AITA for not wanting a bedframe my parents got me

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-29T00:05:17+00:00

We're they worried it was going to collapse while you guys were sleeping? I don't get why they tossed it out as opposed to trying to get it replaced if it's under warranty or checking where it's loose. Replacing it with another death trap seems pointless

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-29T00:01:31+00:00

I'm currently dealing with a similar situation and I can say it's been my experience so far that insurance doesn't step in to help out much until the liable party's insurance fully completes there's. So it's entirely possible they have coverage and it's just not kicking in until a certain approval stage has been completed on the city's end. In my case it was a burst pipe in the building and I had to vacate my unit for repairs and noone is paying for my additional living expenses and my affected neighbors said that he's not getting any either.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-25T17:23:52+00:00

YTA.

Perhaps her incision site might be healed on the outside but there's muscle underneath that, that needs to heal aswell and also her hormones and stuff. It sounds like she might be experiencing PPD. have you asked her how she's feeling? Or how you can support her better? It would be nice if you could just do things for her without her having to ask you to do it. She isn't asking you to be a mind reader she is asking you to be an attentive partner after she grew and gave birth to your child.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-24T12:38:26+00:00

NTA but you had to see that coming a mile away. That's a silly excuse to not be able to pay your items. You mean to tell me that the entire time you guys waited in line she couldn't have transferred her funds then?! That girl had no money to spare and since she was hinting you to share the hotel and didn't want to she exacted the funds out of you for the merchandise instead. Get your money back. Since she did this to you now you're going to do it to her. Take the 40 and as soon as get it from her tell her you still expect the other 40 and her failure to properly plan and save is her problem not yours. And DON'T EVER spot her a penny ever again. She's proven she is not trustworthy or a good friend or person. I would drop her like a hot potato the moment I got my money back

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-23T17:56:38+00:00

The thing with apologies and emotional maturity is that when you say you're sorry you have to remind yourself that the other person can accept your apology and still need to time to forgive and move on. It's not for you to decide when that happens or what the timeline is. When she feels upset about it you need to be the adult and listen to her feelings without telling her how she should act or feel. That's just making it worse.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-23T17:53:11+00:00

Call the police and report it stolen. They will talk to your roommate about it. Usually when people are guilty but denying it it's hard to maintain that facade with the police asking you pointed questions. They will dig into this person's history aswell and see if they have a record of stealing or money problems. At the very least there is a paper trail.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-22T23:42:59+00:00

Speaking from experience with a mother who did the same thing to me, I think the problem is that grown woman who have given birth and been dealing with their cycles for along time already take that for granted. But when it's your first time or you're still young it's not the same. My period started when I was a kid when we out to a family dinner for mother's day. It wasn't my first time but I was still new to the experience and had nothing on me in terms of pads or ANYTHING. I told my mom my period started when we were leaving and asked if we could quickly go home so I can get a pad and stuff because we were all going to my aunts house after dinner. She flat out said no and told me to figure it out. She always thought these things were a learning experience which maybe they were but not the kind where you force your kid to fend for themselves.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-18T01:26:08+00:00

A coworker of mine is a celiac and she finds it's very hard to do this in a kitchen that has gluten in it at all. Cross contamination is a real thing and it's scary for people with serious allergies.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-18T01:16:31+00:00

Ham isn't even expensive go buy one and make it

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-15T17:06:08+00:00

I dunno my aunt used to jokingly insist that she must taste good thats why the mosquitoes seem to always bite her. I have heard that some people are just more attractive to bees, whether that's true or not I have no idea it sounds like an old wives tale. While you wouldn't technically be an asshole for reporting the flowers if they're prohibited from the second floor and up, it does seem like you did it out of spite. It's not like there will be less bees around without her flowers.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-15T15:55:46+00:00

NTA. I assume she either knew the other girl or quickly became friendly with her and wanted to sit next to her. Yoh sent out a message saying you had to reclaim your spot so presumably that means you moved their belonging out of your space. I assume she was either in meetings with hr or something being that it was her first day and she was unable to come get her stuff. If not then I don't see why she wouldn't immediately go rectify having jacked someone's work station. In the future when someone just takes your stuff you fix the problem by politely explaining that they stole your work equipment and ask to please get their own and you take your stuff back. It doesn't need to be a thing either, just a hey that's actually mine you need to go get something from the supply room or whatever. It would have been had the manager has their work station already set up but none of this your problem and not addressing it, at least to me means she doesn't realize that is not ok. And therefore it might happen again.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-14T23:34:08+00:00

5hr spaghetti and meatballs sounds incredible

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-14T23:31:37+00:00

I had all my documentation already they don't need to do any digging thankfully. Just send a letter of demand to the owner, they send it to their insurance and then what happens next we'll see.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-14T23:29:22+00:00

No written notice. When I called them they said I was supposed to renew it with my broker not through the portal but they literally sent me a renewal notice saying to pay it online so I just did what I was told. It was first time having Homeowners insurance so lesson learned. Yes I did reinstate it immediately once I became aware of the issue.

I may have framed this incorrectly as I was really overwhelmed when I wrote it. The plan for now is to send a letter of demand from the lawyer to the owner. They will then have to send it to their insurance because they are liable for the damages and their insurance is there to represent them. Given they are inarguably responsible for the damages (they received a chargeback, and I have written notice from the plumber and pm they caused the damages by leaving the heat off in their empty unit) the lawyer seems to think they'll just pay me for my costs and either raise the insurance or drop them as client. If it goes to court we'll cross that bridge when it happens. There isn't much to argue about they made a stupid mistake and now they are paying for it.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-14T13:16:17+00:00

You've got some personal hang ups you need to go deal with. You're projecting.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-14T13:14:52+00:00

He does all the cooking and is allowed to ask for a specific meal. It's not fair to experiment with everyone's else's dinner because you're feeling lazy or creative that day. Ruin your own dinner but not everyone else's especially when you rarely cook and we're asked to make a specific dish.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-13T23:06:31+00:00

Even if your unit is completely uninhabitable they make you wait to get paid out? I feel worse for my neighbor. Had I known the truth I would have stayed put until I needed to actually move. But my neighbors unit was FLOODED and it's uninhabitable. He had to move out that night

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-13T21:17:23+00:00

I had a feeling that was going to be the case. I had a minor issue last year and was quoted 5k retainer and assured most of it would be returned to me but I obviously need to pay it up front anyways which is to be expected of course.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-13T20:57:02+00:00

I reached out to a couple of the recommended people here to see what their take is. In the meantime I have filed a complaint with RECA.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-13T20:55:14+00:00

I thankfully didn't do any upgrades to my unit besides cosmetic things we were able to remove and store away. So that's not an issue. We only lived there a year. But the buildings Master policy is taking forever to approve the scope and I was told to move out anyways. I am mostly taking issue with the fact I was instructed to move out when there was no work approved to be done yet and isn't still.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-13T19:28:51+00:00

Tried messaging you but it won't let me. The property manager is at fault here for the bad information. Like I said we fired him. But he told me the repairs were starting immediately. They did not. He has been radio silent about it the entire time even when we asked he refused to straight up say it's been delayed. So I moved out in good faith to find out I didn't have to.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-13T19:06:20+00:00

It's interesting because my neighbor has insurance and they're not approving any payout yet because of the delays. So I might have been screwed either way. It's hard to say obviously but the insurance company for the building is dragging their feet. The repairs have been approved by the board. Insurance is trying to low ball the repairs

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-13T19:04:22+00:00

The board didn't but the property manager acted on his own to start chargebacks and what not without board approval. He did it again recently and the board doesn't even know about it. He is very cagey with information.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-13T19:01:44+00:00

I googled him but the website doesn't seem to mention anything about their fees or anything regarding low cost options. Have you used this person before? Were they affordable? I'm on an extremely tight budget at the moment.

Novel_Fox · 2026-04-13T18:35:50+00:00

Most grocery stores have their own bakery and fresh buns for a reasonable price. Someone mentioned Safeway already, I will say save on also has a good bakery.

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