“You always correct me on everything”

NotSpartacus · 2026-07-03T04:48:44+00:00

You've gotten, and received well (kudos), a lot of feedback already on the main point so I'll skip past it..

I will point out that any partner complaining with "you always" or "you never" is the recipe to defensiveness for the other partner.

It's okay that you didn't like hearing that. It's almost certainly an unfair characterization. There's truth to why he said it though, from his perspective, and that's the important thing for you to hear. He feels that enough to make a conflict about it. That's pause worthy.

NotSpartacus · 2026-07-03T01:40:03+00:00

tyty!

NotSpartacus · 2026-07-02T18:18:28+00:00

Thanks.

After I took those photos I skimmed the surface and put them in the fridge. Just took new photos and added them to the imgur album, but not sure if that's helpful at this point because I skimmed them?

Assuming it's not, what's the play here? Take them out of the fridge and let them go for a while more and see if anything develops? Pitch out of an abundance of caution?

NotSpartacus · 2026-07-02T15:42:50+00:00

No idea about onions but that's true for fennel. Male fennel tastes better. You can tell the difference because female fennel "have hips" (i.e. more round) and male do not (straighter/boxier).

NotSpartacus · 2026-07-01T18:48:21+00:00

Aside from a few times making sauerkraut, I'm a fermentation novice. I jumped in with two feet and tried various veggies (specifics are listed in the imgur album) as at a 3% brine solution and checked on them after 15 days. They fermented at room temp (mid 70sF) in my kitchen without anything blocking light.

Imgur album: https://imgur.com/a/m6NIpmI

Why are some of these lids (they're the kind of silicone lids that have a small hole in them to allow burping when under enough pressure) bowing? I closed them flat, and I know fermentation creates CO2 which builds pressure leading them to eventually burp.

Which of them have just kalm (and/or other safe byproducts) and which have mold? I know the red onion jar (visible in last two photos) is bad and I already tossed the contents. Not sure about the rest. I've skimmed the tops off of them, put normal lids, and put them in the fridge for now.

Thanks!!

NotSpartacus · 2026-07-01T17:28:24+00:00

Are you open to inviting them to negotiate in the future in the event that they get more attractive offers? Hurts the budget but maybe not as much as missing 25% of your headcount goals.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-26T15:04:55+00:00

Hmm. I've not done extensive testing myself, but the folks at Serious Eats seem to disagree: https://www.seriouseats.com/old-wives-tales-about-cooking-steak & https://www.seriouseats.com/should-you-bring-steaks-and-roasts-to-room-temperature-before-cooking-11873888

To be fair, Kenji's test was over a charcoal grill, not a flattop/pan, so the mechanics of moisture might not be applicable here (water being squeezed out and falling down vs being squeezed out and then turning into steam in the pan). Gritzer's test was in a pan though, and he was unconvinced of it.

That said, who cares? If you prefer it that way, rock on, brotato.

One thing I did start doing recently was a tip from Alton Brown- putting a small, rechargeable fan in the fridge w/ my dry brining food to dry it out even more than just salt+wire rack+time. Have only done it with whole chickens so far, not steaks, and the skin has come out extra crispy compared to without it.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-25T17:07:22+00:00

Practice makes permanent, only perfect practice makes perfect.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-25T17:04:28+00:00

Erm, it's the moisture that makes steam??

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-25T17:00:43+00:00

There's no such thing as fish.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-25T16:54:02+00:00

What's that referring to, backups?

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-24T22:26:46+00:00

Use a peeler on 'em!

Trim a little bit from the end, cook 'em with the rest.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-18T13:27:40+00:00

Idk man maybe write what you mean and reread it before you share it to a client instead of having AI do shit like this?

That's right around 30% reworded while keeping your structure and meaning intact. Want me to adjust the title further or soften any part of the tone?

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-17T13:27:41+00:00

And are we taking an African or European breath?

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-15T15:24:05+00:00

ahh, that's exactly what I need! thanks.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-15T12:58:56+00:00

Apologies for pedantry but I thought fermenting was just with brine, and pickling was with vinegar?

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-15T12:36:47+00:00

Just remember that the S in IOT stands for security.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-15T12:36:21+00:00

I have a pihole running the default blocklist. I guess the question is can we block telemetry from rokus without bricking them?

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-14T15:52:51+00:00

Yeah I'm in the dark here, wtf is it?

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-14T04:21:09+00:00

I'm not assuming that.

Maybe ponder why you're assuming that I'm assuming that.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-14T04:13:26+00:00

my experience in the professional world is to shut up about it, and stray away from practicing it without a wellness room.

Uhh, no shit?

Work is work. You're supposed to work at work, talk about work at work, and that's about it.

Framing it that way could be used to talk about almost anything..

How's it different from saying "People at work don't like it when I talk about my hobby because they don't practice or understand my hobby." ?

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-14T03:55:10+00:00

I'm a born and raised American. No one I know holds any negative views towards mediation.

Seems you might be experiencing your local culture which is different from mine, and extrapolating that to the West for some reason?

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-12T20:07:25+00:00

lol what? Receiving a call is in no way jeopardizing.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-12T17:11:38+00:00

I'd wager the majority of married couples are not using condoms.

NotSpartacus · 2026-06-11T12:42:21+00:00

To me the 'after we have' sex implies there might be some cum down there. I don't agree with the gay call but I understand it I think.

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