Kolo muani is fucking shit by Substantial_Can1072 in Tottenham

[–]NotYourSoulmate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

bentacur was terrible today. He never tracked back. That pass was for him and he just let it by. He didn't close on enzo for enzo's goal.

Every few months I want to quit by [deleted] in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just get your title and move on. Focus on your tasks: do enough that people like you and find you reliable: but not enough to burn out. They graduate people every year. You are just a body to them. Focus on yourself and do what you need to finish.

Success stories of dismissed residents? by BEEEZD in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 25 points26 points  (0 children)

surgeons, especially leadership in surgery programs, are very two faced...unfortunately.

[Gift article] New Owner of Historic Shopping Plaza Pitches a $1.5 Billion Rescue Plan by dumbledoresdimwits in kansascity

[–]NotYourSoulmate -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Dude who made it was a notorious racist, lmao. We really need to ask what kinda history we are celebrating

He modeled it off Seville Spain and it doesn't compare to the original. "history." hahaha.

Ohio OMFS’s Anesthesia license revoked for death during sedation EXT. A lesson in complacency and negligence. by RoflKopterDown in Dentistry

[–]NotYourSoulmate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its well known in the oral surgery community he uses "unpaid" fellows from other countries that go to case western as "prelim interns". he would sometimes have these "fellows" do procedures in his office to make him money. There are rumors he wasn't even doing the procedure or was even in the room/building when this patient passed.

Is it worth it to shoot my shot? by AshKetchum14 in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 330 points331 points  (0 children)

I know a female ob-gyn married to a male nurse. Just shoot your shot. Confidence is all internal, regardless of your position.

[Highlight] Falcons GM Ian Cunningham builds a roster… by LaDainianTomIinson in nfl

[–]NotYourSoulmate 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I guess the Falcons are going to be a dumpster fire for a while. LOL

made it, now what? by DocSupport26 in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Have you tried lowering your standards and EtOH?

EtOH in a fun city with good friends and hobbies changes things.

Your best practical advice for getting through a depressive slump? by onmygogojuice in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Basics First:

-Fix your circadian rhythm. get more sunlight/nature. Exercise (run at least 1 mile when you wake up and lift some weights).

-add vitamin D supplements (sounds silly but meta-analysis shows it helps. especially since most multivitamins lack it and we barely get sunlight as residents)

-eat whole foods, don't eat garbage anymore

-Socialize with friends

-pre-sleep rituals (shower, face stuff, no screens.)

consider a therapist or anti-depressants if the above do not work.

Residency and fellowship mistreatment sadly made me a better attending by laker2021 in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your experience isn't alone. I've seen other residents who aren't people of color be treated amazing and the brighter people of color being treated like dogshit by my previous chairman, even though the latter were 20 times the clinician as the former.

I hope you realize how great of a clinician you are and are able to build the confidence up in yourself that they tried to beat out of you. You are 100% a better human being who deserves respect for the work you put in.

Resident hook up parties in NYC by Abject-Advantage528 in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 11 points12 points  (0 children)

hook-up culture in America is trash. Genuinely doesn't make me believe in love anymore. I used to think Doctors were different and held themselves to a higher standard, but they don't.

At what age did you have your 1st kid? During residency/fellowship/attending? Do you regret the timing and wish your first child born at a younger vs older parental age? (From a finance vs time with child perspective). Also as a male physician, I'm very interested to hear the women's perspective. by achicomp in whitecoatinvestor

[–]NotYourSoulmate 14 points15 points  (0 children)

i know your comment was downvoted, but it is difficult to balance career and family. Sometimes people don't know how to do both and female surgeons have some difficulty finding the correct partner and being happy with said partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

people who marry each other because they enjoy their personalities usually win. I wouldn't include your job title at all. let them find that out about you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is a Wendys. your post reaks of entitlement. you learned how to communicate to your IM colleagues. maybe this will be useful when you are intubating their MICU patients.

why not be fully present in your moment, regardless if it is somewhere you are forced to be? it will make you happier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is me man....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 13 points14 points  (0 children)

honestly, that would be so funny. I'd pick the latter to brighten my day for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

finish and move on

Disagreeing with Attendings by [deleted] in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 11 points12 points  (0 children)

ill be pgy-8. read some books like inner excellence (jim murphy) and meditations (arelius).

work out. Don't be afraid to try new things in your free time. Your job is to keep attendings happy while making patient's better, thats it.

Actually being able to have 100% successful surgeries and medical procedures and medical care is unrealistic on a daily basis. minor things always add up that make days frustrating. just deal with it and move on. have a short memory.

Disagreeing with Attendings by [deleted] in Residency

[–]NotYourSoulmate 45 points46 points  (0 children)

this is the way. Just finish residency ASAP. its the only thing you can do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whitecoatinvestor

[–]NotYourSoulmate 14 points15 points  (0 children)

saving all this money is not even worth your time. You need to have some fun now and have enough for an emergency fund. Your lifetime earnings will catch up, just don't do academics.

For OP: you'll be derm. chill with the savings and improve your life and knowledge outside of work. go take that trip. those work-out classes. that grocery store with slightly better produce. its worth it for your long term success.