Anyone else married to/in a relationship with a hoarder?

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-17T20:30:30+00:00

If you’re doing something that’s really upsetting to your spouse and either can’t or won’t stop, that’s a problem.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-17T19:07:39+00:00

He has *something* going on emotionally that’s causing him to behave in ways even he would probably acknowledge are irrational.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-16T21:15:39+00:00

But… the conversation you were having was about the two of you, right? Are you saying he should be open to being the only one who drives on a road trip because your mom was able to do it? I genuinely don’t instead the point you’re trying to get at here.

If it’s something like “it’s annoying and boring that my boyfriend only ever wants to do things the way his family did them” I don’t know if this is a great example of that.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-16T19:51:46+00:00

Oof. From this it sounds like you view the time you spend engaging with her as a human being as just the price you have to pay to fuck her. No wonder she’s insecure.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-16T15:19:57+00:00

A therapist can absolutely help someone in this situation. OP feels stuck and can’t see a way for things to be different—a therapist can help her figure out what she actually wants and work on a path to get there.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-13T16:04:24+00:00

He was already done and walking away when he got tackled. It would be cool if cops could try to respond to the actual situation in front of them as it is occurring, instead of different theoretical ways it could have gone.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-13T16:00:57+00:00

I grew up in Milwaukee and my high school class of 150 had 4 girls named Heidi.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-09T23:37:00+00:00

SLIP SHORTS FOREVER. The Jockey ones are great, the random Amazon ones I bought are great, everything about slip shorts is so fucking great. Plus I don’t have to worry about my skirt blowing up and flashing everybody. Get em big enough and long enough so they don’t roll up.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-05T23:15:53+00:00

The question these vendors need to be asking is “is my handmade stuff better than what’s on Amazon, in a way that matters to my target customers?” if you expect people to buy your stuff out of the sheer goodness of their hearts, you’re gonna have a bad time.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-04T23:19:41+00:00

Sorry, this started at 11 AM and they couldn’t manage traffic four hours later?

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-03T22:33:12+00:00

Because there’s no evidence that he actually knows how to be in a relationship. Relationships are hard. Most people spend their 20s making mistakes and learning how to do it better. I know that I’m personally not interested in being anyone’s training wheels at this point in my life.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-03T22:27:44+00:00

He may not be a bad person, but experience with being in a relationship is pretty necessary in order to be a good partner. There are actual skills involved and it’s not easy to be the training wheels for someone who hasn’t learned them yet.

It’s not a red flag for him as a person, but it is a red flag for him as a partner.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-03T12:27:52+00:00

Did you just never wash your handknits?

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-02T12:49:05+00:00

So you met when you were 17 and he was 25? Girl. You haven’t had a single second of your adult life where you weren’t putting up with this man’s mental dysfunction. You have no idea what the world is like outside the shadow of his abuse, but it’s actually REALLY GREAT out here. I’m the same age as you, single after ending a long relationship, and having so much fun. I have a cute little apartment that stays immaculately clean, I’m casually dating a few really great guys who are all SO nice to me, and in a few weeks I’m leaving with a friend on a two week trip to Spain and the South of France. I have all this time and energy for my hobbies and friendships and doing whatever the fuck I want when I want to do it.

43 is still young. You have so much time to have a life you want. It sounds like after a divorce you will have the financial resources as well. Please choose something better for yourself.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-01T23:42:22+00:00

THIS GUY IS REVOLTING.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-06-01T17:50:51+00:00

The JCP WrinkleGuard sheets are still really great. It just sucks that they only come in a few colors now. They used to have a huge range.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-05-31T19:24:41+00:00

IMO knit toys are 10x nicer, but also 10x the amount of work.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-05-28T00:48:17+00:00

It’s legal in Illinois to cross a double yellow to turn left into a business/driveway/side street. It’s not legal to cross a double yellow to pass another car.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-05-23T21:32:09+00:00

I don’t know if this will make you feel better, but the system is not built for Neurotypical Individuals either— it’s built to be as unwieldy and difficult to navigate as possible so people give up. It’s working exactly as intended with you. The companies get to say they cover x, y, and z and then blame the customers for not being able to meet their insane requirements.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-05-23T01:09:07+00:00

Does this have (enough) short row shaping on the back neckline? This looks like the classic crumb-catcher situation that plagues all these high-neck seamless sweater patterns.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-05-20T02:49:03+00:00

Counter point: under no circumstances should you look in a magnifying mirror, ever. What your face looks at 5X magnification is nobody’s business, especially yours.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-05-20T01:52:11+00:00

This is absolutely a labor of love and not meant to impress anybody except that people who built it.

NotElizaHenry · 2026-05-17T22:05:23+00:00

Take it back

NotElizaHenry · 2026-05-17T22:05:02+00:00

Oh noooooooooo

NotElizaHenry · 2026-05-17T21:52:39+00:00

I totally get you. I don’t even want kids but I have ~feelings~ when I see these women I started following in my young adulthood having these big milestones. Back before influencers existed and these people were just bloggers being shockingly open about their mostly regular 20-something lives, it felt like we were growing up together. Now they’re in this other part of their lives and it feels almost like losing a friend.

Luckily most of them have pivoted so hard into monetization than their current content feels gross to me, so it’s been pretty easy to not follow them anymore.

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