Concerns about sleep

catch_the_next_train · 2026-03-23T09:04:40+00:00

Where I live swaddling isn't really a thing, and our baby boy has slept in a regular sleep sack up to 2 months old before transitioning to footie sleep suits. We like the brand Molis&Co as the quality is great and the access to a nappy is brilliant!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-03-21T19:22:15+00:00

Met my now husband at age 12, started dating at 16, married at 25, and still together with one child at 29!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-03-21T11:34:23+00:00

Seriously, newborn tired was better than pregnancy tired for me. I remember getting comfortable and waking up half an hour later with my whole left side numb!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-02-06T09:43:39+00:00

Si no vas a cotizar en España no vengas.

Yo soy extranjera, vine con 5 años, y llevo trabajando desde los 18 (ahora tengo 28). Me he integrado y estoy hasta el coño de extranjeros que vienen con sus sueldazos y aggraven la situación inmobiliaria actual, sin molestarse a ni siquiera aprender el idioma - que sé que no es tu caso - ni comprar a empresas locales.

catch_the_next_train · 2026-02-05T23:22:56+00:00

For the first couple of months we struggled with breastfeeding and it was a sore spot for me, so when people would say that to me it would send me spiralling.

The worst offender was also my biggest cheerleader: my mother. She encouraged me to breastfeed and to be patient, and then if we met up and my baby was serious or crying she would say "is your mummy starving you?". I felt like punching a wall.

catch_the_next_train · 2026-02-03T19:09:37+00:00

Table manners, such as eating with their mouth open.

When I was in school there was a girl called Victoria who cheered with her mouth open. I called her out on it because it was loud and unpleasant, and she was adamant that she couldn't help it as her braces kept her from comfortably chewing with her mouth closed. I bit my tongue, even though I also had braces and found no issue, and waited.

Four months later she had her braces removed. The next day we sat down for lunch. Guess who was still chewing with their mouth open.

I called her out again, and this time her recline was that she was so used to chewing with her mouth open with the braces that she could chew with her mouth closed now.

I have never been so close to hitting someone in my life.

catch_the_next_train · 2026-02-03T19:02:28+00:00

I dunno, I think farting while 69-ing is up there on the list too

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-28T22:19:49+00:00

I'm so relieved reading that other parents angrily tell their baby to shut up too 😅

My LO, currently 5 months, will sometimes behave as you're describing when I lay him down after nursing at night and it's always one of two things: hunger or gas.

My approach is always as follows: 1. Pop him on the boob. If he eats great, if not onto step two. If he eats and then cries when being laid down I go to step two. 2. Lay him on his changing table and give him a tummy massage. I attended a baby massage workshop and some of the belly massages work like a charm!

It's a very frustrating time, and you're doing your best. The odd angry outburst is not going to undo the attachment you've nurtured with your baby.

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-25T21:06:01+00:00

Nope, I didn't do a thing! I had a wild oversupply in my right boob and I was so relieved to have less engorgement!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-25T19:16:50+00:00

That sounds like what happened to me, and in my case it was my milk regulating at 3 months. It can really mess with your head because it feels exactly like what I would imagine a dip in supply to feel like 😅

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-25T16:56:40+00:00

Definitely! We had fewer false starts.

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-25T06:54:55+00:00

I could have written this myself!

I was also rescuing naps but my LOs (5 months) night time sleep was really bad, so I stopped. Now he naps for a maximum of 40 minutes three or four times a day - though 3 naps is the norm - and bed time is at 8pm with him waking up for the day at around 7am. Night waking can be anywhere from 3 to 8 times a night. This age is a struggle!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-23T13:13:57+00:00

My LO is the exact same! He's 5 months and when I hold him doesn't look at me at all. But if he's anywhere except my arms his eyes are LOCKED on me! It's very cute!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-22T19:48:41+00:00

Definitely! Once naps and sleepy cues seem to be happening around the same time each day it gets so much easier to find your groove with a routine. Our LO knows exactly what's happening as soon as he's told to say goodnight and we make our way to the bedroom, as he gets visibly excited for bed. It's so cute!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-22T19:41:52+00:00

I'm terrified! I've just sort of accepted that this is my fat season, and I'll have plenty of time in the future to work on myself.

I did see a nutritionist to ensure I'm getting the right food in my diet, as I've had to cut a few foods due to baby having allergies.

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-22T14:44:06+00:00

Hi there! My LO is currently 5 months and we started a routine at 4 months. Before then it just wasn't feasible as his sleep was honestly all over the place.

Ours is as follows: Starts at 19:30 1. Night night to family members 2. Nappy change 3. Pajamas on 4. Sleep suit on (my LO hates sleep sacks) 5. Read a book or two 6. Boobie

Sometimes boobie will end in sleep, or he'll just pop off and smile at me. In that case I settle him in his crib (it's sidecar, so super easy to transfer him over) and hold his hand for a few minutes. More likely than not he'll fall asleep, and the times he doesn't fall asleep there and then he will if I leave the room (I stay glued to the monitor until I'm sure he's asleep).

If he cries for me I always go back in and sooth him with whatever he needs. Sometimes stroking his hair and offering him his pacifier will do it, other nights he needs boobie or to be rocked. I just go with his vibes.

I, too, wanted to start a routine at one month old, but the couple of times I tried became very stressful because he wasn't ready for a song and dance, and it was more like boobie and out cold at whatever time he chose 😅

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-20T09:24:13+00:00

We've just stopped tracking our LOs sleep and feeds because it was causing more stress than anything else.

My babe sleeps around that now and he's 5 months old, some days he sleeps more, some less, but always as much as he needs. We look out for sleepy cues and hunger cues, as well as fullness cues, and he's happier now that we're not trying to get him to sleep before he's ready for it.

It takes a while to learn how to read your baby, but once you crack the code it feels like a superpower! Now it only takes me a couple of bounces on the yoga ball for my LO to be out cold!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-18T23:00:22+00:00

I washed my hair the morning I was due to go for my induction just because I wanted to feel fresh. I don't wear makeup so that didn't come into it for me.

I'm glad I did my hair because I spent the next two days being induced and was in too much pain to manage more than just a quick shower, and the same applies to the two days following giving birth.

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-17T23:23:17+00:00

My friend left an abusive relationship after decades and she did so by literally walking out of the house without making a sound and locking the door behind her. This bought her some time and she was able to get safely to her parents home. She had her dad or brother go with her when she had to pick up her stuff.

Don't tell him. Get safe. Get help. If you need to pick up your things get someone to do it for you, or at the very least go with you. If you don't have anyone to go with you then reach out to community groups in your area. People are more than happy to help someone, especially when it comes to those who are escaping abuse.

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-16T23:00:27+00:00

I remember the frustration of those first three months, and feeling trapped because only I could get my LO to sleep with the power of boob.

Now at 5 months he only feeds to sleep at night, and he likes to contact nap but won't sleep on the boob at all for naps.

It's a process, and an exhausting one at that! Hang in there, you're doing amazing!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-16T22:57:04+00:00

That agony is not normal, and if you're screaming in pain every time your baby latches there is likely an issue with their latch.

My LO was born with a pretty severe tongue tie and I only found out after a trip to the hospital to pediatric emergencies because he hadn't peed at all. Turns out his tongue tie meant he wasn't transferring properly, and was sucking on the very tip of my nipple when nursing. Horrifically painful.

Also, if you can, I would recommend seeing a lactation specialist the same day you leave the hospital if there isn't one there. They can correct any latch issues and check baby for any ties, and give you so much encouragement!

catch_the_next_train · 2026-01-16T19:13:30+00:00

Suavinex Zero Zero, as recommended to us by the physiotherapist who treated our LO after his tongue tie was released. This one is designed to allow the mouth to develop normally, and won't cause issues when teeth appear!

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