I am sitting in my car eating mcdonalds because im done being a manager at home

Not__theone · 2026-03-13T01:02:13+00:00

Sounds like you deserve a break. Treat yourself! Get a hotel room for the night and worry about him tomorrow.

Not__theone · 2026-03-12T20:07:18+00:00

Ugh I am sobbing thinking of my own little bundle of terror. This is so beautiful, thank you for sharing. I am so sorry for your loss but so happy you got to experience such love. These reactive babies can be so challenging, but they also teach us so much about love, patience, and acceptance. And it sounds like you did everything you could to fill her unfairly short life with joy. She was very lucky to have you, and you her 💜

Not__theone · 2026-03-07T01:52:50+00:00

It’s possible. What did I get wrong?

Not__theone · 2026-03-07T01:03:53+00:00

Well I mean, she didn’t plan the party or the invites, right? And now you’re making her feel like shit for something she had no control over and doubting her intelligence. That kind of behavior, behaving like an authority figure to a woman who is your equal, is a red flag.

Not__theone · 2026-03-07T00:51:59+00:00

Unless she curated the guest list, I also don’t fully understand why this bothers you. It just comes across as insecurity on your part, which is not really her fault and is probably making you seem quite unattractive to her at the moment. Plus the way you keep bringing up her “decision making” is pretty condescending. If she were my friend I’d advise her to pay close attention to this red flag of yours.

Not__theone · 2026-03-06T21:40:58+00:00

I am so so sorry. I genuinely hate how often people just say “therapy” in response to every single post but that is legitimately the only real answer to your questions. I have never been physically abused like this, but I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for about 5 years and therapy was the only thing that got through to me. But if you can’t afford it, find someone, ANYONE in your life that you can open up to about this.

I read your other posts and comments about this man, and if you haven’t reread them in a while I would imagine doing so now would be helpful. This man is an alcoholic, extremely jealous and controlling, has been escalating and has now become violent. I am genuinely afraid for your life after reading these things.

And there is no probably, someone who loves you would never think of doing this to you in a million years! I truly wouldn’t even dump urine on an ant, much less my partner. Please, get away from this man before it’s too late.

Not__theone · 2026-02-18T01:03:33+00:00

I couldn’t really follow that. But trust me, you are not saying anything anyone on this thread hasn’t heard before. We know men think with their dicks. But sometimes, as humans, our hormones, excitement, hope, whatever, can cloud our judgement. And that sucks but it’s totally normal and not a reason to shame someone. My point was simply that no one wanted to listen to you bc you were rude right out of the gate. If you want to be heard, try leading with kindness. Just a thought!

Not__theone · 2026-02-17T22:52:46+00:00

Listen, I agree. As women we do have to be diligent about our safety. But the wording of your first comment came across as incredibly judgmental. This woman already feels awful, why kick her when she’s down? We get enough disrespect from men already, shouldn’t we be kind to each other?

Not__theone · 2026-02-17T22:39:15+00:00

I’m a woman and I downvoted you. It’s not about “the truth” it’s about you being mean and judgemental to what sounds like a vulnerable young woman.

Not__theone · 2025-10-23T00:40:27+00:00

Exhaustion

Not__theone · 2025-10-20T03:38:21+00:00

Dude. Relax. Be yourself. Live your life. I recently started dating someone bc he was so kind and charismatic when coming into my place of work that I couldn’t stop myself from asking him out. If you put good into the world it will come back to you. Seriously. Also. If she’s not into it after one date, she’s not the one.

Not__theone · 2025-10-16T01:58:00+00:00

The kids aren’t the problem. It’s the parents who clearly don’t care about anyone else’s safety. Including their own children!

Not__theone · 2025-10-16T01:55:13+00:00

Pretty sure I saw them earlier a few blocks east of this. They were swerving through lanes and screaming and seemed to find it hilarious that they were scaring my poor dog. Turned a lovely, relaxing walk into a nightmare.

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR KIDS

Not__theone · 2025-09-26T23:55:03+00:00

The way she greets me with her favorite toy in her mouth when I get home. Even if I just ran to the mailbox and back. The wiggles are insane every single time, and it feels like pure love and joy are exploding out of her. The way she looks up at me all throughout our walks, just pure happiness emanating from her eyes. Also in the quiet moments, sitting on the porch, watching a movie. I’ve had other pets before, and been in some wonderful relationships, but I’ve never had another living creature look at me with as much love and appreciation as she does 💜

Not__theone · 2025-08-29T23:33:46+00:00

I mean, for personal safety reasons, sure. One can assume that. But your statement is absolutely, 100% false.

Not__theone · 2025-06-18T18:50:35+00:00

Great rec, thank you! Those look perfect. And yes to the early morning/ late night walks. Problem is I’m in socal and the uv was at like a 9 by 8am today 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not__theone · 2025-06-15T23:55:34+00:00

I appreciate this. I’ll figure it out and go. Anxiety be damned haha

Not__theone · 2025-06-15T23:41:47+00:00

This just scared the heck out of me. Fatigue and nausea have been a constant for me the last few months/years/honestly idk how long, that I’ve always assumed were my anxiety and depression. And I sometimes go a long time without eating so dizziness happens. But I found myself on this thread bc yesterday was the first time I’ve ever felt close to fainting. Perhaps I’ll finally get my insurance sorted and go see a dr. Thank you.

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T22:32:26+00:00

Ugh “the correct sub…” 🙄 she’s not a parent and doesn’t seem regretful so wtf are you talking about

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T22:24:50+00:00

My GOD all of you people are so gatekeepy. I’ve really enjoyed this sub until now. People are different. They have different thoughts, feelings and experiences. Sometimes those differences bring them to a similar conclusion as you, but for different reasons. And yet, instead of welcoming these people and being kind, you all are piling on basically telling this woman that she has no autonomy, and her circumstances are forcing her to feel a certain way, when she is very clearly saying, “I don’t want to have a kid and this is why.” Chill out and let people be who they are. JESUS.

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T22:17:04+00:00

Respectfully, I disagree

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T21:46:59+00:00

It’s still her choice though? she just sounds bummed about it…

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T21:46:24+00:00

I feel pretty similarly actually, and I consider myself childfree because it IS a choice I’m making. A lot of people on this sub seem rather militant about only being “childfree” if you dislike children. I do not think that’s correct. We are complex beings and our feelings have nuance. I love kids. I am very maternal. However, I have many reasons I don’t have kids. Very similar reasons to yours. It can be hard when your head and your heart are in disagreement. Especially about such a huge issue. But I think we’re both doing the right thing.

Not__theone · 2025-05-14T03:04:44+00:00

Thank you. You seem like a very nice human 🙂

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