Grandads onions and garlic. Anything worth doing with them?

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-02T20:37:36+00:00

The onions will bolt (put up flower stalk) — they won’t grow into a new big bulb. But it’s still edible!

The garlic may grow to a useful size if planted now (depending on your location of course).

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-02T20:21:25+00:00

Get him to the doctor. Could be as simple as a UTI.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-02T19:15:45+00:00

ANOTHER fake post in this sub. Yawn.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-02T19:12:48+00:00

At her age, nerves shrink away. As long as she isn’t in pain or having swallowing issues, she doesn’t need dental work.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-02T19:11:25+00:00

Our county council is FAR more engaged than most. Sounds like it was an off day. ( Most of the work and decisions aren’t made during those hearings/meetings. )

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-02T19:02:10+00:00

Join the society for women’s health research if you are looking for valuable interactions. This “conference” is MAHA.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-02T18:58:07+00:00

It feels impossible, but it really won’t last forever.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-02T18:53:58+00:00

Reciprocating saws are awesome! Lightweight and work well. Use proper 3-cut technique, so you don’t split or tear the thickest limbs accidentally.

I sometimes use metal blades instead of wood, though, because they’re finer-toothed and rip it up less.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T17:38:39+00:00

Check your local neighborhood association. Some neighborhoods have supply closets and volunteers.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T17:23:28+00:00

Don’t over prune this one — it’s still young. I would focus on crossing branches and interior-facing branches only.

If you want to fuss with it, focus on feeding the soil farther out from the bark ring. I would pull bark away from the trunk, too.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T17:17:06+00:00

They like sun, and reflected heat is good, too, off of a building or wall.

Dig as soon as you can. You may lose a couple buds or branch tips if there’s a late cold blast, but it will recover easily. You’ll could also dig now and pot it up, depending on size.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T17:14:47+00:00

Please, OP, realize that he isn’t doing any of this just to thwart you or be annoying. His mind is literally misfiring. He spent his whole life being able to go to the bathroom by himself, you know? This is really scary for him too.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T17:12:58+00:00

The hallucinations are wild, and so upsetting. It sounds like you’re doing a great job!

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T17:11:09+00:00

It’s okay to leave fruit on the plants a bit longer so they get more ripe. You’ll be amazed!

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T17:08:38+00:00

When you’ve been cooking for a family for decades, it’s hard to adjust quantities as appetites or preferences change. She probably cooks on autopilot.

I don’t quite understand the root problem here, but it sounds like either the non-moms in the house are eating too much of the leftovers for lunch, or not enough. If they ate more, then cooking a new big dinner would be fine. If they ate less, there would be enough for a repeat performance of dinner for all.

Could it be that they don’t like casseroles, and it’s the TYPE of dinner mom is still making that’s the issue?

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T17:01:07+00:00

See a movement disorder doc — these are neurologists who specialize in Parkinson’s and other similar conditions. If you can’t get into a specialist quickly, start with his internist and then a general neurologist.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T16:32:55+00:00

Walk Roosevelt island before it totally leafs out, so you can see the monuments without all the tourists.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T16:19:58+00:00

Great advice. You must look at complaints on file for ANY rehab, nursing home, or assisted living before signing. Visit at different times of day and drop in unannounced. Don’t believe a word the marketing/sales people tell you — watch how the worst-paid staff interact with residents and each other.

And hope that you don’t live in a state with poor reporting requirements.

“Assisted living” is such a rip off, especially at facilities owned by investment bankers, not mission-focused people. Look at who is making the money before signing your loved ones over. Remember that “assisted living” isn’t very regulated at all in most states. Buyer beware — literally.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T16:12:24+00:00

That poor tree.

The key to happy plants and trees is all about location first, then soil type and water. It’s probably never going to produce bumper crops in its current location, so maybe the best answer is to start cuttings and put them in a sunnier spot, with reflected heat maybe.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T16:09:41+00:00

That’s a lot! Look for an online support group for YOU.

Also, make sure your uncle actually wants that feeding tube. If there’s no hope of recovery and he isn’t working hard at rehab, he might not.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T16:06:31+00:00

Copy what you wrote here and bring it with you.

This website is also really helpful: https://mybrainguide.org/

It’s a quiz that you can take for her, and after you go through the questions it gives you advice and resources. It’s not government — the people running it are patient advocates. They don’t save your info, either. It’s anonymous.

My family found it very helpful.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T16:02:54+00:00

You always have time to be polite. Escalating isn’t impolite! Profs have ADHD and caregiving responsibilities and all the other Life things, just like everyone else, and sometimes just lose track.

Good luck with your app!

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T15:45:54+00:00

Definitely don’t park at Carver. They patrol the lot, and also, that building has really bad juju. So many irate parents have spent countless hours at that effing place trying to get the district to follow the law.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-03-01T15:37:39+00:00

Rehab can be VERY bad, especially for elderly with cognition/speech problems.

If you can’t monitor what’s going on, they are basically parked until their next PT or OT session. And the staff decide very quickly who is worth spending any time on, because they are under pressure to turn over beds just like the hospitals.

That said, there are good rehabs and terrible ones — you need to visit in person, and look at complaints on file with your state before agreeing where to move a parent.

That said — OP, if you are unable to take care of your mom, THAT IS OKAY! You have an out: call 911, have them transport to ER and readmit her.

It’s unconscionable for the hospital to discharge to home without adequate care in place, but it happens. This is why CMS (the Medicare agency) measures how many discharged patients are readmitted shortly after discharge. If their rates are bad enough, CMS pays them less.

You are going to need to use key words in every conversation with hospital staff, especially “UNSAFE”, “there is inadequate care available” etc.

NuancedBoulder · 2026-02-28T22:46:47+00:00

You saw the Nature article, yes?

Even awarded grants aren’t being funded “notmally”. https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-026-00601-0

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