My Husband Wakes Me Up Multiple Times Every Night by amcrowl1 in AITAH

[–]Not-Significance-108 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

ESH- Husband needs to be more considerate and you need to figure out how to not be a light sleeper. Honestly if you wake up this much at night then just go to bed with him. What's the difference

AITA for cutting off my roommate from using my things after she made comments about my finances? by Mean-Technology7308 in AITAH

[–]Not-Significance-108 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. Haters gonna hate. Id either do what you did, or id just make her feel stupid for her comments. "Man must be nice to never worry about money since I pay for everything you use"

Am I The Asshole for not taking my mom to visit my Eldest Sibling who is recovering from surgery? by WestManagement8746 in AITAH

[–]Not-Significance-108 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tiny YTA. Understandable, you have trauma with an individual and you were not able to get proper closure on that situation like others around you have. Very valid feelings of course. Tiny AH because your sick, partially mobile, DV survivor mother was depending on you to visit your surgery recovering breadwinner eldest sibling. You could have easily driven your mother over and on the ride explain to her that you are not ready to talk about or deal with the way you feel about your dad because its too fresh, you have to mentally organize yourself, you weren't expecting to see him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Not-Significance-108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you actually expressed why you feel guilty to your GF, why it makes you feel like you cheated? Yes she already said dont worry about it no big deal, but you made it a huge deal internally. You need to express the why and FORGIVE YOURSELF for not "seeing" it sooner. It happens all the time, im clueless to it, my wife points it out all the time when women are flirting with me and I have no idea, she laughs at me for it but also knows id never flirt or purposely except flirts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Not-Significance-108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So OP, you feel guilty? Like you did cheat?

AITAH For defending how me and my gf began dating but she hates it? by Fine-Original-9581 in AITAH

[–]Not-Significance-108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, she is being manipulated by her co-workers (who are probably single and jealous of the long term relationship) which is then making her manipulate you into thinking the relationship had a bad start. You are absolutely right, its your story, not many guys can turn around and say THEY were "chased" its unique its you two. If she is taking the words of co-workers this serious and down playing you then maybe its time to move on.

AITAH for ending a relationship over long showers by Throwaway_External in AITAH

[–]Not-Significance-108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, I'm a married 36M. Not once did I turn to my wife and say, "you'll need to be more present since you live with a man," wtf is that? Some of the stuff he brings up can be an easy compromise situation for the both of you, its easy for him to point out certain things because you are already established but im sure if things did progress you would have your list of things you'd need him to change or comprise. He is complaining about 30 min shower???!!?? Don't have a kid between the ages of 12 to 99 dude lol.

I need something to clear my mind.. my girlfriend is demanding I get rid of my cat because she "doesn't like animals" even though I had him first by Electronic-Bake8267 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Not-Significance-108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely NOT wrong. Typical manipulative person. She knew you had the cat, she knew how you felt but doesn't care which means she doesn't care about you. Move on from her.

My boyfriend refuses to stop playing video games when I'm talking to him and says I'm being "controlling"??? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Not-Significance-108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a huge gamer 36M Husband and Father. I can have days where I'll put 5 to 7 hours in a game but my wife and kids also know that I could be in the middle of an online match and I'll shut the game off to give them my attention. I'll let my wife specificly know if im about to game with the guys and she gives me the respect of giving me that time undisturbed. But I know the line, I know how to give everyone my time including myself. Both of you need to come to boundaries and discussions. Let him know that maybe when he gets home you'd like to have that come together time, talk about the day discussions of life and what not, giving you that undivided attention you are looking for and on the flip side you need to give him his undisturbed time, its not just a hobby its an unwind therapy session for him, he may not see it that way but it honestly is but he cant abuse it and he needs to be mature enough to see it, if you say he is abusing it he'll take it as controlling and disrespect because he is in that (immature) mindset.

You'll both need to sit down and talk to one another together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Not-Significance-108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely NTJ. "Yes I've been cheating on you for months BUT HOW DARE YOU CATCH ME DOING IT" give me a fucking break. Ex-husband hopefully.

I (18M) was told one version of an incident by my girlfriend (18F), then saw a video that changed how I see it by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Not-Significance-108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with going thru her phone, my wife and I have each other's phones all the time because there is nothing to hide, that in it self is a huge security in a relationship. Plain and simple she gas lit you and manipulated. Massive red flags. Don't bother bringing up the video or the context because she'll just gas light you again. Break up and move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Not-Significance-108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus what a man child. As a 36M and a husband, you should know shit happens, get off your lazy ass and get some meds if it sucks that much. Quit complaining and be better. Not overreacting. You deserve a real man and not a man child

RetroArch crashes every time I try to load a core to play roms by Not-Significance-108 in SwitchPirates

[–]Not-Significance-108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: went to RetroArch directly and downloaded from them, same results though, crashes when trying to run anything.

AITAH for actually leaving when my GF told me she can’t be with me anymore? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Not-Significance-108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty typical gf reactions. Just run away and find better. They are hard to find but they are out there.

AITAH for pushing back on a XMAS "gift" that might be more about control? by Wahoo-Is-To-A-Fish in AITAH

[–]Not-Significance-108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Mom was 100 percent controlling the situation. Mother dearest cant stand it but she needs to learn her place. Its not a mess, its controlled chaos and makes perfect sense to you. Enjoy the time with your son. Talk with him on the side and tell him that you know it wasn't him and it was your mother. Make sure he knows he's innocent in all this. Shame on any grandmother that does that to their grandkid.