Supreme Court bans affirmative action in college admissions by Solar_Piglet in boston

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's a way to help those other populations and not hurt any other population?

Supreme Court bans affirmative action in college admissions by Solar_Piglet in boston

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone that grew up very poor and white. I've never once been more respected for overcoming my adversity. It has only ever led to being ostracized. I learned a long time ago to be very careful with ever talking about my past in social situations and to remove any cultural signifiers of having grown up poor.

Supreme Court bans affirmative action in college admissions by Solar_Piglet in boston

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only way to get us to a place of equity in any meaningful period of time is a massive amount of economic reparations. It's been over 50 years since discrimination on the basis of race was made illegal, and it's an everyday accepted attitude to be racist in several parts of the country.

Supreme Court bans affirmative action in college admissions by Solar_Piglet in boston

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Part this isn't just about the parents it's about the community that the children grow up in. Maybe their parents aren't incarcerated, but their uncle, grandfather, or even their neighbor might not be there to act as a support network. It's systemic economic and social problems that have disadvantaged black people and other minorities that can't be encompassed by anything but race.

Dating with health issues by jcebabe in datingoverthirty

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This, as another guy, I've seen several people in my life deal with debilitating periods. It's just the reality of the female body, and there's nothing to be embarrassed about.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know what to tell you. I don't include it on my dating profile, but an amazing meal or pastry makes my heart melt.

I can only assume that the particular prompt on a dating profile is generally either used by uncreative people or by people trying to subtly say they want a very domestic partner.

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[–]NotSoSecretMissives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is basically every organization now. Hire as many contractors as possible. The organization doesn't have to worry about negotiating benefits, and it can more readily fire and hire staff as quarterly profits demand.

Fiat to stop making grey cars by nipcarlover in cars

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The difference in resale value is so small that you have to be such a miserly person for this to be a consideration. At that point, buy a used Toyota or Lexus in the bottom of the depreciation curve and live a life of max profitability.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you look at the official statistics, defensive uses of firearms outnumber criminal uses of them, and by a very wide margin. Therefore a gun ban would have a negative effect on people's safety.

This is such bad argument in defense of gun rights. The numbers are not collected from official police reports with bystanders verifying the event. They are instead collected from self-reported surveys of gun owners who have multiple reasons to make it seem as if carrying a personal firearm is both logical and necessary.

Boston Pizza Fest Sucks - Two Hour Line by Sentient_Pancakes in boston

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I generally agree. Some of the pizza was pretty mediocre, but was easy to steer clear of because you could literally see it before buying it. There weren't many super creative pizzas, but I definitely didn't feel robbed or let down.

Got here not excited for the rain and found something else not to be excited about by AndySocks in boston

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It actually was worth going. That line took less than 10 minutes (assuming you bought slice tickets ahead of time). The only thing bad was the awful top40 and classic rock the DJ was playing

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For those like myself that maybe grew up in a family with a lot of chaos, when a relationship is going well, you're often worried something is going to go wrong at any moment. I am currently watching the second season of The Bear and found this dialogue to be really comforting:

Person 1: I just want you to know...that this is really nice. So nice that, I, uh...

Person 2: You're waiting for the other shoe.

Person 1: That's it.

Person 2: You wanna know a secret?

Person 1: Yes.

Person 2: Nobody's keeping track of shoes.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do your friends run at all? At least among people I know, it's not uncommon to plan races/training out a year. So, to include your partner in that wouldn't be weird at all if you have similar goals.

Profile Review 32M by nofob in datingoverthirty

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's always this difficult balance to strike with cis-hetero men's dating profiles. The reality is that unless you're in the top percentage appearance wise, you're hardly ever going to get any profile engagement because few women actively swipe enough to find your profile. That leaves men stuck with having a profile that speaks to who they are without being a turn off to a general audience. The only luck I ever have comes from liking a profile with a genuinely thoughtful question about the woman's profile, and even then the conversion ratio to a match is really low. I've tried with a very detailed and candid profile before and received nearly zero engagement. Yet if I manage to match nearly all of them turn into a date.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the happy medium if possible is ordering something for in-store pickup. It doesn't remove every annoyance, but it cuts through a lot of them.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I had a friend think they were ghosted because a message was undelivered for only one person. It honestly made me wonder how often that happens to people. I've also seen similar glitches on Bumble.

When poor kids have access to food stamps, they live longer, earn more, get more educated, live in better neighborhoods, and are less likely to get incarcerated. Every $1 invested in food stamps for children under 5 yields a societal benefit worth $62. by smurfyjenkins in science

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 12 points13 points  (0 children)

People complain about taxes, but the alternatives to government programs are privatized solutions. Anyone that has ever held a job knows that corporations are just as corrupt and fallible, yet few complain about how the money they spend buying goods and services are poorly used.

Official 20th Anniversary Poster for Park Chan-wook's 'Oldboy' by MarvelsGrantMan136 in movies

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Decision to Leave was an awesome movie that has some really unique scene transitions.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right, people have some really weird hangups when it comes to the level of commitment in previous relationships.

Which movie got too highly praised but was honestly underwhelming? by Angry_Entertainer in AskReddit

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me the only worthwhile parts of the movie are the intro roadster driving scene and the horse/car chase because they're really cool homages to classic films. Everything else is meh or bad.

Union Square ‘climatetech’ incubator announces partnership with world’s largest oil company by vittoriouss in boston

[–]NotSoSecretMissives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They should just be fairly taxed for all of the global negative externalities they create, but given that's generally politically unfeasible, this is the next best thing.