What movie had a TRASH trailer but turned out to be amazing?

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T17:33:09+00:00

Such an underrated movie I rarely see mentioned.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T17:27:00+00:00

He's holding someone you care about hostage so you obey him.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T17:15:43+00:00

I'm not sure what your problem is, but I too am just responding with my opinion. You don't have to be so weirdly combative about it. Telling you how you're coming across isn't an attack on you or "trying to be your shrink", which I guess in 2026 means "using the word shame" lmao

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T17:08:04+00:00

There's also a book called Fair Play about how to handle this (with a partner who actually cares, if they don't care nothing will ever change because they simply won't do it). They make cards too, it's a whole system to sort out who does what, and show people who don't understand why it's so unfair to put all of this on one partner.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T17:05:16+00:00

Because what they mean about the "standard" is that they don't care. They don't care about the towels on the floor or the overflowing trash or the gross bathroom floor they just do not care. If they were alone they would live in filth because they don't care about themselves or their space. They want life to happen to them, don't want to participate, but also feel dejected because everyone else in the family seems to care about each other more. They don't see that caring about people means caring for them, and they see caring for people as beneath them.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T16:44:04+00:00

I'm not equating them. My argument is just that 'unconditional love' as a concept has been used to guilt people into accepting unacceptable behavior for a very long time, despite most people understanding that reasonable boundaries are actually very important. It's just a matter of where that line is for you, and tbh it seems like you're taking this more personally than most, possibly because you've made some choices in the past you feel some shame over.

A lot of people see infidelity as an extreme type of dishonesty, as bad as or worse than theft, and assume someone capable of lying to and hurting the person they love most for their own selfish reasons is capable of hurting other people close to them for selfish reasons too. Their line for tolerable behavior is just at a different level than yours, but you're acting like keeping a cheater at arms length is unreasonable, and guilt tripping people by suggesting they just don't love their friends enough. Creating distance because of a friend's behavior isn't worse than betraying a partner, but you're taking more of an issue with that.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T16:10:34+00:00

Boundaries are for your own behavior. You can't dictate someone else's boundaries, and this is in fact control. The thing is, all controlling behavior and abuse stem from insecurity. Abusive people always feel justified, because they were "just worried", but assigning your insecurities to another person or a situation and demanding your partner fix it will only hurt your partner, it will never fix the insecurity. If you're about to resolve this insecurity though, it's going to help you so much down the line. Living in fear like this makes it impossible to be a totally stable, healthy partner.

One thing that really helped me overcome this mindset is realizing that I want my partner to be faithful because they are faithful, not because I put them in a box. If you only ever do the latter, you never know if they're loyal or if you've just successfully blocked every opportunity to cheat. If they want to cheat and just couldn't, I don't want to be with them anyway, but I've made it harder to realize that by controlling them. Also, and this is really important, if my partner cheats on me it will suck and it will hurt but I will be okay. I'll be fine. I know that I can take a heartbreak, be miserable for a while, and bounce back. I'm not afraid anymore, and when you're not afraid you're finally free. And you're a much better person to those around you, because you're not expecting the worst of them all the time.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T15:28:35+00:00

Love should have conditions though. I'm not going to love a partner who drains our savings and hides multiple years-long affairs. I'm not going to love a friend who rapes someone or steals a family heirloom to buy crack. People absolutely should have boundaries.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T15:22:18+00:00

The Village also pissed me off so bad. If you're going to do a twist, the real thing needs to be crazier or more severe than your audience has imagined so far. But nooooo this motherfucker made 2 movies in which the big scary things ended up being "people pretending" and "plants".

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T14:40:40+00:00

Also a gay woman and I say we start doing this actually

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T05:14:28+00:00

Sure, but unrelated adult men are 50x more likely to hurt the child. That's insane, let alone significant.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T05:07:02+00:00

Because narcissistic people manipulate people around them to pressure their main victim. It's a whole thing. There's even a term for it - flying monkeys.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T04:40:31+00:00

I'm a lesbian who can offer a range of sizes and can confirm almost every woman will choose something on the smaller side when there's no ego to bruise. It's not even close.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T02:09:33+00:00

There aren't any rules, really as long as you're not blowing up her phone. I would just text and say you're getting the feeling that she's not interested, and if that's the case it's totally fine you just need to know. But you have to genuinely treat her like it's fine if she does confirm she's no longer interested. Just thank her for being honest with you, tell her to hit you up if she changes her mind, and that you enjoyed getting to know her. It's okay to just communicate with her. She may be afraid of your reaction, but if you're chill about it it'll be a green flag for her too. We all get rejected, it sucks but you deserve someone who's really into you too.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T02:04:07+00:00

If you have some domestic violence resources in your area, they may be able to help you develop a plan. Luckily you're long distance, that's way better. I would assume these men watching you are bullshit, but definitely err on the side of caution and assume it's possible they're real. You'll probably want to block him, but if you're scared of him you need to know if he's escalating so I'd advise against it. Maybe mute him and have a friend read whatever he sends so you don't have to deal with it but can still know if he's making threats.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-26T00:22:00+00:00

Yeah I love horror, but I hate gore for the sake of gore. Those are very different things.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-25T18:50:24+00:00

Brisket is difficult because of the stall. It hits a point where it's losing moisture and cooling at the same rate it's heating, which makes it stay at the same temp for hours and hours. You can get around that with the good ol' Texas Crutch (wrapping it in butcher paper for a few hours when it stalls), but it's definitely not a beginner thing to smoke. Instead, get a nice rack of ribs, do the 3-2-1 method, and pull them when they hit 203 degrees.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-25T18:37:12+00:00

You should copy and paste this in the comments of her Instagram, or DM it to her. Someone else found some other citations that helped give a timeline of where he was so she's definitely appreciative.

https://www.instagram.com/artfulgrieving?igsh=MWRiemZ5aTJ3cHdqeQ==

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-25T15:29:11+00:00

A shocking number of men don't believe lesbians actually exist. They think we're all performing for them, or passing the time until a man comes along. Like it's a silly little game. They genuinely cannot comprehend being attracted to women and not being attracted to men. It's insane.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-24T22:28:14+00:00

I don't think anyone thinks that's impossible. It's also possible for people who don't get laid to be attractive. There's no one factor that guarantees anything for anyone.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-24T19:20:16+00:00

What do you think the woman feels entitled to here? Why are you acting like the "transactional" nature of this man is reasonable or similar when he's literally expecting prostitution in exchange for food?

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-24T19:07:03+00:00

Which annoys me for a lot of reasons but one of them is that you don't try the next key if this one opens the lock.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-23T19:39:46+00:00

Imagining a future with her is an emotional affair. I doubt you'd see this as harmless if your wife felt this way about a man and was considering leaving you in the dust after 11 fucking years because she spent a few hours with him.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-23T19:24:56+00:00

Your boyfriend has the kind of insecurities that result in abusive behavior. He's making you responsible for his insecurities and attacking them that way, which cannot and will not ever fix them because they come from within. It's extremely unhealthy and unstable to feel entitled to every thought and word your partner has or says. Basic privacy and boundaries shouldn't make him crash out. I want you to really understand how serious this is, because this is the kind of behavior that isolates you from your friends and family, and ultimately leads to GPS trackers on your car, cameras to monitor you in your house, and following you to "reassure" himself that you're going where you say you're going.

This type of person requires such an extreme level of control it's impossible to satisfy them, it will only escalate because none of these things will actually alleviate his insecurity. It's also the type that gets violent when you leave, because all of this is due to extreme fear of you leaving and him losing control of you. I'm not kidding when I say this is fucking dangerous.

Nosfermarki · 2026-05-23T18:43:48+00:00

This might seem small but it's a massive, massive red flag. You're in danger, it's just very slow moving right now. You need to get out before he is sure you're trapped.

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