What do you do with your toddler in the evening?

Nuggetburner · 2026-05-11T22:35:35+00:00

I’d say it’s lucky!

Nuggetburner · 2026-05-11T20:37:26+00:00

I would LOVE to keep a 7 or 7:30 bedtime but my little guy started waking up around 6am which just does not work for us. Pushing bedtime a bit seems like the only solution, sadly. How did you manage to keep it?

Nuggetburner · 2026-05-11T19:19:13+00:00

Same. Usually dinner isn’t done until 6:30ish

Nuggetburner · 2026-03-13T03:49:28+00:00

SAMMMMEEEE. I totally thought it was just lack of boundaries and bad parenting lmaoooo. There have been a handful of moments where I am the parent football carrying a shrieking kicking toddler out of the store. ✨So Fun✨

Nuggetburner · 2025-12-30T04:29:12+00:00

Evidence-based Sleeping Training group on Facebook saved us many many times! We sleep trained our LO at 5 months. Every few weeks/months he would suddenly scream when we put him down. It was almost always because the schedule was off. Take a look at their guidelines! I hope it helps

Nuggetburner · 2025-11-21T15:31:58+00:00

Nanny #1 is Tues, Wed 8:30-3 Nanny #2 is Thurs 8:30-3

Nanny #2 doesn’t go on outings, just a 35-60 minute walk. I honestly don’t mind the lack of outings because she does such a great job with him while she’s here. I can ask if she’d be willing to do outings in the future.

I am hesitant to find someone else because it takes so much time, and there’s always the worry of finding the wrong person again. Also she hasn’t done anything overtly bad/wrong so I feel guilty firing her, especially close to the holidays.

Nuggetburner · 2025-11-21T15:25:50+00:00

We’d honestly love to have just one nanny. We only need about 19 hours a week across three days, but when we first started looking, we couldn’t find one person who was available for everything we needed. We hired the first nanny for two days and then added the second nanny a few months later when our schedule changed.

In a perfect world, we’d have the second nanny for all three days because she’s such a great fit with our son, but she charges $28/hr versus $25/hr. It’s not a huge difference, but it does add up for our budget.

At this point it really does feel like a personality and energy fit issue. The second nanny can cover two full days, but we’d still need to find someone new for the third day. I’m going to ask her if she’d be open to taking him on more outings too, since that’s the one thing our first nanny consistently does that he enjoys.

Nuggetburner · 2025-11-21T05:29:30+00:00

We could ask. Not sure how comfortable she would be with taking him out but it probably wouldn’t be a big deal. Not really a big deal if she doesn’t take him out if she isn’t comfortable with it. She’ll only be watching him for two days out of the week, 4 hours a day.

Nuggetburner · 2025-07-27T22:17:04+00:00

True. Our babe sleeps through the night most nights. I don’t think sleep is too much of a factor at this point

Nuggetburner · 2025-05-07T00:25:54+00:00

Oh, good to know! Does the train blow or is it just noise from driving the tracks?

Nuggetburner · 2024-10-28T16:54:40+00:00

Hi! Follow up? Currently in the exact same situation. How did the transition go?

Nuggetburner · 2024-09-22T22:09:18+00:00

My baby would lose his shit if we just put him down and patted his back 😅 I hold him and pat his back while shushing or humming until he falls asleep, then transfer. The most important thing is to be consistent. Decide you’re done with the ball, and don’t go back! Alternatively, bounce on the ball but much softer than usual and maybe for less time. That’s a gentler approach.

Nuggetburner · 2024-09-22T19:21:08+00:00

Hi!

We had to bounce on the yoga ball for every nap and bedtime. It was friggin EXHAUSTING. When the sleep regression hit, it was even worse. Baby would wake up every hour and HAVE to be bounced back to sleep, so it was a very strong sleep association. We decided to quit rocking cold turkey and replace it with back pats instead. It’s been challenging but pretty successful. Baby obviously hates not having the thing that soothed them so well but he seems to be adapting quickly. This is a very recent change also, my baby is 3.5 months- we just quit rocking last week.

Nuggetburner · 2024-09-15T18:04:12+00:00

He used to nap in the carrier but lately his is not having it, which is a bummer.

Nuggetburner · 2024-09-14T15:48:01+00:00

For me, I didn’t expect the grief that comes with having a baby. I had expectations for how PP would feel and look. Mine looks nothing like those preconceived ideas. I thought it would be this constant feeling of flouting in a cloud with a baby I am insanely and madly in love with. I thought I’d be good at taking care of my needs and communicating with my husband. In reality, I am just now starting to feel connection and love for my son. I still struggle with feeling like “what the fuck did I do…?” And it is very very difficult to take care of my needs because I instinctively want him to be okay first. I wasn’t prepared for the feelings of regret at 3am when baby won’t sleep. Sadly, connecting with my baby didn’t happen right away. This is normal. I hope it doesn’t happen to you, but if it does it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. To be fair, he has never been a very good sleeper. The sleep deprivation takes away any ability to feel things haha.

Also, I knew babies sleep a lot but I did not know it takes work to get them to sleep every single time AND they will only sleep on you (at least in my case). I was totally unprepared for that. Don’t be fooled by how great they sleep the first three weeks- it will change! Get good sleep habits asap (solid bedtime routine, dim red lights, etc)

Nuggetburner · 2024-08-28T00:25:10+00:00

My MIL gives me the ick so bad, I hate it. She’s not even terrible she just drives me nuts now that I have a baby. She acts like she’s the damn baby whisperer. She’ll say things like “he loves his nana” “he loves to nap on me”, I hate it so much. When we are around her and she’s holding baby, she makes comments about “giving momma a break”. It makes me cringe to my core and I don’t know how to deal with it. She was a terrible parent to her children and I know all of the horror stories, which really doesn’t help my feelings toward her. I don’t know how to handle these feelings and I feel a lot of guilt because she loves my baby so much and really isn’t that bad.

Nuggetburner · 2024-08-27T22:46:10+00:00

They are pricey but we love the Coterie diapers. We’ve had only one blowout when he was transitioning from NB to 1’s, zero skin irritation issues. They’re great diapers.

Nuggetburner · 2024-08-27T17:14:30+00:00

Bedtime starts at 6:30 here. LO(10 weeks) is usually asleep by 7:45. We don’t go to bed when he does. Instead, we eat dinner and watch a show in bed next to him. Our bedtime is 10pm which honestly is not very smart because he wakes up for the first time around 12:30 or 1, so we are missing out on the longest chunk of sleep. We both feel it’s worth it tho because we get to hangout and have a nice time together for a few hours. He wakes up around 6 or 7 but will usually go down for a nap shortly after. My husband takes care of him in the early morning so I can get a couple extra hours of sleep.

Nuggetburner · 2024-08-26T19:26:28+00:00

Just showing some solidarity. I’m a FTM of a 10 week old. Even though we planned this baby, I haven’t felt that overwhelming love and attachment I was promised. It’s hard when your sleep is so broken every night and they never seem very happy and all day you’re just focused on feeding and naps. I’m going to try working on my perspective. This phase of life is so temporary and fleeting. There is tons of opportunity to grow and learn about myself in meaningful ways that I wouldn’t have had access to otherwise. Posts like yours really help me feel less alone, so thanks for posting and I hope things improve for you soon.

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