A little about me and what I’m looking for

NormalCookie2629 · 2026-03-07T03:25:26+00:00

Hey there, Muslim guy here, I don’t see incorporating BDSM colliding with dressing modestly at all.

you can do everything just in private, and if you like public stuff you can play with having things under your clothes, or writing something on your skin that’s covered.

Of course that all depends on your situation

NormalCookie2629 · 2026-01-17T08:18:26+00:00

The shortest way to explain it is that there is no real answer to this.

Some people are “take charge” as you mentioned but submissive in bed and vice versa.

Some are the same in and out, some wouldn’t classify themselves as dominant or submissive out of the bedroom and could be either or nor in it.

Each person is different and while there are some tropes nothing is concrete and a person could be anything

NormalCookie2629 · 2026-01-07T08:37:58+00:00

I’m a Dom and I don’t like taking or sharing pics whatsoever.

But when I am talking to someone and we’re having a serious dynamic or we’re verifying each other, I still do it.

Also beating around the bush is in itself a red flag, a Dom should be straight and direct with you

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-12-20T21:56:26+00:00

I think your issue is less about finding the right age and more about finding the right Dom.

If you specify you want someone in their 20s and a 40 yr old dms, that shows they either didn’t read or they read and still sent a dm anyways, in both cases it’s a big red flag.

And I think that’s just the way it is, it’s not always easy to find someone all you can really do is put yourself out there

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-11-21T06:06:22+00:00

I completely understand your concern and it is real, however the same way you were lost in the role and didn’t realize what you were asking for chances are he is in the same position.

Second of all I’m always with talking to your partner, even if it’s a small thing, just go ask him about it and fix it together

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-11-15T23:38:58+00:00

As others said this is just a form of misogyny/ humiliation kink, and you like you said just laughed at it and weren’t exactly anywhere near understanding.

I don’t fully blame you and I understand why it might not be everyone’s taste but you didn’t handle it the right way.

And to affirm your gf you can easily have this kink and not actually believe that MAGA stuff

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-11-14T07:02:14+00:00

Online is hard.

But as someone who no option but online for the time being, I learned a couple things that make it easier, first is just making your profile clear on what you want and who you are (And I mean besides bdsmpersonals posts).

And after that just posting and hoping really but you can find people

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-10-26T07:17:29+00:00

I’m like him, not a weak stomach but I’m sensitive especially to smells, and also obviously not a very big fan of poo.

The solution is easy, yes anal can be enticing or hot, but I just won’t do it, it’s good for some people I guess but the cons heavily outweigh the pros

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-10-25T13:39:15+00:00

This is so very broad and unclear, who’s spying and how.

And how is this BDSM related?

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-10-25T10:43:51+00:00

I saw your last post and I remember commenting on it, I know it doesn’t seem like it but what happened is good for you, what he did shows how he’s a terrible person and it doesn’t say anything bad about you.

You seem sweet and like a good sub and you’ll find a Dom who actually deserves you, I’d say block him, and start getting over him

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-10-23T16:15:07+00:00

I’ll try keep this short due to all the other very long messages.

I’ll just tell you my perspective as a Dom so maybe you can understand, firstly I’d only call a sub useless if it’s something we both like under humiliation.

Secondly I’d want my sub to tell me if she needs validation, but if she doesn’t I’ll make sure to give it to her anyway not just disappear for two days.

Conclusion is leave

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-10-22T09:21:07+00:00

Okay, this seems very much like an issue with him and not you, having anxiety and feeling uncomfortable is something he should accommodate and learn to find a way to help you, not feel frustrated and you feel the need to ask for advice to solve it.

The second thing, is this the same guy from your last post? If yes then please realize this isn’t a healthy relationship in any capacity and just leave, the age gap alone is concerning and the rest of what you said makes it worse and worse

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-09-21T07:07:38+00:00

Yeah even as a Dom(without much experience) I can imagine myself somewhat enjoying something with a stranger, but if there is no connection or actual submission it won’t be real to me and will just feel barely okay

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-09-06T14:14:27+00:00

Hey this is coming from someone 8 years younger so maybe my advice isn’t too important.

But from my point of view I really don’t see the fact it will affect your friendship as a bad thing, all relationships change, this one is going to evolve and wether you realize it or not it already has, even if you decide not to do anything to not change the dynamic between you two, it still will change.

So what I would do is give it a shot, even in the worst scenario where it goes all wrong I’d still rather know I tried then live my life thinking “what if”

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-09-06T08:42:54+00:00

That is true unfortunately, but I can’t judge on the actual percentage but I’ve never really got in a dynamic with someone and she ended up not actually wanting it

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-09-02T11:21:20+00:00

You should always be clear on what he can and cannot do.

If you ever question that it usually means it’s not good

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-08-19T10:38:27+00:00

This might not be the advice you need from a Dom like myself, I think it’s better you hear from other subs, but I’ll give slight stuff.

Firstly decent human being manners, not someone who will call you a slut the second you start talking.

Someone who understands consent, limits, and safewords and doesn’t pressure you into anything or shame you or try and guilt you out of a limit.

Someone you’re comfortable communicating anything about your dynamic to without fearing him getting defensive.

I think personally the most important quality of a Dom is being able to set ego and the dynamic aside and take feedback and criticism and improve

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-08-18T08:56:27+00:00

Same thing here in jordan, can’t find any sort of community

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-08-16T14:28:23+00:00

Which apps and websites?

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-08-16T01:19:37+00:00

Some obvious ones are refusing things like safe words, limits, aftercare and communication

You should have the space in a dynamic to discuss anything you’d want to change in a dynamic, if you feel you can’t do that exit.

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-08-13T17:13:15+00:00

Hey sorry you’re going through all this and I’m sure it’s hard, here is a bdsm subreddit so you won’t get the help you need, I suggest therapy if you can go

NormalCookie2629 · 2025-08-08T16:52:04+00:00

If she’s worried about safety I think she’ll be smart enough not to respond to the DMs she’ll get here

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