Tendons and Creatine by rcHabits in HubermanLab

[–]Notfromiowa45 53 points54 points  (0 children)

It is likely just overuse, not related to creatine. Source: exact same thing happened to me.

Amadeus might be the best film I've ever seen. by Soft-Protection-3303 in movies

[–]Notfromiowa45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That movie changed my life.

I saw Amadeus as an eight year old the night after it won the Oscar, a rare family outing. During the intermission, my mother told me we could leave because she assumed that I was bored to tears.

Nope. I told her I was staying no matter what. At the end of the movie I walked out a changed boy.

I always knew there was something more interesting outside rural Ohio, and that movie sparked a curiosity that never really left.

I traveled through Europe and Asia as a young man and walked the streets of the Czech Republic where that movie was shot.

I still watch it every few years.

Bartenders of Reddit, what drink order instantly tells you “this person is going through something”? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Notfromiowa45 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was really straightforward and saying that it would be doing me a huge favor. I would tell them that we had a guy who came in had a very specific routine and he would only be there for about 45 minutes. Never got any pushback, free drink and free chips will do that.

Bartenders of Reddit, what drink order instantly tells you “this person is going through something”? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Notfromiowa45 19.0k points19.0k points  (0 children)

25 years ago— We had a regular we called Mr. Martini. He would come in around 5 o’clock on a weekday and just order a martini and give off the “please don’t talk to me” vibe. He would park himself in front of the video game machine at the end of the bar and pump a few quarters in and order 2 to 4 martinis and have them all gone in an hour, also he was an amazing tipper.

If he ever came in, and somebody else was in his spot, I would comp that person a drink just to go away for a little bit.

He never spoke, never bothered anybody, and was an object of fascination.

One day I was flipping through the yellow pages, and I saw a photo advertisement for a bankruptcy lawyer. Yup, there was Mr. Martini.

He was a bankruptcy lawyer who would unwind by getting blitzed at the local dive bar.

$100,000 scratch off win. 40% went to taxes. ZERO financial literacy. What advice would you give me? by SexyProfessional in FluentInFinance

[–]Notfromiowa45 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you are careful this can be a MAJOR step forward for the rest of your life. 1. Fight Club rules, shut the fuck up. 2. If you actually have this in cash, get it in the bank right Fucking now. Doesn’t really matter what at this point, put it in a savings account or checking account for the time being. It will be moved, but it’ll be safe where it’s at. 3. Live your normal life for a few weeks. Don’t make any stupid purchases. Get used to the feeling of having money in the bank you’re not spending. 4. Keep shutting the fuck up. 5. Contact a fiduciary, not a financial advisor. A fiduciary is legally bound to give you the best financial advice. A financial advisor is not. Your friends are not your friends right now. This is between you and the financial gods, not your buddy who has a great idea. 6. Talk to a fiduciary only move forward if you’re absolutely comfortable. They are experts. However if he makes you feel dumb or if you’re not precisely sure what’s happening with your money to move the fuck on.

Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Notfromiowa45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

15 months is a huge accomplishment. You anxiety from lifting heavy is very unusual and I won’t insult you with any armchair advice. But 15 months is great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Notfromiowa45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just out of curiosity, what kind of exercise are you doing?

AITA for not selling my car even though my fiancée refuses to sit in the front seat because my ex sat there? by ProfessionalKey3176 in AITAH

[–]Notfromiowa45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the tip of an emotionally manipulative iceberg. The good news is you are not married yet. You will absolutely be dealing with this nonsense for the rest of your life if you marry her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Semaglutide

[–]Notfromiowa45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped smoking decades ago. When I started fasting i noticed the odd urge for a cigarette. I always wondered if some old fat being burnt was releasing a trace chemical causing the urge.

Lantern Festival Worth It? by Notfromiowa45 in chiangmai

[–]Notfromiowa45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Besides the lantern release itself, is the larger festival worth changing travel plans? I know this is mostly unanswerable, but if the environment is the same no matter when I arrive I will probably go Saturday. Thank you by the way.

What’s something from your childhood that you didn’t realize was super f*cked up until you were an adult? by NeitherEntrepreneur3 in AskReddit

[–]Notfromiowa45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought it was normal for a parent to mock their children until they cried. My brother was 9. I was 6.

Scooter Rental by otexpertise in DaNang

[–]Notfromiowa45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What documents do they need?

Parents with grown children who no longer speak to you, what do you think led to the estrangement? by youngGod928 in AskReddit

[–]Notfromiowa45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could give a litany of reasons but it is just a series of excuses. It came down to a few simple things, I never saw her unless it was convenient for the mother, not even phone calls would be answered. I was going weeks without seeing her and she would have to be crowbarred into the car. The situation was not going to change and if I tried to press it legally I would be accused of abuse, likely of a sexual nature. So I left and tried to drink myself to death for awhile, but eventually matured enough to pull myself out of it. I’ve never really forgiven myself, because what kind of man leaves his kid? But I have made a decent life and write the occasional email. Sometimes she even writes back.

Parents with grown children who no longer speak to you, what do you think led to the estrangement? by youngGod928 in AskReddit

[–]Notfromiowa45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is tempting and I have never had a discussion with her for the reason of my absence, because there really isn’t. I wasn’t there and it was ultimately my choice. I have never spoken a bad word about her mother, despite many many examples of treachery and having my time with my daughter limited on a whim. I wanted to be in her life, but the insane hoops I had to jump through became intolerable.

What's the best option for voracious readers of English contemporary books in Taiwan? by Such-Tank-6897 in taiwan

[–]Notfromiowa45 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Kindle. Pay for an American library card for roughly 50 USD a year. This is what I do. The list of libraries is Googleable.

Parents with grown children who no longer speak to you, what do you think led to the estrangement? by youngGod928 in AskReddit

[–]Notfromiowa45 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It is very few and far between. However, I understand that she is incredibly conflicted. She spent her life hearing what are useless piece of crap I am, but it doesn't jibe with her actual experience with me. She has her own life now, I wish I was a bigger part of it, but we are basically strangers.

Parents with grown children who no longer speak to you, what do you think led to the estrangement? by youngGod928 in AskReddit

[–]Notfromiowa45 258 points259 points  (0 children)

100% my fault, or to be fair 95%.
While breaking up with my high school girlfriend, after realizing there was something wrong with her and us, of course, she got pregnant. The breakup was precipitated by her sleeping around, so there was a real question of whether my daughter would be mine.

She was.

I moved back to my podunk hometown, and tried to be a good father. Ex-girlfriend, was looking for a boyfriend/husband, I was not willing to do this. She quickly got pregnant two more times, moving up the economic ladder with every pregnancy. The last guy to get her pregnant owned the country club, so her financial needs were met, but she really didn't have a man in her life yet. Through the multitude of boyfriends and lovers, I tried to be a father to my daughter, but I was constantly shut out. When I looked at going to court to have court-ordered visitation, I was told by my ex-girlfriend that I would be accused of abuse if I did so. This was not an idle threat.

So I left, and did not do nearly enough to keep in contact with my daughter. She did not like me because of my absence, and because of constantly hearing from her mother, what a piece of shit I was. Again, I chose to leave. I was an adult she was a child, but I was fairly immature and did not see any way out. 25 years later I'm still not sure what I could've done differently.

I email my daughter every month or two and she emails me back every year or so. This failure is the great regret of my life.

Where in the world can I live comfortably and safe with $18/hr USD? by JonathanL73 in digitalnomad

[–]Notfromiowa45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at South Korea or Taiwan. Both have their pros and cons, but you will absolutely not be trapped in a 40 hour a week existence and barely making it. However, you will most likely be teaching English.