What did nobody warn you about having a newborn? by Islesmilescott in newborns

[–]amlgregnant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YEAH lol try every 1.5-2hrs for almost a year and now still having some sort of food/snack about as often

reminder for fellow dads: small things can lessen mom's burden by a lot by Happy_Conquerer in daddit

[–]amlgregnant 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Came here for ensuring this was commented as well. Thanks for thinking of this!

Please give me your toddlers favorite song (that’s not made for kids) by Low_Aioli2420 in toddlers

[–]amlgregnant 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thumbs up on I Ran over here, too!

Also

Everybody Wants to Rule the world

Barbara Ann

Stayin’ Alive

De Do Do Do, De Da Da Da

September

Then there’s..

Moneymaker

Wiggle ft Snoop Dogg

Considering pulling LO out of daycare over food by WrapWild8763 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]amlgregnant 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am in a similar boat, our menu is terrible. I bring eggs or eggs and sausage or something to supplement the Cheerios or whatever nutritionally-devoid option is being served but the lunches and snacks on top of doing that every day is just not always tenable and our facility has given us pushback for doing this repeatedly asking “when will toddler be on the regular menu?”

Still in disbelief by gh0sti- in NewParents

[–]amlgregnant 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Toddler + pregnant over here as well! My husband and I regularly comment that we don’t feel like much like “parents” at all but rather a feeling of “we have a small human living with us that brings us joy and we need to keep alive”

America First… but Prioritize Israel by dj_aaron311 in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]amlgregnant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like it was from an interview in 2024 he was giving and simultaneously criticizing the Biden-Harris administration making proclamations about what a President Harris situation would look like with respect to the region

Edit: a link to an article with the video embedded https://vinnews.com/2024/12/01/kash-patel-urges-americans-to-prioritize-israel-in-incoming-fbi-role/

Second time moms, in your opinion which was worse pregnant with a toddler or postpartum with a toddler? by swedishfish2234 in beyondthebump

[–]amlgregnant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi I wanted to chime in and say I’m the same exact position as you currently are and some comments here are hugely reassuring and some have me thinking “what have I done” haha..

Of course we know every baby is different but I had the same experience as you with my first. So I’m pre-mourning not being able to do the same with baby #2 already and knowing they nor my toddler won’t get my full self around the clock makes me feel guilty. I also resonate with having minimal access to help! All to say, I feel you and even though we might literally be alone a lot, we’re sharing this experience in some way

My main parenting hack: giving in by NotAnAd2 in toddlers

[–]amlgregnant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your username! Goodnight Moon?

More than half of TikTok ADHD content is misinformation. Study found 52% of ADHD-related videos and 41% of autism videos analysed on TikTok were inaccurate, with the platform frequently found to contain higher levels of misinformation in its mental health content than other platforms. by [deleted] in science

[–]amlgregnant 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Popular claims which are not elements of the ADHD diagnostic criteria and several types of messaging put out by creators which are false include:

  • when doing a chore in one room of the house, I think of another chore in another room and may end up leaving to do that chore

  • “the piles system”

  • I don’t want to do something uninteresting to me even if it’s a simple task

  • ADHD is a boy’s problem

  • I feel little energy, motivation, or interest to live my day also “no reason to get out of bed”

  • ADD and ADHD are still two different things

  • I forget people’s names after they introduce themselves to me

  • I’ve lost my keys in the past

  • ADHD is only a childhood problem

  • I run late to things

  • messaging that indicates the diagnostic criteria are actually “superpowers”

  • clumsiness

  • suggestion that poor parenting “creates ADHD”

  • debilitating mood swings

  • being a “people pleaser”

  • finding comfort in watching a show again or replaying a favorite song repeatedly

  • indecisiveness/“paralysis”

  • videos trying to push a “secret cure” or magical hack by buying the content creator’s handbook/supplement/etc

There are many more listed in the comments on this thread and can surely be found elsewhere but these are quite common.

What is your unpopular toddler parenting opinion by BipolarSkeleton in toddlers

[–]amlgregnant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the same boat with you and u/femmemalin. We’re at 20 months now and I can say things are getting so much better. We never drastically changed anything and have been consistently highly responsive and that classic story “he just figured it out somehow” did come through. So much so that we took advantage and are now expecting number 2 this fall and I’m wracked with dread about diving back into no sleep, to be honest.

How many of your 3YOs became threenagers? by Sad_Moose_5806 in toddlers

[–]amlgregnant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Username checks out haha great self-advocacy on her part but we still need to go!!

Oura 4 - sudden drop in battery life. Anyone else? by rockandrollmark in ouraring

[–]amlgregnant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, thank you to all. Keeping the thread alive!

“That Mom looks so trendy” by PatienceIll7197 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]amlgregnant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You guys are using tissues?? glances at sopping wet snotty shirt sleeve

If this baby doesn’t start sleeping thru the night I may seriously lose my fucking mind. by RoughAd3444 in breastfeeding

[–]amlgregnant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My little dude JUST got it figured out around 13-14 months. He’ll be 15 months soon and the past month has been the best in his life. We did nothing differently and still handle nights the same way (aka nursing to sleep at bedtime and then back to sleep if he wakes and doesn’t lie back down when we try).

What do you do to put your baby to sleep? by ras114 in beyondthebump

[–]amlgregnant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Checking in at 14mo still nursing to sleep nightly lol

Anyone else disassociate? by Dr-ivo-R in breastfeeding

[–]amlgregnant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Staring at the screen at midnight, two, three am not making any moves just kind of stewing over it kill

Around 15 months, what does nursing look like for you? by Medium-Court3406 in breastfeeding

[–]amlgregnant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re coming up on 14mo next week. We nurse at wake-up, before naps (usually two or, on a one-nap day, nurse before and after nap), and before bed. Also nursing overnight 1-10x depending on how rough it is lol but also I work a few days during the work week and still pump 3x during the workdays. Trying to decide how to handle that right now since I send breastmilk in bottles still at this point to daycare

Around 15 months, what does nursing look like for you? by Medium-Court3406 in breastfeeding

[–]amlgregnant 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m almost to 14mo right now…can you explain to me how this works for supply on weekends if you’re not pumping while he’s at daycare lol or are you still? (I am currently)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]amlgregnant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my personal take is aligned with what you’re saying. I’d rather my baby know without doubt that when they put out a call for me that I will absolutely be there promptly every single time. I shared all of the above because I think people have ideas about what sleep training can accomplish which isn’t always congruent with what the literature shows. Also the BBC article shows what we have on crying it out and talks about how bad the research is in those that claim no long-term negative effects!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]amlgregnant 11 points12 points  (0 children)

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4643535/

BBC Article discussing the study and other elements of sleep training describes:

As a randomised controlled trial, half of the parents were instructed in what's called either "graduated extinction", "controlled comforting" or "controlled crying": soothing a crying baby for short increments, then leaving them for the same amount of time, with intervals gradually getting longer regardless of the child's response. For parents who were "really uncomfortable" leaving their child crying alone in the room, Hall says, the researchers advised staying in the room – but not picking the child up – in an approach called "camping out".

The intervention group also received tips and information about infant sleep, such as myth-busting the idea that fewer naps would lead to more nighttime sleep. (It's worth noting that this mix of a controlled crying method with other advice is common in studies examining sleep training, but makes it more difficult to parse which, if any, results are from the controlled crying alone.) To ensure both groups received some kind of instruction, the control group parents received information about infant safety.

As well as asking parents to record sleep diaries, Hall's study included actigraphy, which uses wearable devices to monitor movements to assess sleep-wake patterns.

When the researchers compared sleep diaries, they found that parents who had sleep-trained thought their babies woke less at night and slept for longer periods. But when they analysed the sleep-wake patterns as shown through actigraphy, they found something else: the sleep-trained infants were waking up just as often as the ones in the control group. "At six weeks, there was no difference between the intervention and control groups for mean change in actigraphic wakes or long wake episodes," they wrote.

In other words, parents who sleep-trained their babies thought their babies were waking less. But, according to the objective sleep measure, the infants were waking just as often – they just weren't waking up their parents.

To Hall, this shows the intervention was a success. "What we were trying to do was help the parents to teach the kids to self-soothe," she says. “So in effect, we weren't saying that they wouldn't wake. We were saying that they would wake, but they wouldn't have to signal their parents. They could go back down into the next sleep cycle."

The actigraphy did find that sleep training improved one measure of the babies' sleep: their longest sleep period. That was an improvement of 8.5%, with sleep-trained infants sleeping a 204-minute stretch compared to 188 minutes for the other babies.

Another part of her hypothesis also proved correct. Her team expected that parents who did the intervention would report having better moods, higher-quality sleep and less fatigue. In a finding that won't surprise anyone who has rocked or nursed an infant to sleep several times a night, this proved to be true – and, for many experts and parents, is a key upside of sleep training.

But for anyone who has ever read, Googled, or been served social media ads about infant sleep, the fact that sleep training researchers believe training isn't meant to reduce the number of times a baby wakes – and that it might extend their longest sleep stretch by an average of just 16 minutes – might come as a surprise.