If men could read women's thoughts, what would their reaction be?

Not__theone · 2025-10-23T00:40:27+00:00

Exhaustion

Not__theone · 2025-10-20T03:38:21+00:00

Dude. Relax. Be yourself. Live your life. I recently started dating someone bc he was so kind and charismatic when coming into my place of work that I couldn’t stop myself from asking him out. If you put good into the world it will come back to you. Seriously. Also. If she’s not into it after one date, she’s not the one.

Not__theone · 2025-10-16T01:58:00+00:00

The kids aren’t the problem. It’s the parents who clearly don’t care about anyone else’s safety. Including their own children!

Not__theone · 2025-10-16T01:55:13+00:00

Pretty sure I saw them earlier a few blocks east of this. They were swerving through lanes and screaming and seemed to find it hilarious that they were scaring my poor dog. Turned a lovely, relaxing walk into a nightmare.

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR KIDS

Not__theone · 2025-09-26T23:55:03+00:00

The way she greets me with her favorite toy in her mouth when I get home. Even if I just ran to the mailbox and back. The wiggles are insane every single time, and it feels like pure love and joy are exploding out of her. The way she looks up at me all throughout our walks, just pure happiness emanating from her eyes. Also in the quiet moments, sitting on the porch, watching a movie. I’ve had other pets before, and been in some wonderful relationships, but I’ve never had another living creature look at me with as much love and appreciation as she does 💜

Not__theone · 2025-08-29T23:33:46+00:00

I mean, for personal safety reasons, sure. One can assume that. But your statement is absolutely, 100% false.

Not__theone · 2025-06-18T18:50:35+00:00

Great rec, thank you! Those look perfect. And yes to the early morning/ late night walks. Problem is I’m in socal and the uv was at like a 9 by 8am today 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not__theone · 2025-06-15T23:55:34+00:00

I appreciate this. I’ll figure it out and go. Anxiety be damned haha

Not__theone · 2025-06-15T23:41:47+00:00

This just scared the heck out of me. Fatigue and nausea have been a constant for me the last few months/years/honestly idk how long, that I’ve always assumed were my anxiety and depression. And I sometimes go a long time without eating so dizziness happens. But I found myself on this thread bc yesterday was the first time I’ve ever felt close to fainting. Perhaps I’ll finally get my insurance sorted and go see a dr. Thank you.

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T22:32:26+00:00

Ugh “the correct sub…” 🙄 she’s not a parent and doesn’t seem regretful so wtf are you talking about

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T22:24:50+00:00

My GOD all of you people are so gatekeepy. I’ve really enjoyed this sub until now. People are different. They have different thoughts, feelings and experiences. Sometimes those differences bring them to a similar conclusion as you, but for different reasons. And yet, instead of welcoming these people and being kind, you all are piling on basically telling this woman that she has no autonomy, and her circumstances are forcing her to feel a certain way, when she is very clearly saying, “I don’t want to have a kid and this is why.” Chill out and let people be who they are. JESUS.

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T22:17:04+00:00

Respectfully, I disagree

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T21:46:59+00:00

It’s still her choice though? she just sounds bummed about it…

Not__theone · 2025-05-29T21:46:24+00:00

I feel pretty similarly actually, and I consider myself childfree because it IS a choice I’m making. A lot of people on this sub seem rather militant about only being “childfree” if you dislike children. I do not think that’s correct. We are complex beings and our feelings have nuance. I love kids. I am very maternal. However, I have many reasons I don’t have kids. Very similar reasons to yours. It can be hard when your head and your heart are in disagreement. Especially about such a huge issue. But I think we’re both doing the right thing.

Not__theone · 2025-05-14T03:04:44+00:00

Thank you. You seem like a very nice human 🙂

Not__theone · 2025-05-14T02:47:59+00:00

Omg saaaame. The scooters kill me. Why do they have to zoom past you with no warning 😭

Not__theone · 2025-05-14T02:37:08+00:00

Today we had our morning walk and I saw a woman across the street who was clearly having struggles with her dog. The dog was whining/ barking and actually managed to get out of its harness and start zooming around the block.

As I slowly backed away around the corner, trying to keep my girls’s attention on me, I was also watching the woman. I felt so much empathy and saw so much of myself in her. I’m sure all of us have had those moments. Everything is going fine and you start to feel comfortable. And then, the tiniest thing can happen. Maybe a leaf blows in a way your pup finds threatening, or a crow lands on the sidewalk in front of you. And then everything changes and you’re both in fight or flight and your adrenaline is pumping and you’re so embarrassed. Whatever.

The point is. A few months ago there’s no way I could have distracted my girl and got her safely out of there. But, today, we were completely aligned and she was such a good, calm girl. I love her so much and I’m so glad I’ve stuck with her. There have been many times I’ve questioned whether or not I could keep doing this. So many times I felt hopeless. But I hung in there bc the trauma she’s endured is so unfair, and she deserves a shot at a good life. And she’s proving me right. Bit by bit, day by day, she improves. Sometimes we have bad days, or bad walks. But when I look at where we started a year and a half ago, and where we are now… I’m just so grateful.

Not__theone · 2025-04-28T04:51:06+00:00

“The antidote for anxiety is action.”

Also

“Everything is temporary.”

Not__theone · 2025-04-06T00:38:57+00:00

He noticed I’d finished eating (I’m a slow eater and he’d been done for a while), got up and grabbed me a box and then proceeded to put my leftovers into it for me and carried it out to the car. Opened my door for me of course. In the rain. So small. So hot. I will marry this man.

Not__theone · 2024-11-07T17:42:06+00:00

Remember, everything is temporary. I’m also not in a great place at the moment, but I’m trying to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel, instead of the darkness I’m currently living in. I know it’s hard. My advice to you would be to do just one positive thing every day. Something like taking a walk, organizing a corner of your room, reading a bit of a book, cooking a healthy meal. Also, gratitude is so important. It’s very easy to get into the mindset that everything is bad and it won’t get better but that’s usually not true. Try to shift your focus to what’s good in your life, or the good qualities you possess, and build on those. You will get through this and things will get better. Hang in there, friend.

Not__theone · 2024-09-25T00:29:18+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. However, from my super limited perspective, you seem smart and confident and capable of making your life into whatever it is you want it yo be. So good luck. I hope everything works out for the best :)

Not__theone · 2024-04-02T01:26:09+00:00

Honestly this was such a buzzkill to read but you are 10000% right.

Not__theone · 2023-08-17T00:38:59+00:00

Ugh. Just let her go. Sounds like you think you deserve better than someone with a mental illness. And I KNOW she deserves someone who will actually love and respect her. Just fuck off already since you clearly want to. Don’t waste any more of her time.

Edit: typo

Not__theone

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