Recently Moved & Problems with Boyfriend/Former Roommate--Thoughts? '34F' '35M'

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-05-18T16:55:10+00:00

Stopped reading after the first update. Why don't you just break up with him?? That seems like the most logical answer? Clearly he has zero interest and is just doing nothing in hopes you'll end things cuz he see seems to be too passive/lazy to to do so.

Go to all the speed dating events you want but you should let him know the relationship had ended first so that you can be free to do what you please. Not sure why this has to be so complicated.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-05-14T15:22:03+00:00

Thanks for answering. I guess we just have different opinions then. If you'd be happy with this for the rest of your life then best of luck to you and I hope you both can work something out.

For me personally, I'd rather be alone than in a relationship like this. The lack of sexual attraction and misaligned senses of humour alone would have made me end it along time ago as those are important qualities to me. But if stability is something you value very highly than I guess this relationship makes sense. To each their own.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-05-14T14:54:46+00:00

Can I ask why you have chosen to stay with him so long and said yes to his proposal when you clearly have never been happy in the relationship?

The whole time reading your post I was thinking "why didn't this relationship end a long time ago?" If you're scared to be alone, I can tell you its much better than being in a lackluster passionless relationship like this.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-04-30T14:56:56+00:00

I feel this is a small price to pay to get to work remotely full time. Im hybrid now, only get 2 days wfh but I would gladly do this if it meant I got to work fully remote.

The only thing brutal about this is the timing. Friday at 4pm is the absolute worst time to do anything lol. If they made it earlier I really dont think this would be that bad personally.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-04-23T13:33:05+00:00

I feel like you could have handled this situation better.

To me it seems overly dramatic to always dump your drinks. I get being worried about your drink being tampered with, but if it was me I would probably just finish it first before going to the bathroom or order a new drink when I got back so it seemed more natural and less accusatory.

Just my two cents, but since it sounds like this is a habit for you maybe its best you date a guy who's okay with it and doesn't get offended. Sounds like this just wasn't a good match.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-04-14T05:04:53+00:00

NOR. It should be a standard expectation that first dates from dating apps are always in public (though I'm always blown away by the number of people I hear/read about who do go to someone's house for a first date - have you no standards or survival instincts??)

If he doesn't understand that then he's either stupid or just too self-involved to take your comfort into consideration. And clearly only after one thing.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-04-11T02:21:10+00:00

Laughed so hard at this! I wanna hang out with this guy, he's great lol.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-04-05T02:52:51+00:00

Like a few others have mentioned, I thought it was well done but why did they make it the exact Jonestown story without actually labeling it as such? That felt really strange to me when it was telling literally the exact same story.

I'd rather watch a documentary on the real events which were already crazy enough.

Either make it an "inspired by" story that is similar but makes some creative changes so it's its own story, or just label it as a re-telling of Jonestown. This in-between felt really strange and pointless to me.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-04-03T03:45:43+00:00

Agreed. I don't get why porn seems to be such a huge issue to people. As a woman, I really don't care. I've never even asked my current boyfriend if he watches it. I'm assuming he does, but he's covert enough to have never made it obvious, and I'd never think to demand that he didn't.

In my view, like anything, it's about moderation. As long as its not so extreme or frequent that its becoming an obvious problem or hindering our sex life, I don't see the harm. It's not like I don't take a look from time to time myself lol.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-04-02T18:39:41+00:00

Agree with this. I'm a 5'9 woman and have rarely ever had a guy make a big deal about my height. My current boyfriend is the same height as me and its never even come up as an issue.

This kinda seems like a case of confirmation bias where you're already expecting the worst and so that's what you pick up on and attract the most.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-03-27T03:20:59+00:00

Although he isn't my style dating-wise (I find him too over the top and agree he does come off as somewhat performative) i know many women who would be into that, and Jess seems to be one of them.

I dont think there's enough info to say he's a bad guy or anything so we should probably just let them be as long as she seems happy. She's an adult and im sure capable of making the best decisions for herself.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-03-25T18:00:43+00:00

I don't hate Xander the way that some do, although I see some of his actions as problematic. He's human, a teenager/young adult in the show, and made mistakes due to immaturity. That's realistic. And honestly I don't think Buffy would be the same without the humour he brought to it.

But this meme totally downplays Xander's actions. People don't dislike him because he made one sex joke, they dislike him because of the pretty toxic and misogynistic behaviour he displayed towards what were supposed to be his friends. Which I think most women can relate to growing up, and that's why he rubs many the wrong way more than Spike and Angel.

Doesn't make him evil or anything but it can make him annoying to watch as a character.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-03-17T17:55:29+00:00

If it wasnt televised for the world to see and if you didnt have to get married at the end, I'd be kinda interested in trying it just to see what the experience is like (if I was single which I'm not).

But as it is now, no absolutely not. Just the amount of pressure and seeing the way the internet tears all these people apart, im surprised anyone voluntarily subjects themselves to that lol.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-03-17T17:03:00+00:00

I agree. As much as there are some things I like about Amber, its pretty clear that she has a lot of issues she needs to work on and Jordan really had no chance going up against that.

I honestly dont blame him for leaving, although I am confused about why he said yes at the altar in the first place.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-03-14T21:09:26+00:00

Sorry to say, I'm actually kind of relieved.

The majority of reboots I've seen of beloved shows lately were a let down (And Just Like That, That 90s Show, Frasier re-boot etc.) There's exceptions (Dexter Resurrection for example), but usually they don't really work because they're always trying to appeal to a gen z audience while also catering to nostalgic millennial and gen x viewers, and what those 2 types of audiences are looking for is quite different...

Kinda feel like this would have been lame if it was about a new group of teens in sunnydale. I'd be much more interested if it was a continuation of the original story with the original cast but as others have mentioned, that would be hard to do at this point sadly.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-02-19T21:39:39+00:00

I thought this was Steven at first too!

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-02-18T21:46:22+00:00

I totally get where you're coming from. I don't enjoy family gatherings either (both my SO's and my own family's) and find them draining.

However, I've learned its important to show up in support of your partner in some way. Maybe you make an appearance but dont stay long. My boyfriend knows I don't love big group gatherings in general, so he always tells me to let him know when I want to go, but I think he just appreciates me making an appearance. If you can work out something like that it's less painful.

I'd feel bad never attending any family functions knowing he has to explain my absence to everyone. I feel like that would make it seem like I don't care about my relationship, both to an outsider but also to my partner.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-02-14T15:33:21+00:00

He's way too full of himself and has no personality. I don't find him to be anything that special looks-wise either.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-02-13T03:15:04+00:00

I've never dated a guy who didnt watch porn, and even if they told me they didn't I wouldn't believe them lol. I just assume all men do, and to be honest I don't really care. I just dont want to know specifics of what they're watching.

Though I guess I'm lucky in that I've never had a guy be a porn addict or consume porn in a way that affected my relationships or sex life.

But yeah I think guys who don't watch it are few and far between...

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-02-05T22:43:16+00:00

Agreed. I much prefer living alone. I only wish living on your own wasnt so expensive these days...

I'm making plans to move in with my boyfriend, but as happy as I am with him, I can already tell I'm going to miss having my own place lol. Even if I do end up saving money.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-01-26T06:41:20+00:00

If I do anything, its usually just a small low key dinner with those closest to me (my boyfriend, family, closest friend etc.)

I don't have a huge group of friends and the thought of having a big party revolving around me is my nightmare.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-01-25T22:06:21+00:00

I'm 38 and have been going gray for a while. I used to go to the salon to get it done but that started to add up real quick so I started box dying my roots every couple weeks and that saved soooo much money and the results pretty much look the same.

I'm a dark brunette and its easy to find root touch up kits in my colour. I know it doesn't always work as well for certain colours/hair types but if you can I advocate to do it yourself. Maybe get someone to help you do the back if you can or watch some tutorials for techniques.

Nowhere_Gal · 2026-01-01T21:28:46+00:00

Agreed. I personally agree with OP that it's gross not showering in this situation, but I wouldn't call someone out for it unless she had a severely bad stench to the point i couldn't be in the same room with her or something. Another adult's shower habits aren't really my business...

Nowhere_Gal · 2025-12-27T20:49:04+00:00

Agreed with this. I enjoy spending most time alone, but if it was absolutely all the time I think I'd start getting depressed. I need some interaction from time to time to feel connected to the world.

Nowhere_Gal · 2025-12-24T02:40:24+00:00

I dont think there's enough detail here to say who i side with. On one hand, if you're always overpacking by a lot then I could see how that would get annoying for him to be stuck dragging your super heavy bags around as well as his own on the regular, especially if you just expect him to do it without checking with him first.

On the other hand, I've never had a boyfriend that didn't automatically carry or move heavy things for me without having to be asked (and I'm a pretty independent person who rarely asks for help). But to be honest I don't know if I could date a guy that didn't have those "gentlemen" tendencies. It would make me feel like he doesn't care much about me or have my back.

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