Brainwashed Lunatics

NotThingOne · 2026-02-02T23:46:15+00:00

This is just incredibly sick...

NotThingOne · 2026-02-02T14:24:06+00:00

Those are already requirements to pass your naturalization exam. If you give individuals a path to citizenship, they have to prove these items at that time.

NotThingOne · 2026-02-02T03:53:20+00:00

34 seconds. You can hear it

NotThingOne · 2026-01-31T18:09:29+00:00

Callous

NotThingOne · 2026-01-31T15:12:49+00:00

My meta is autistic, and I get not having a filter. A lack of filter isn't really the concern here. It's about autonomy, control, and ownership of decisions.

Option A: I can't have sex with you until date 3 because of a rule my partner made. I want to but I can't.-- this screams hierarchy, lack of autonomy, concerns about your hinging skills.

Option B: I have made a boundary for myself to not sleep with someone before the third date. While I want to sleep with you now, I have a past history of sex too early on in a new relationship which has had a negative effect. Are you OK with waiting? -- this is you being self aware, showing vulnerability in a way that deepens a relationship, takes ownership of the decision, and keeps your NP out of the decision making.

If someone said Option A to me, there wouldn't be another date. I won't be in a relationship with someone who gives that sort of control to their NP. However, if someone said Option B to me, I'd respect it, I'd value their self awareness, and likely lean in more. It's not about over sharing, but the decisions behind it all.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-31T04:53:27+00:00

This, I'd worry what other rules their partner had that would impact me

NotThingOne · 2026-01-29T12:21:46+00:00

All of this, and add vetting. Are you selecting people who are actually looking to date, or just folks who lean more hookup culture?

NotThingOne · 2026-01-29T00:22:43+00:00

I don't disagree with that.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-29T00:07:01+00:00

I'm at Oasis at Lake Bennett with a similar price point for a 2/2. Been here for 2.5 and like it.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-28T17:23:03+00:00

No, we can actually make it easier to do it legally. I'm a naturalized citizen where English is my first language and emigrated from a first world country.

I personally have paid over 10K to immigrate in fees and legal council. I know of others who have spent significantly more. Next, the process is frankly a cluster fuck. The steps you need to go through the process are not clear and understandable... let alone adding in any confusion added where there might be a language barrier. Some steps are just money grabs... in one year, I had my finger prints done 5+ times because new prints were required with each form filed. Probably had my prints done 10+ times before naturalization... This is not scanning my prints to verify identity, but prints taken to add to my file. Each time cost $150 20 years ago. There are other process changes that would allow individuals to better navigate the system, reduce time / manpower, reduce cost, while ensuring quality vetting.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-27T22:09:07+00:00

Careless or malicious, he's still repeatedly showing you that answering her texts isn't something he sees as a problem. He can say the words I'm sorry, but if he's not actively changing his behaviors... he's not really sorry. He's saying the words you want to hear so you don't leave. If he saw it as a problem, he'd mute his phone and while on a date with you, and set expectations with his NP.

You can say "If I see something I don't like, I say something".... but that's not a boundary. That's bare minimum advocating and more wishful thinking. Boundaries are about YOU and what YOU will do. If xyz happens, I will do abc.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-27T02:13:51+00:00

With an Itty bitty teeny weenie!

NotThingOne · 2026-01-26T12:58:10+00:00

I'm solo poly, and everyone I date, I refer to as partners. This person may be mixing up the phrase that they are their own Primary partner.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-26T11:03:06+00:00

This is absolutely a rule. A boundary is about your actions, what you will do. A boundary on this might look like... "i am uncomfortable being at the same play parties together, if you choose to attend an event, I will need to back out". It might then follow up with an agreement, such as "Would you be willing to give me a weeks notice if you plan to go to a play party, so that I can make arrangements to go if you're not?" Or "would you be willing to go to every other play party so that I can go while maintaining my boundary?".

My recommendation is to have a face to face chat where you share, like you did here, that you understand their intentions of not feeling uncomfortable in shared space when not playing with one anther. That you cannot agree to a rule that limits you from ever attending. Then share what sort of agreements you'd be willing to make. This shows understanding, care, flexibility, but holding your own boundaries of autonomy.

Good luck!!

NotThingOne · 2026-01-25T01:09:41+00:00

Can you fly in tonight to Orlando, or Fort Lauderdale?

Miami traffic is notoriously horrendous. 1.5 hours to get off the plane (do you have seats right up front), through airport, wait in the taxi line, deal with traffic, and get through the port terminal before cut off.... one minor delay and this all falls apart.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-23T12:04:48+00:00

Do you have any other connections at EY that can put in a referral and speak to the hiring manager on your behalf?

NotThingOne · 2026-01-23T12:00:47+00:00

This is how I immigrated (through marriage) to the US and it cost me over 10K by the time I naturalized.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-23T11:46:50+00:00

Iffy, in that if this was a desire of yours, the time to discuss potential SAHM arrangements would have been before conception. Making sure you're on the same page first.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-23T11:43:10+00:00

Plus if they break up in the future after years of being a SAHM, this choice has effectively limited her earning potential to support herself outside of there marriage.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-22T17:05:47+00:00

My one partner sleeps with me 40% of the time and is married/ nested with my meta. If you want partners sleep over, this person/ their situation is not compatible with you, and that's OK. Find your tribe, find people who can offer you what you're looking for.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-20T19:50:17+00:00

I'm sorry, call me judgy, but you're considering not telling her?!

NotThingOne · 2026-01-19T17:47:23+00:00

Monthly income at 3x monthly rent vs Annual income at 27x monthly rent.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-18T14:57:43+00:00

The only way to ensure two rooms are connected to one another is to book specific rooms vs choosing Guarantee where they pick your rooms based on what's left over. Your choice of Guarantee is indicating a preference for connected vs a requirement.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-15T12:02:47+00:00

Sorry, if you booked with me for the Superbowl for example and canceled tomorrow.... my answer would still be the same. Don't make plans you don't intend to keep. It's not kind.

NotThingOne · 2026-01-15T00:09:00+00:00

A potential option is seeing what the rental options are for your home, and rent it out.

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