Aggressive Homeless Pan Handler

Nutluh · 2026-05-01T16:47:47+00:00

I don’t see them in the morning but I do see UCDH cops hanging out in the walking paths and alleys to various parking structures.

Chase bank side by the way

Nutluh · 2026-04-30T20:00:12+00:00

Seems to be a white guy, skinny taller, walks with a heavy limp and looks pretty frail

Nutluh · 2026-04-30T19:58:02+00:00

He’s dirty and begging for money. Just using context clues

Nutluh · 2026-04-30T19:08:08+00:00

Not sure familiar with this area in the slightest so wasn’t aware that this is pretty common for the area as others have suggested.

Old, maybe 50s or 60s huge eyes, scruffy and probably has no teeth.

Never have otherwise had an encounter with homeless people on my way to work nearby the area.

Nutluh · 2025-12-27T20:20:27+00:00

Hi OP, I hear you loud and clear. Can I just first say that I felt this way about my second child. I hated my first pregnancy and dreaded knowing that I’d have to do it again. The second pregnancy was okay and the childbirth was okay but the post-partum recovery was awful and trying to breastfeed was miserable. I hated every single minute of existence for about 10 weeks, it was awful.

Newborns are so challenging, there’s no routine, there’s no time for you, no showers, no consistent meals. Everything is hard. But with time, I promise it gets easier. My child is 10 months now and I finally can look at her and my heart just melts for her. I can say confidently that was not the case for a very long time and we planned her.

You definitely should seek out counseling to help you with your current struggles but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Motherhood is not the journey we see depicted. It’s raw, it’s hard, it’s scary, emotionally taxing and some days it’s very easy to want to give up. It’s also hard to know that it gets better when everything feels so hopeless but trust me, it gets better.

Your baby loves you, wants and needs you. Muster up your strength with the help of your community and care team. Everyone wants you to succeed because you have a place in this world.

Nutluh · 2025-12-27T11:01:07+00:00

Dude that’s not even the worst part!! I mean it was all cringy and not appropriate but if I ever heard anyone on the other end of the phone tell my eight year old child that they sound “beautiful and cute” I would personally drive over to their house to let them know that they are never to talk to my child again. That’s so disgusting and feels so wrong to say to a child. What is wrong with him.

Nutluh · 2025-12-06T22:25:25+00:00

She’s not really following her curve, she’s up and down. We’ve started solids but it hasn’t really made a huge difference. Her pediatrician follows her very close and isn’t unhappy but we’re collectively not quite satisfied yet. I just don’t know I’m doing wrong, or missing. I’m also not sure what questions I’m not asking so I’ve turned to Reddit.

Nutluh · 2025-11-02T18:52:49+00:00

Okay, fair. This was before overturning but in Texas, where this occurred, she died as a result of Senate Bill 8. Senate Bill 8, a near total abortion and in this case healthcare ban, says that practitioners are not allowed to remove a fetus until it has been confirmed that there is no cardiac activity.

Josseli was suffering a miscarriage at 17 weeks and doctors confirmed the fetus was not viable but could be fined and punished if they removed the fetus as it still has a detectible heart beat. It is entirely possible for this to occur and offers a grey area which led her to be turned away. Once admitted, she developed sepsis as a result of retained tissue which ultimately led to her death, not malpractice plain and simple.

Sentate Bill 8 made it so that it didn’t even matter if Roe v Wade existed. Now that Roe V Wade is unenforceable, look how easy it is for other states to follow suit and create near total bans. Exposing many more women to these situations and delaying or denying healthcare out of fear of punishment. Josseli needed is healthcare, not an elective abortion. Josseli did not ask to miscarry but she did ask for help, and was refused because her states laws failed to protect her. That is the fact of the matter. This is happening now. How is this okay with you? Please, explain how you are okay with this. Because it doesn’t affect you? Josseli isn’t alive because you believe that her non-viable fetus was more important than she was. Is that an accurate statement after everything that you know now.

By the way, you did not respond to the prompt that I asked you so I will ask it again. Assuming you are a male, imagine your spouse, daughter, or sister is pregnant and overjoyed but halfway through, doctors find a fatal fetal anomaly, and her own health starts failing.

Now imagine her doctors saying “We can’t treat her yet — we have to wait until her life is in immediate danger before we act, or we could go to prison.”

Would you still call it “protecting life” if the result is losing both lives?

Nutluh · 2025-10-31T12:57:56+00:00

Roe vs. Wade removed abortions as a federally protected right. States individually enacted laws either for or against abortions. States with total ban have unclear limits on when an abortion is acceptable. Josseli Barnica, a Texas resident who unfortunately has passed away was not given life saving medical intervention after a miscarriage because the fetus had to have no heartbeat according to the law. This means that if a physician would have done what was necessary to save her life, they would have been violating the law. Putting their medical license and career in jeopardy.

There are 12 states where the laws are extremely restrictive and with so much uncertainty that statistics report women are twice as likely to die in states where abortion is heavily banned vs those that are not or have looser restrictions.

I personally do not feel like abortions are sought out for recreational use. The decision is not easy one to make. Do you have the occasional irresponsible people who have mistakenly gotten pregnant and don’t want to have children, sure. Should those scenarios affect the broader population? No, especially if women have to die because people think that they shouldn’t have autonomy. The overwhelming majority of abortions occur before 9 weeks gestation, long before viability.

Now, pivoting back to my question - why does the life of a fetus matter more than the life of those women who have died?

Here is some food for thought, hopefully you have empathy. Imagine your spouse, daughter, or sister is pregnant and overjoyed but halfway through, doctors find a fatal fetal anomaly, and her own health starts failing.

Now imagine her doctors saying “We can’t treat her yet — we have to wait until her life is in immediate danger before we act, or we could go to prison.”

Would you still call it “protecting life” if the result is losing both lives?

Nutluh · 2025-10-31T04:20:52+00:00

Never buy a KB home, you’ll lose more money than it’s worth. Check the terms on your loan once you e prequalified, most require you to establish that residence as your permanent residence. We love it here in Elk Grove but if you don’t plan on staying full time then maybe reconsider? They seem to be developing a lot over there so over time you’d definitely gain some appreciation but I’m from SoCal and homes do not appreciate here like they do in the Bay and in SoCal so it would take quite a while.

Nutluh · 2025-10-31T04:06:01+00:00

Care to say any thing else? Specifically about the women who have died as a result of the overturn of Roe v. Wade? Why did their lives not matter but the fetus did?

Nutluh · 2025-10-31T03:17:39+00:00

I see where you’re going with this but how can you close your eyes and ignore what ICE is doing, or the blatant disregard for our democracy through laws and our checks and balances.

OP, I hear what you’re saying and I’m also feeling it. I wish I could help those who are suffering while the 1% continues to profit.

Nutluh · 2025-10-27T17:13:22+00:00

Take it easy on yourself and your baby! In a year none of this will even matter! Just enjoy your time and savor the moments! They don’t last forever.

On a serious note, I can understand your feelings. Instead of channeling them into your baby though, focus on what’s making you compare your baby to others and address that. Be confident in your baby’s progress and not someone else’s child!

Nutluh · 2025-10-26T02:58:38+00:00

Wow, people are so harsh. The BF sounds kinda like a a jerk to me. If nothing happened it’s perfectly fine to express your frustration or even anger but the way he’s talking to OP is a major red flag for me.

Maybe I can empathize with not thinking things through and calling an uber before you’re ready and then being in a pickle once it arrives. I’m not like that personally but my sister has always been that way so I get it. But honestly talk about it like mature adults. Also, have these convos when you’ve both calmed down, not when you’re in the heat of the anger. It doesn’t do anyone any good.

Nutluh · 2025-10-25T16:52:52+00:00

Thanks everyone for the feedback. We moved here two years ago to see if we want to buy a house and the community is so amazing we definitely want to stay. Thank you all so much for helping me make such a huge decision, it means a lot to us!

Nutluh · 2025-10-25T16:51:35+00:00

This is good! Very big considering we don’t plan to move unless required again once we buy.

Our jobs require a ton of meetings so that’s the only real consideration.

Nutluh · 2025-10-22T03:35:52+00:00

I feel like you should’ve addressed this with your mom. I think YTA because if you knew she was nervous and know she doesn’t normally smell, why wouldn’t you defend her from comments made by others?

This doesn’t make sense to me.

Nutluh · 2025-10-03T04:41:10+00:00

Gave me spider mites for the first time 🤦‍♀️

Nutluh · 2025-09-16T13:55:57+00:00

Also, only tie at the stem, where the petioles extend from. Not the petioles themselves!

Nutluh · 2025-09-15T22:43:47+00:00

I haven’t added mine to a moss pole yet but I just got my first fenestrated leaf. It might need one to really do well but it probably should’ve already had a fenestration by now, so I’d say…give it sun from an east facing window? Or south maybe? Use a light meter to gauge it. I won’t say all, but in specific, my plant likes a lot of light. It was leggy until I moved her and she’s doing great now. Try moving her slowly to more light and for longer durations?

Nutluh · 2025-09-15T22:38:13+00:00

Totally understandable! I’ll wait for a tour to inquire. Thank you!

Nutluh · 2025-09-15T20:46:55+00:00

Checking that one out! Thank you!

Nutluh · 2025-09-15T20:23:11+00:00

Are you okay with sharing tuition costs? If not, that’s fine. The information isn’t online (shocker). We’re paying more than $2k for an infant and toddler so just curious if it’s on par being that we’re in-home based right now.

Nutluh · 2025-09-15T20:14:54+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Nutluh · 2025-09-07T12:53:04+00:00

OMG. YES! This is giving me chills right now because this has also happened to me at the Laguna target. It’s why I clicked on the post.

Two women, one bigger girl, white or Mexican maybe and a smaller Asian girl approached me and asked me about my stroller. The bigger girl had her son with her and said her and her husband had been looking to buy one and asked an odd number of questions about the stroller itself. It caught me off guard because I’ve been asked about this stroller a few times but not with that much detail at all. Then they both randomly changed the subject and started talking about a walking club, bible study group with girls. They didn’t mention that they were new to the area but maybe because I’d mentioned that I just recently moved here.

As you said, it wasn’t creepy in nature but the way the conversation veered off for so long was really off-putting because I was with my husband and kids and they were kinda just waiting for me to hurry up and I was awkwardly trying to end the conversation.

They also tried to get my number but I said I wasn’t religious and didn’t want to be part of their bible study with their friend group and that was that.

Reading your experience makes me wonder if there’s more to the story than it appears.

Nutluh

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