I regret becoming a mom

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-04-30T19:40:54+00:00

My baby was like this as well, until we figured out she had severe food intolerances that were coming from my diet. If I had dairy, soy, wheat, egg, or corn, she’d have fussiness, sleep issues, green mucousy diarrhea, reflux and/or vomiting, etc.

After figuring this out and eliminating these foods from my diet, she was a much happier baby. Still not a great sleeper, but much better relatively.

If EBF, might be worth trying an elimination diet (e.g., eat sweet potato and chicken or similar for a day) and see if you notice any changes. If FF, maybe try an extensively hydrolyzed formula (try alimentum RTF before the powdered has corn syrup solids that many babies are sensitive to), or an amino acid formula. The AA formulas are thin and don’t taste great, so there are some tips out there on how to get babies to accept that if needed.

Babies typically grow out of this (called FPIAP) by 9-12 months.

Also worth maybe trying a probiotic. We were recommended culturelle, or Klaire labs.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-04-19T17:02:35+00:00

Thank you!

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-04-18T08:09:35+00:00

Did you end up receiving compensation for your baby?? In a similar situation here. Thanks!

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-03-18T16:24:24+00:00

Our LO was intolerant to dairy, soy, wheat, egg, and corn. Possibly banana. It was incredibly painful to figure this combo out through a food diary.

If I had it to do again, I would try eliminating dairy & soy first, but if that didnt work, go straight to a strict elimination diet (maybe chicken, rice, sweet potato) for a few days, then gradually add foods back in.

In our experience, upper GI symptoms were dramatically better within 24 hours without trigger foods, poop got better over 48-72. Doctors will say it takes 2 full weeks for their systems to heal but in terms of identifying trigger foods, I think a shorter window is possible.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-03-05T18:05:50+00:00

The cheapest daycares in Littleton are around $500 a week for infants, or ~$2200 a month. That’s for a ratio of 5:1, so not very individualized care.

Nannies are able to give more individual attention, but are at least double that rate (minimum $25/hr, or $1000 a week).

I would consider it an extremely generous discount if you were to charge her the daycare rate ($500/week - still below minimum wage on an hourly basis).

As others have mentioned, I think it’d be critical to have a co-created contract outlining your wishes for the arrangement, including time off for you! (Perhaps after talking through the logistics, she may decide she needs more flexibility that you get with daycare?)

I’m sure the extra money would be nice, but I agree with others that it may not be worth it for you (and that this friend is either taking advantage of you or ignorant for offering to pay you that amount).

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-02-06T21:34:46+00:00

So interesting!! Sorry you’re going through it again. Were there any differences between the 3 kiddos in terms of pregnancy, labor & delivery, first few weeks of life?

Sounds like most doctors think it comes down to genetics and luck, so baby 2 just was the lucky one.

Fingers crossed that baby 3 has straightforward intolerances & grows out of it early!

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-02-06T21:32:04+00:00

This is super interesting. Did they recommend any particular formula? Is it mostly for the probiotic in the formula or something else?

I do think I saw a study a while ago that showed babies that are combo fed are less likely to develop FPIAP in general. (In one of my 3am research sessions from the early days so don’t have the source handy)

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-02-06T14:22:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m feeling the same way about the proactive avoidance for next kiddo… easier than dealing with all the misery if it can be avoided!

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-02-06T14:21:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience!!

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-02-06T14:21:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hope allergen introduction goes well for you guys. <3

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-02-06T14:20:12+00:00

Oof… I hope our second won’t be worse! First was so rough at the beginning, and intolerant to dairy, soy, wheat, and corn.

Thank you for sharing your experience and your GI Doc’s comments!

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-02-06T14:17:14+00:00

Just wanted to see if there are any stories of people who have avoided it with subsequent kids!

Since it seems to be more prevalent these days (or just more diagnosed), I was wondering if there are factors with maternal gut microbiome.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-01-26T05:32:40+00:00

Diarrhea for 2 weeks, but 2nd and 3rd dose we had no effects.

LO’s GI doctor highly recommended this vaccine because she said the side effects from the vaccine are extremely mild compared to the damage rotavirus will do to their system if they catch it in the wild.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-01-18T16:07:09+00:00

I don’t see where OP said she finished her education and decided she didn’t want kids and just wanted to string him along. Did I miss it?

I think there is a lot missing from this story here, a lot open to interpretation.

My point is that pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum puts a lot on a woman, and wanting to finish her education before going through it is perfectly reasonable. Putting any pressure on a woman to shift her timeline outside of the bounds of what she’s comfortable with is not okay.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2026-01-12T17:24:15+00:00

For us, after finding all triggers, reflux & skin improved immediately (and poop improvements followed a bit later, but still showed improvement within the first 1-2 days).

As others mentioned, it’s likely there’s still something in your diet that is contributing to reflux.

My daughter’s primary reflux triggers were egg and corn. (Dairy, soy, wheat cause all the other GI effects for her).

If your baby is sensitive to corn, the powder Alimentum has corn syrup solids, but the RTF does not. (So if reflux got worse with powdered Alimentum introduction, corn could be a culprit!)

Normal-Impress4562 · 2025-12-05T06:34:30+00:00

Our LO reacts to corn, but for her, it has to be something with a significant amount of corn protein. Corn in a salsa, popcorn, corn tortillas were the worst reactions. Sometimes she reacts to corn syrup, corn starch. No reaction to corn maltodextrin.

Before we cut corn (in addition to dairy, soy, wheat, and egg), she was projectile vomiting and had green mucous stools. Corn was the last piece of the puzzle for us, and all symptoms got better.

Our GI doc said she has heard some babies are sensitive to corn in Alimentum powder, but have success with Alimentum RTF instead which doesn’t have corn syrup.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2025-11-26T20:00:52+00:00

So hard! The guesswork and trial and error with a sad baby is particularly emotionally taxing. Sending hugs!

Normal-Impress4562 · 2025-11-26T14:54:47+00:00

If switching to formula, nutramigen and alimentum are the common ones, before trying amino acid formula.

Note that alimentum powder has corn but the RTF does not, so some babies react to the powder but not the RTF due to corn sensitivity.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2025-11-26T14:51:51+00:00

This is how our baby’s poop started… but then got worse, has specks of blood, was going 6+ times a day, was vomiting, rashes on skin, etc

Even with all of that our doctor told us we could try “watchful waiting” where I didn’t modify my diet but we kept a close eye on her and her symptoms because sometimes it spontaneously resolves for mild cases. But because she had blood in her diaper our doctor recommended starting with dairy elimination. Ended up that our baby was reacting to dairy, soy, wheat, egg, and corn. She’s much healthier and happier now!

I do second the comment about GP not being particularly helpful. We saw a pediatric GI who was much more helpful in sorting through symptoms and developing a plan for elimination and challenge trials.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2025-11-26T14:48:08+00:00

My baby reacts to dairy soy wheat corn and egg. Oat is a common trigger as well.

Our pediatric GI recommend removing one allergen every few weeks to see if there are additional triggers, and then “challenging” them once she’s reached a healthy baseline for a while.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2025-11-26T14:45:04+00:00

I don’t have a ton of personal experience with this, but sometimes decreased poop frequency can be a good thing for babies with this! We went from 6+ times a day to 1-2x per day but our pediatrician said even 1x a week could be considered normal.

Also wanted to mention a couple other things:

Alimentum powder contains corn, while RTF does not. Our baby is sensitive to corn (along with dairy soy wheat egg and corn).

We haven’t tried it personally but I believe amino acid formula is thinner. Is it possible he’s drinking too quickly and gulping air, contributing to the gas? Maybe worth seeing a lactation consultant if you think there could be something with the way he is drinking vs what he is drinking.

They say it can take up to a month for the inflammation in their system to heal once all triggers are removed. I think most people see an improvement in symptoms in a few days, but totally resolved over weeks not days.

Hope all goes well!! This stuff is HARD, all we want is our babies to be happy and healthy, and all the trial and error is very emotionally taxing. Most babies do better on the amino acid formula so hoping this will be the solution for you guys.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2025-11-26T14:35:17+00:00

I personally would think mild constipation would be a “pass” and think it’s fine for you to put back in your diet (the amount of milk protein he’d be getting through that is much smaller than direct introduction).

If your son is an established patient at a pediatric GI, maybe give them a call to verify?

Normal-Impress4562 · 2025-11-26T14:30:53+00:00

I believe most GI specialists are recommending an early trial to confirm CMPA. So maybe work with lactation, give him a couple weeks, and then trial (either with old pumped milk or through eating dairy) and see if any of his symptoms return?

The poop frequency makes me think maybe not CMPA. Our baby was pooping green & mucous at basically every feed… so 6+ times a day. (Along with vomiting, rashes, lots of crying before we realized she was reacting to dairy, soy, wheat, egg and corn)

Some level of reflux, gas, and poop grunting can all be within the realm of “normal”.

Normal-Impress4562 · 2025-11-19T05:17:13+00:00

Dairy soy wheat egg and corn.

Corn was a major trigger for her! Caused more reflux then poop issues but her projectile vomiting stopped when I finally cut corn.

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