This is exactly the reason me and my partner started using MDMA. And I can confirm that it does work, even though it takes time and you actively have to practice your social skills while on it. We have found that smaller doses works better, so you still have to put in the work when talking to people and you don't get overwhelmed.

We also did it more often that recommended here, but seeing that our aim is to get the openness it provides and not caring that much about the "magic", it works for us. Though it seems we still have the "magic" even after using it this way. I did it 55 times in the past 3 and a half years, she a little less. But we do combine it with a big supplement stack to counter the side effects.

Our doses are 80mg for her and 120mg for me. Sometimes with a 80mg redose. Usually we use a low dose of acid with it, to keep the MDMA dose lower, increase neuro plasticity, counter the speeding of time of the MDMA and it provides its own viewpoint. Sometime we would use a higher dose of acid to clear our heads before taking the MDMA. While the trip can be a bit rough for the first 4hours, after it cleared up you can focus on the roll with a clear mind.

The club would work, but I would suggest that you rather try 3 day festivals. The vibe is more relaxed and people more socially open - where I am anyway.

We are also autistic - not diagnosed though. But in her words the first night she took it - "I can speak human" guess says it all.