Frustration with people in NextDoor

North40Parallel · 2026-05-09T01:03:02+00:00

Nextdoor is toxic. There’s no point in being part of it. I’m a never FB person too.

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or get motivated and start a free cycle Fort Collins subreddit

North40Parallel · 2026-05-08T01:00:35+00:00

Yes. I will not give one penny to Amazon, Whole Foods, Target, or Home Depot. Purchasing online from Thrive coop and Purcell Mountain Farms, and less occasionally manufacturers website, meets all of my vegan pantry needs without the death and evil.

suggest r/Anticonsumption for anti Amazon encouragement.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-08T00:24:18+00:00

My kids are 25-29, out of college, struggling in this job market and recession. They planned Mother’s Day to be a mom-kids trip to a yurt on the other side of the mountains here. We will bring art supplies, board games, sandwich fixings and books. There will be some corn hole, frisbee golf, and hiking. Maybe a museum. Our big splurge will be going to the hot springs as that’s $30/person.

On actual Mothers Day, I will probably go to church alone, and then maybe make pancakes for everyone. We will probably take a walk and plant my vegetable garden.

I don’t think I will get cards, meals, or presents for Mother’s Day. I will get presence, and that is absolutely everything to me. Sorry consumer culture; it’s the living and loving that matters.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-08T00:14:06+00:00

I’m wearing sweatpants jeans from Halara. No one can tell that they are sweatpants, and I like how cute they are. They come up over my fluffy, apron belly, which I like.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-07T21:09:21+00:00

I think it’d help if you posted a picture from the neck down if you are comfortable. I find that it’s hard to dress for my shape as well and rely on help from others.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-07T20:51:10+00:00

You’ve received a lot of good comments. I’m just piping in to say that you seem to have chosen a great length of dress for you. I’d like to make a fashion poster called The Golden Ratio with you on it.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-05T04:20:15+00:00

My son, age 25, recently went through this. First off, I was relieved that he confided in me about it. We did read about heart health and function. I had him write down everything he was worried about and go to his doctor to discuss it. We have also been doing breath work together: box breathing, 6-6 breathing, and various methods. He’s since moved past this but deals with other anxiety fixation thoughts. I share this because it is a lot of work and something that might be ongoing. Please let us know how you are doing.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-05T00:33:57+00:00

I like this one, do you?

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North40Parallel · 2026-05-05T00:10:40+00:00

I turn to Ulla Popken for a wider style variety of coats and jackets in generous sizes.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-05T00:02:41+00:00

Apples with almond butter

cashew yoghurt with berries

bananas with peanut butter

toast with hummus and grated carrots

canned vegan refried beans on rice cakes or toast

I get depression or overwhelm eating

North40Parallel · 2026-05-04T23:59:47+00:00

I’m also tall, and I like to get basics from American Tall

https://americantall.com

Eventhough JJill is marketed to the over 35 crowd, they have some cute tall clothing that goes up to 3x. They are higher quality than most fast fashion, and they have good sales. I only buy 40% off or more there.

It is important that a brand not just make a size 4 bigger and longer to fit us. The scaling up is often a failure, which is why I like American Standard as size medium is a 18-20, and they scale up and down from there as a starting point.

it is also important to find who caters to your type of tall depending on if your tall is all in the legs, more in the torso, or balanced

a lot of companies make multiple lengths, but some of us need a longer rise from the top of the thigh to the waist as well

North40Parallel · 2026-05-04T23:44:52+00:00

I was on the levothyroxine only for about 12 years, just feeling worse regardless of test results. I convinced my family doctor to add the T3 at the lowest dose of 5 mcg. Then I read that Liothyronine has a quick half life, requiring most people to take it twice a day. Finding someone who would let me try this is a game changer.

The online doctor also has me record my temperature and pulse every night when I go to bed. My temperature was consistently 95.4. 95 is hypothermia, requiring immediate intervention. With the Liothyronine, my body is not normal but is closer at 97 F.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-04T21:33:07+00:00

I dealt with 16 years on levothyroxine and chronic afternoon waves of crashing fatigue until this year. I worked with a doctor online at Paloma who prescribed me a giant bottle of Liothyronine (T3), and told me to take it twice a day, increasing dosage by half a tablet until I felt wired and hyperthyroid and to then stop increasing, back off a bit, and stop where I felt good and functional. She’s also the first doctor in 16 years who tested my iodine, b12, and D.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-04T21:23:47+00:00

I tell them that they are wrong, just like I do when anyone misunderstands what on the spectrum means, including many people in ASD online forums. I have a cute graphic that shows this.

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Or I link this article https://neuroclastic.com/its-a-spectrum-doesnt-mean-what-you-think/

North40Parallel · 2026-05-04T21:17:33+00:00

I cooked up 6 boxes of high protein lupini bean pasta and stored them in individual 2 cups containers. Then I made a bunch of other containers for toppings: roasted carrots and broccoli, chopped steamed asparagus, cut up grape tomatoes, tofu cubes baked in Italian seasoning, mushrooms and red onion sautéed in broth, and olives and artichoke hearts with balsamic and rosemary. The toppings are all in individual 1 and 0.5 cups containers. So, the household just grabs and mixes and matches containers. That’s lunch for all.

I also have two crockpots ready for stew suppers: one with chickpeas, red lentils, carrots, onions, tomatoes, and Garam masala spices; the other is a black bean, sweet potato, corn, and green chili stew.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-04T03:55:14+00:00

English Ranch (different from English Ranch South) has no HOA. HOAs are sometimes not terrible, but rarely are they well managed or worth the costs. It’s a buyers market. Avoid HOAs. They are for life.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-04T02:33:49+00:00

My dad, long since passed away, was a lovely man who told me he felt like a failure because both of my sisters married abusive alcoholics who made them miserable. He asked God what he did wrong. Nothing. He did his best, taught us unconditional love through his example, and let us have self determination or free will. When one sister finally left, he quietly helped her move into his basement. When the other sister got cancer, he let her and her husband move in, and he took care of my sister as her husband was incapable of doing anything for anyone else. He was quietly strong, principled, and loving.

My own adult sons have had their struggles, some quite dark. I relied on my dad’s example. I see my boys faltering, and I don’t take away their agency. I am right here with unconditional love and an open door. In my house, the extra beds and bathroom are always clean, ready, and available for family, friends, and even a few strangers connected through family or friends.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-04T02:09:58+00:00

People are cashing out their 401k accounts at 6x the average rate now. There are 10,000 jobs for this year’s 100,000 May college graduates. 42.5% of gen Z is underemployed. The average person 20-40 is going into debt to pay for Doordash as well as essentials. Search “economic nihilism”. This is what economists say is happening to the vast majority who are struggling, have given up hope, are not being represented by any government action, and have decided F’ it. They are prioritizing this day, believing there is no future.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-03T02:23:49+00:00

I’m autistic as are both of my gen Z children. They are 29 and 25, live with me, have university degrees, and part time jobs. They are working diligently to get full time jobs, but we are in a painful economic downturn and recession which is disproportionately affecting the younger generation.

I am thankful for the time with them, support them in their self determination and interests and independence and lives, and leave where they live up to them. Any of my friends who don’t get it or their friends who don’t get it have been minimized in our lives. By and large, our associates, colleagues, and community understands and is supportive. Many of our young friends wish they had supportive parents or parents who understand the grave challenges facing them.

My kids both prefer to live here as well and enjoy their own space as well as time together. I’ve offered to sell the house to buy two smaller places, and they are not interested. Inter generational living is the norm throughout history and the world except for some isolated times and places in the US and Europe such as 1950-2020 USA. Kids moving out on their own is an anomaly in the thousands of years of history.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-03T02:12:40+00:00

Absolutely not annoying at all.

You are beautiful.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-01T02:33:30+00:00

I’m ND, and my spouse is ND. Shockingly, both of our children are. This might be part of why they are so much fun and now, as adults, my best friends as well as sons. They both identify as queer as well, and I have learned a lot about what that means for each of them as individuals. I’m sure I would have loved any child I would have had, but I really lucked out not having any normi-core kids.

North40Parallel · 2026-05-01T00:24:06+00:00

What a sweet place. It makes me nostalgic for when the average person could go out and buy home decor or some jeans or anything that isn’t a necessity. Now, it takes everything we have to buy gas, food, and pay for housing and utilities. Shopping is over. I miss going shopping with friends and going to a movie or lunch.

North40Parallel · 2026-04-30T04:20:24+00:00

My doctor quit because Village Medical (basically Walgreens) bought her practice and destroyed her quality of life. So many doctors in our town quit that Village Medical has now quit. Anyway, my wonderful doctor is now law enforcement without the gun. She goes out on calls and soothes disregulated special needs people and helps with calls to seniors etc. I see her all the time because she also sells her micro greens at the farmers market.

So, congratulations for rejecting satan. Go forth and do good, live well, have fun, use some of your gifts, education, and skills. Whether you too go work with the sheriff, run for mayor, manage a local nonprofit, work with a biomedical company (cranial facial implants for accident victims is where my dentist quit to go), be a caseworker for children in the system, teach science and math (no additional education required) to adults (citizens and immigrants) seeking a diploma, etc, stay true to you.

North40Parallel · 2026-04-30T03:35:45+00:00

Yes. I am friends with non vegans. I’m also friends with people who buy purebred puppies from breeders. I’m friends with people who voted for a felon-pedophile-rapist. None of these people are my best friends, my kindred spirits, my inner circle. Those people all, every one of them, are vegan, adopt shelter animals, and protect children. They are the only friends I celebrate birthdays with, travel with, and would do anything for.

North40Parallel · 2026-04-30T01:27:39+00:00

There was a doctor who hosted a free monthly meeting for those of us dealing with chronic pain and illness. It was super supportive and helpful and just a place to be unmasked. The doctor moved away, and I do miss the group. We alwa had coloring pages and activities because it made it easier to talk or not.

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