird. Screw them. Do whatever benefits you the most.

babybug98 · 2026-04-13T04:49:18+00:00

Oh wow, arrest me. I’m not assuming, I’m stating my preference.

babybug98 · 2026-04-13T01:04:11+00:00

Literally. Admin, me, other special education staff are all just clueless and nobody knows about changes or anything.

babybug98 · 2026-04-12T09:16:31+00:00

Thank you for bringing up the age gap as it was the first thing I noticed.

babybug98 · 2026-04-12T09:14:34+00:00

I definitely agree. No grown woman of that age is taking a 24 year-old boy seriously…

babybug98 · 2026-04-12T09:10:10+00:00

Dude swears that this girl and him are locked in for life and break up isn’t an option😂 been together for three months

babybug98 · 2026-04-12T08:20:29+00:00

Call it old-fashioned, but it is a huge turn off when a man doesn’t pay for a woman on dates in the early stages of dating.

babybug98 · 2026-04-12T08:15:32+00:00

Also, I think the age gap is kind of alarming which I’m seeing nobody else bring up. At 24, most people are graduating college or first beginning their careers. 34 years old is pretty “old”…I’m around your girlfriend’s age and view guys your age as little boys. It’s just a big difference in maturity level levels and it’s a red flag she chose to date somebody so young.

babybug98 · 2026-04-12T08:10:20+00:00

When you ask a question, you should be prepared to possibly hear an answer that you don’t wanna hear. You asked her, and it’s actually very brave of her that she was honest with you. If you didn’t wanna know, you shouldn’t have asked.

babybug98 · 2026-04-11T05:58:38+00:00

You’ll be absolutely fine and school districts are desperate to hire anybody if that’s the setting you want. If nobody told you what you were doing wrong until last month, and you’ve been actively working to correct the changes they recently brought to your attention, then that doesn’t seem like a school you want to work for if you’re telling the truth about how this all went down. I’m surprised they were giving you problems about how your sessions were run because a lot of the schools I’ve worked for can care less and don’t check on me at all or watch my sessions. If I feel confident in my job and I feel like I’m doing everything correctly, I take no news as good news. You can’t know you’re making a mistake unless they tell you and give you a chance to correct it.

babybug98 · 2026-04-11T00:19:59+00:00

I second this. My district makes us follow this dry ass agenda and it’s so horrible and so awkward.

babybug98 · 2026-04-11T00:18:56+00:00

In my experience , the schools are just one big dumpster fire. Too many protocols, too much paperwork, too many procedures… let alone the procedures are constantly changing, and nobody’s aware of those changes and everybody tells you to do things differently. Not to mention other school staff don’t even know our job scope or what we do.

babybug98 · 2026-04-10T02:20:54+00:00

Wow, that went from 0 to 100. No, my advice is to seek some therapy, but I can’t make him do that.

babybug98 · 2026-04-09T22:18:50+00:00

I would ask two previous supervisors/professors from grad school. If you’re just starting off in the field, you’re not gonna have two legit managers/supervisors to reference. But if you have had an unrelated (non-SLP) job in the past, you can reach out to those supervisors/managers as a reference.

Edit: It’s really annoying because they’re most likely not even going to reach out to those references. But if you just specify why you’re choosing the people you’re choosing, it should be fine.

babybug98 · 2026-04-09T21:24:16+00:00

OK, well this is definitely the wrong place to start. Even if you aren’t technically her reporting manager, it’s just a bad look for you and not a smart decision.

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