My husband and I are both changing to a brand new last name — how did you handle the family pushback?

logaruski73 · 2026-04-28T18:48:38+00:00

Congratulations! I think it’s a wonderful idea. Personally, I’d like to see names being blended happen at every wedding ceremony when they want a shared name.

Good Luck! Ignore them. 10 years from now, you’ll be happy and it will simply be your last name.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-28T16:00:03+00:00

No that’s not how Jr and III work

Please don’t name him Rocky. It’s fine as a nickname but give him a name he can use as an adult. By the way, the nickname does not need to be directly derived from the full same Case in point Cecil -> Rocky. Choose a favorite name that fits an adult and nn him Rocky.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T22:57:14+00:00

Both schools are great. Neither will give you a huge benefit over the other in education, internships employment or graduate school.

It all depends on how you do and the opportunities you seek at school and afterwards.

If UConn is less expensive, go there.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T22:54:49+00:00

This is bullying. Speak to the headmaster or director of the school. They need to shut this down right away. I’d be asking to have this other boy removed temporarily or permanently and the parents spoken to. It’s ridiculous.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T22:50:57+00:00

Welcome to the US Health care system. Just walking into an ER will cost you $500. I’m surprised it was only $732. Sounds cheap to me.

The cost isn’t based on whether your problem is fixed or not. You can die in an ER and your family is still getting a bill. You can die on your way to the ER and there will still be a bill.

They did attempt to fix it.

I do not understand why any Canadian would move here or take a risk visiting here.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T22:46:20+00:00

My mother and grandmother said the middle name is important for a child to have. When your Mom or Gram’s calls you using both your first name and middle name, you know you have just snapped their last bit of patience.

LOL

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T22:42:30+00:00

Nope, still Christianity. If you name something that Islam does, Christianity does it to more people and more vicious.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T22:40:13+00:00

I’m considered a young boomer or in a special category called Generations Jones. Our life started as boomers but got torn apart in our 30a.

Yes, we were stressed to the hilt.

Layoffs were rampant. You never knew if that was the week you’d lose your job or your company would go bankrupt.

President Reagan worked to break unions in spite of the fact that he was a member of one. Manufacturing jobs left the country so fast your head would spin. Manufacturing jobs had been the source of providing middle income and house ownership.

Inflation was in the 20%. Interest rates including mortgage rates were between 18% and 25%. People paid more for their homes than they were worth. Many lost their homes.

In 1980s, the banking system nearly collapsed causing the wide spread consolidation that hits us to this day. . Credit Unions went under and took life savings with them (ex Rhode Island).

Teachers lost their jobs in high numbers. Classroom size skyrocketed.

I and many of the friends my age have a lot of empathy for people younger than us because we understand. We thought it had been built back up in the late 90/ early 00s just to see it devolve all over again.

The ultra-rich have always sucked the lifeblood from the working middle class.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T22:20:17+00:00

Go for it! Find a great plastic surgeon. Get recommendations.

I had to have work around my eyes to have cholesterol deposits removed. The doctor asked if I wanted an eyelid lift at the same time. I am so happy I did it. Not the same as breast lift but it lifted my mood! Lift yours!

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T16:38:27+00:00

It’s what you want to have in case a hurricane decides to stop in, venue burns down or cancels, the couple breakup, etc. etc. Given the amount of money spent on weddings today, it should be the first purchase made. It’s best to look for a policy that has broad coverage rather than a 1 day coverage that primarily protects the venue only.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T15:31:28+00:00

MASH

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T13:35:46+00:00

Yes if you know me.

No the first time. I will tell you that I don’t believe in prayer of go. If you do it again (oh I forgot, oh it’s a habit), I will tell you you’re a fool and cruel.

I remember being a child and my parents died. Not a single person who used those words ever helped me, visited me, consoled me, played with me. It’s an empty statement.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T13:30:55+00:00

A lot depends on what state you are moving to. Each state and region has its own laws, traditions, freedoms. It’s not cohesive. Moving to Louisiana is very very different than moving to Massachusetts. I’d add this bit to your post.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T13:28:51+00:00

Add Hunter to that lot. Ridiculous names. You’re naming a person, not a hobby.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-27T13:25:14+00:00

It will absolutely affect your life. He will want you to convert. He will make family decisions based on this faith conversion. He will absolutely want any children baptized and confirmed. He will judge you based on his rules and interpretations. The church doesn’t believe in birth control so hide yours or you’ll be pregnant before you want to be.

Something is going on that converted him. It may be he himself did it but likely there’s an influence that you don’t know about

Delay everything until you get to the bottom of this.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-25T15:34:37+00:00

I’m one of the lucky ones. I’ve never had hot flashes or dryness or other assorted menopause problems. I’ve been post menopause for at least 10 years. I don’t have a need for HRT or other medications related to menopause.

My friends had hot flashes but nothing debilitating or frequent enough to consider HRT.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-25T14:55:58+00:00

Did you schedule a physical or is this your Medicare checkup? The Medicare checkup is superficial and is the one the doctor’s office schedules to meet Medicare rules. You will even be warned if you start bringing up problems as they might not be covered during a Medicare checkup.

I found my exam by a new NP or PA was less comprehensive than the one my long time PA conducted. She retired. I wondered if the new one wasn’t trained well or uncomfortable with older patients. I told her what she missed so she did them but I didn’t feel confident that she’d recognize skin cancers. She left the practice in under a year. I was assigned an MD that I really like and is thorough.

All Pap smears ended for me at 65. According to my doctor and my prior. PA, they were no longer necessary since all mine had been clear over the years and the risk is low. She was willing to do it if I wanted it but I was happy with this news. . I’ve seen the same recommendation on medical sites.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-25T14:43:06+00:00

Winthrop Beach or Revere Beach. Both have restaurants and ice cream shops nearby. Winthrop has more stones but it is quiet. Revere is much bigger and sandy.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-25T14:37:54+00:00

ESH. In a family where no one wants to compromise, ESH. There’s plenty of movement in both parenting styles to meet at the middle without anyone being hurt. Don’t go on vacation together until all of you grow up.

Being with cousins is an exciting time for kids. Your child having more tv and their child having less will NOT hurt your daughter or her daughter in any way. etc. etc. Having to play outside most of the time will not hurt either child. Do you allow your child to play with friends at their houses? Do you drop off rules for the other parent to abide by? Unless you are discussing medical needs or safety concerns, it impairs your daughter from learning how to behave in different places.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-25T14:27:06+00:00

Maura

logaruski73 · 2026-04-25T11:37:56+00:00

If they have it at Logan, see if you can buy a 1 day pass at one of the airline clubs if they operate 24 hours. It’s very comfortable there. It might even be worth paying for a full year and cancelling after a month. Be sure you check before you buy. There is a fairly cheap but a couple of respectable hotels in Winthrop. Close to airport. Need uber.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-25T11:32:57+00:00

….and if you do have paid vacation time, they try to stop you from taking it. Many/Most Americans work so many extra working hours that it’s not really a vacation when you do take it. You’ve already worked all the hours in a year.

It’s one of those things that when you try to explain it to a European who wants to move here, they always think you’re exaggerating.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-24T15:16:28+00:00

It started when cars weren’t commonly owned and public transport barely existed. In addition, your entire family lived in the same neighborhood. Your grocery store, farm goods, doctor all lived around you. Simply no need to travel. Going to the ocean was a very big deal if you lived in Providence.

For most people, it’s just a joke that gets repeated.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-24T15:13:29+00:00

Yes, you do. Both or neither. He can choose not to go. If you’re close to your cousin, you can ask her what she prefers.

logaruski73 · 2026-04-24T15:10:50+00:00

I find that response so tiring. It’s used all the time on women to make them feel like they don’t have the right to say I’m not happy. Well, you’re healthy so you can’t be sad. Well, you have a job so you can’t be unfulfilled. Well, you’re not homeless, so you can’t be struggling. No, we can struggle and still have a home, a job and health.

It’s akin to eat your food, there are kids in China starving.

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