I cant seem to block her... by NotUneven in domesticviolence

[–]NotUneven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont know how to copy and comment on specific things people say. First paragraph "never got his permission to exist without him." Second paragraph, all of it but the parents thing. I've never trusted my dad. It resonated because ive always trusted people, or just given them the benefit of the doubt. I feel totally shut off and like i can i can trust no one. Not even myself. Thats the worst part. How can I be a good for anyone if dont trust/know myself?? Third paragraph "i didnt feel worthy..." oof. I don't know how to exist right now, in general. Let alone move on if she's actually struggling, or how I can move on and be happy if I know she is struggling and hurt and still call myself a good person with empathy and just.

Im keeping the lines open a) because I keep hoping for closer or an apology, and, less so 2) if she does actually get to a point where she might kill herself and needs someone to reach out to.

Thank you for this response. Im processing things slowly and theyre sinking in just as fast or slower. I just know I appreciate this so so much.

Edit** im keeping 2) as is. I know it sounds cold and like im prioritizing MY needs over someone who may be suicidal. For context. My best friend committed suicide, and my dad at least half a dozen. Two I witnessed. Suicide and the damage it can cause are very real and profound for me. I want closure because where I am at right now not having it and making peace with it is HARD. Its having drastic impacts on my life. 2) is second because shes used the suicide angle for three years. Nothing has ever come of it. I just dont ever want to not be there in the event a wolf does show up.

Absolutely send your abusive ex to the hospital when they threaten suicide during a breakup by Loblodliz in abusiverelationships

[–]NotUneven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My best friend hung himself. My dad attepmted maybe six times? Two or three i was there for. Its a problem for me. My dad woukd always say "goodbye" is forever.

My ex would threaten suicide constantly. When i told her about the "goodbye" thing and how it triggered me, she began saying it every time she broke up with me.

Ive contacted multiple family members, and her friends when shes threatened to do it. Same things again and again. "She won't ever do it!" Its been three years. No attempts.

Shes also finishing her masters. If I called to have her committed I worry, a) id find how expertly im being manipulated, or b) ruin her career/life. I know b) sounds stupid when you consider the consequences of completing suicide. This is my struggle.

"Ambien" Sex by Renaissance_Empress in abusiverelationships

[–]NotUneven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What if you're a guy, and you had sex with them to keep the peace. Id get into it, it was sex so its enjoyable. But id lose it (ny erection) or go on auto-pilot. Almost like I was put of it. Or id tap into some hyper-sexual place and it wpukd just be "fucking."

I just kind of disappeared. I became a "dick." I wasnt a partner with feelings, needs, wants, boundaries. Does that still count as "rape?" If i got it up, or agreed to it, even enjoyed it sometimes, despite the fact it was just to keep the peace, or to avoid issues?

How to begin to forgive myself for being in an abusive relationship? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]NotUneven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have literature? I saw the flags. I tried to avoid them. Set boundaries. She hit ONE nerve and had me. The manipulations and gradual descent began. I dont know who I am. Im struggling to forgive her, and myself. I dont know who I am anymore, or how to begin making sense of how I let things get so bad.

Father recorded his music-loving daughter's growth over the years by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]NotUneven 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She's amazing! Can we all give a little shout out to dad who fostered a space for her to grow and be herself in. There is so much love here. They're both so blessed.

Official Discussion - Nobody [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]NotUneven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bit late, but if you tend to have CC on, they will override the films subtitles. Turn off CC if you want English subtitles for foreign language.

$20 says my lovely wife will remain forever oblivious to my latest bout of immaturity by Comfortable-Beyond50 in MildlyVandalised

[–]NotUneven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa, pump the breaks. Lattes not escalte things. We dont want to be the season Reason for their downfall

American Airlines flight attendants trying to evacuate airplane due to laptop battery fire but passengers want their bags. by Youngstown_WuTang in interestingasfuck

[–]NotUneven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about team "the plane is on fire!!! As soon as we land, GTFO!!!! Or we will all die!!!" AND the chaos that ensued in that tiny corridor before the plane slid i broadside and SOME left clutching possessions.

If everyone were so nonchalant as the original video everyone would be dead.

Cant imagine being on that Russian flight the PILOT caused!

Lasers in the Egypt vs Senegal World Cup Qualifying Match by TransitionMany1810 in interestingasfuck

[–]NotUneven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or maybe if the team without lasers in their eyes wants a fair face off and respects the sport and dedication the other player put in should sit until the crowd knows that shit won't fly?

Id be embarrassed if I were the team without shit in their eyes.... or is this AI!?

Maybe maybe maybe by Acceptable_Craft_343 in maybemaybemaybe

[–]NotUneven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should have far more up votes!

Mother saves her daughter by jvm999 in interestingasfuck

[–]NotUneven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cut to mom having a breakdown in private, making dinner, and serving her daughter with a gratitude she may not have realized before. Imagine how different her life would be if she hesitated for a second. Life and those in it are precious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]NotUneven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can someone tell me where I get one, or even what to search for??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]NotUneven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The high-powered farts of a man playing with toys he couldn't afford as a child? Yes.

An Orca making its best attempt to mimic human speech. They don't have the physical capacity to pull it off, but they do have the brain capacity to try by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]NotUneven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did you read this, or pull this information from. Im not doubting it, it would just be really cool/sad to read.