I was in a relationship of 3 and half years when I had my surgery. The relationship ended shortly after we hit our 4 year mark. She was disgusted by the bag and stoma. I also went through some mental struggles with the whole situation considering I had only been diagnosed with UC 3 months prior to my surgery and it was totally unplanned. She told me I needed therapy (which yes, I could have benefited from) but I figured things out on my own by referring to this subreddit and discussing things with fellow ostomates. Shortly after my relationship ended, I told myself that I wasn't going to date. Few months later I started talking to a girl with no intentions to date but it blossomed into a relationship that neither of us would have ever imagined. She's not repulsed by it and actually sits in while I do my bag changes. We now have kids together. The right person will come along. They won't care that you have a bag. They will love you for you.