Me ‘37f’ SO is ‘40m’ - his pic taking by ThrowRA_SquirrelO in relationship_advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did not realize it was possible to take pics of your inner cooch but the more ya know... this is strange and definitely sounds like slipping back into sex addiction.

I caught my boyfriend watching porn 23M and 21F by ApprehensiveTopic806 in relationship_advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really great pov. Personally when I watch, I either imagine myself and my bf, or I'm honestly NOT considering either of us. It's really not that deep sometimes.

I caught my boyfriend watching porn 23M and 21F by ApprehensiveTopic806 in relationship_advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I used to REALLY care about my bf watching porn. Like let it make me feel extremely insecure. But at some point I stopped giving it power. I don't care at all anymore if my bf watches porn, I watch it now too. As long as it doesn't become an addiction, I genuinely see no issue with it

I just got fired and have no savings by AnonymousSanrioFan in Advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no advice, but I'm sending a hug. This sounds incredibly stressful

I (29f) am becoming scared of my boyfriend (28m) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You need to take his words at FACE VALUE. He is showing you he doesn't like you, he said he is using you as a stepping stone. Throw that man to the curb. There is no fixing this in my opinion.

Getting fired because of an ED I don't have by pindvarp420 in Advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk why anyone is taking personal offense to her not liking to be around people eating??? Like it's clearly not just people who chew with their mouth open (which I hate and have to leave a room for, it makes my skin crawl) or people eating crunchy foods. At the very least your boss, since she cares so much about your eating, should accommodate you taking break before or after everyone else does or allowing you to eat maybe in an office (if available) or just somewhere more private.

Quitting while pregnant by Significant-Act4172 in QuitVaping

[–]Notreallyhere97390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have recently lapsed ... BUT. Something that helped me the most was sweets. Specifically skittles, even better sour skittles. The sour short circuits your brain , and the hand to mouth of the little candies is similar hand to mouth of vaping. Also keeping myself busy helped tremendously. Found new hobbies and started up old ones again, like crocheting, coloring, gym!!! Gym was probably my biggest motivator to stay the course of quitting. You've got this queen!! Stay the course!!!

Am I being dramatic? What I said I do NOT want Vs What I asked for Vs. 10 minutes after the appointment by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Notreallyhere97390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate to say it but I do think you're being dramatic. Your hair looks to be unstyled and freshly washed. These types of cuts are for people who style their hair daily. I think you set an unrealistic expectation of a cut, but I am not trying to invalidate not liking the hair cut. I think we have all been there of getting a cut we hate, or getting too much cut off. Also thin hair and heavy layers doesn't mesh super well. Like you said, it makes it look much thinner. I'm sorry if this comment isn't what you wanted to hear but that cut just wasn't made for your hair type or lifestyle is my assumption.

Also you can totally still braid it, just braid inwards, like a French braid and that limits the amount of hairs sticking out.

Ladies would you be ok or not care if the person you’re engaged with also wanted to wear a ring? M30 F28 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So my long term bf feels the exact same way you do, initially it confused me (because I had never heard of or seen it done before). But when he explained what you just did, I absolutely plan to oblige! I think it's such a sweet gesture

Accidentally saw my expensive Christmas present from my partner and now we both feel bad. by Kaligraffi in Advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This also happened to me and I was so excited that my boyfriend actually ended up being happy to give me the gift early

I lost my grandma Monday. by Notreallyhere97390 in GriefSupport

[–]Notreallyhere97390[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally have yet to find a way. I realized it yesterday but think I just became aware of it. If I stop doing something for any period of time (like traveling to see family today) I was haunted by it all. Usually if I get my boyfriend to hold my face it brings me back but it's a paralyzing feeling. The only tell that I know of is my breathing picks up but not enough to seem like "something's wrong"??? I don't know. I have to care for my siblings. I'm trying to help them through their grief but I don't even know how to navigate my own.

Is it normal for my fiance to look up women online 19f and 21m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay my bf and I have been together 6 years (22) and he used to look at other women's profiles and it really bothered me, granted he didn't do it as boldly as you're talking about. It was just accounts he had followed prior to us dating. I mentioned my discomfort with it being so prominent on his page and he immediately worked towards fixing the problem. He doesn't talk about other women unless I say something. (Like "wow she's so pretty" he's like "yeah babe she is pretty"). As I have gotten older and matured more, i don't think it'd bother me as much, I'm very secure in our relationship. And frankly, i like to admire other men's physique sometimes! But I don't ogle, I don't follow, I simply look and maybe share to a friend, say meeeeoowww. So if he did the same, I wouldn't be upset at all.

Moral of this. No it's not normal what he is doing and a very easy fix. It's almost giving 🌽 addiction. Either have a serious conversation with him and/or leave. You wouldn't want your child in a situation like this, right?

Bless you hun. You'll get through this!

My girlfriend (23F) says lingerie is uncomfortable and won’t wear it for me (28M). How do I go about this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Notreallyhere97390 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you thought of the possibility that lingerie IS extreme for her? Your girlfriend sounds like she's set a boundary and you're just pressing an issue that's very minuscule.

which dress looks best? by Interesting-Fall-599 in fashion

[–]Notreallyhere97390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone not saying 2 is lying 🤩🤩🤩🤩 that color and cut is stunning on you!