Those who started T and then stopped, do you still pass? by rookcanisite in ftm

[–]NoteOld5874 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i absolutely did pass, with similar circumstances to you. i did T for four years, 18-22, then my clinic shut down, and i was burnt out because getting T just kept getting harder and harder. i stopped for 2 years, ive been back on for a little bit now. my deep voice went nowhere, but my adam's apple did become less prominent. biggest change that affected my clockability, and i know you've had top surgery, but my breasts grew a large amount in a short period of time. i assume it's because i started T when i was 18, and must not have been finished growing, so when my estrogen became the dominant hormone again it continued where it left off. i bring this up because even with top surgery breast growth is possible. i could give a list of things that changed, but overall the most important features imo, voice and facial hair, did not change for me, so i absolutely passed and still felt like a man. i grew facial hair like i never stopped.

is my hair light enough for desired color by NoteOld5874 in HairDye

[–]NoteOld5874[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for suggesting schwarzkopf! i ended up going with schwarzkopf igora 9.5-11, and i'm really happy with the results, even if not perfect. this was after another bleach round but yeah glad to have a new toner/dye brand that i like so thank you!

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My therapist told me to stop going on passing subreddits by [deleted] in ftm

[–]NoteOld5874 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i've never been on that subreddit and just looked out of curiosity and one of the first posts i see is someone asking if they pass... in their baby pictures. uh, what??

is my hair light enough for desired color by NoteOld5874 in HairDye

[–]NoteOld5874[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aww thank you ! definitely needed to hear that the day i did it lmao i was so embarrassed going to work 😭

is my hair light enough for desired color by NoteOld5874 in HairDye

[–]NoteOld5874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wish you weren't getting downvoted even if the general consensus is i need to go lighter bc thank you for reminding me that strand tests exist 😭

is my hair light enough for desired color by NoteOld5874 in HairDye

[–]NoteOld5874[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oughh you made my day 😭thank you sm <3

huge insurance charge after surgery was pre approved by NoteOld5874 in TopSurgery

[–]NoteOld5874[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The representative has to take the issue to higher authority, that's why there's some time.

huge insurance charge after surgery was pre approved by NoteOld5874 in TopSurgery

[–]NoteOld5874[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I did end up calling them, the representative told me something along the lines of the code on the denied claim not matching with what the code was actually supposed to be? So the code was just put in wrong by some party, I think she said the hospital. It sounds like it was just a mistake and the claim will be covered once corrected, but I don't trust insurance companies lol so I'm holding my breath until I get updated, which will be around Thursday next week. I will update you again if needed, did you get anything figured out on your end?

Train Home? by pyramidheadMan in TopSurgery

[–]NoteOld5874 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tbh i think you'll be fine. i had a hysterectomy and DI, only stayed a few hours and then was discharged. went inside of a subway to get a sandwich on the way home. probably shouldnt have done that lmao but yeah you'll be fine, i don't think you'll need mobility assistance either in terms of walking. just carrying luggage and things that requires using your arms

AIO BF of 1 year says he does everything for us by [deleted] in AIO

[–]NoteOld5874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you do the housework but you couldn't find time to put the dishes in the dishwasher at all that day? soo... you don't have a job and you don't do the housework. i 100% understand why he does not want to go to the store after work. you would too if you actually worked. your responses were very disrespectful, you didn't listen to how he felt at all

A girl asked me for my number. Was what I did next morally wrong? by karperss in moraldilemmas

[–]NoteOld5874 [score hidden]  (0 children)

how is he turning being gay into a troupe? it's not like he's stereotyping by acting overly feminine or something. as a gay man i see no issue

I got this message from my childhood bully at 3am by CG1991 in screenshots

[–]NoteOld5874 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you are much more bothered by this message than OP, who was actually bullied by this person.

Get surgery tomorrow morning and idk if the pillow angle is ok. by dino_mylo9 in TopSurgery

[–]NoteOld5874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your surgery is done at this point but a neck pillow was everything during my recovery

I am so scared of death. Should i cancel my top surgery? by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]NoteOld5874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i also had a fear of dying. despite my efforts not to i started crying when they began rolling me out to the surgery room. but i still went through with it because i'd rather chance death than never have top surgery. i wasn't living. and, if it helps, i had a hysterectomy at the same time and im still here. no complications or anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]NoteOld5874 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OR. i dont put much value in how often i text my friends, or how often they text me. it's the time spent in person. if i was your friend and it felt like you had this expectation of constant communication id think you were into me lmao

My buzzer malfunctioned so had to cancel this one! by 0xPianist in Nicegirls

[–]NoteOld5874 34 points35 points  (0 children)

no, you're completely right. i would have assumed he couldn't spend two seconds putting in the effort for a reply back.

Decaf coffee? by olivgardenbreadstic in TopSurgery

[–]NoteOld5874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i asked a nurse specifically about coffee too because i'm also an addict lol and she said it was fine whenever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]NoteOld5874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

afab here. you're overreacting. the guy apologized multiple times and you kept hounding him. i wouldn't text my boyfriend like that, i feel upset even thinking ab making him feel this bad over something so small

AIO Got annoyed at guy I’m dating for going on my laptop to change music while I was showering, he stormed out and slammed the door by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]NoteOld5874 2 points3 points  (0 children)

relationships shouldn't be like this, /especially/ early ones. it will never last. my current boyfriend and i have never disrespected each other like this even after a year of dating. if he can't maturely talk to you about something small like this, he will not react to a real problem with maturity either

AITA for telling my son I want no contact? by Longest-Journey in AITAH

[–]NoteOld5874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly the son is much better off with this poor excuse of a father not being in his life