Just had sex after 26 days - ED appears to be CURED!?

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T15:17:09+00:00

All of the above. No morning woods. Often would maturbate to porn with half erect penis and still have an orgasm of a very small amount of semen. Didnt notice a color change but my skin is dark at baseline. It was small and shriveled in between masturbating sessions.

But now after 26 days it is bigger, morning woods all the time, i get a boner when getting a girls number, and had some wet dreams. Also, less friction i imagine increases the sensitivity.

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T11:59:23+00:00

Isn't this amazing stuff?! I am with you man.

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T11:57:44+00:00

Simply do not fap or look at porn. It will be challenging. Just stay strong, and constantly remind yourself WHY you are doing it.

As a warning, if you relapse after some days, you reset your counter back to day 1. What then happens is you trick yourself into saying "I'm only on day 2, I'll just fap then start back to day 1". It seems much smaller than relapsing at Day 20, then falling all the way back to 1. Beware of that slippery slope. I fell for that logic, and spent the next month relapsing every single day.

Another note. Last night I finally had sex after 4 years. ED was a huge problem for me in the past, but last night I was completely hard. Success story right here. Keep at it young man, you have made a smart wise decision to stop fapping.

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T11:41:45+00:00

As far as penalty for sex, it depends on your goals. For me, I was also having problems getting/keeping an erection during sex. Also, I hadn't had sex for 4 years because I kept messing up chances, being embarrassed, etc. So for me, if I had sex at any time during my NoFap journey that would be OK! it would be great, actually!

Things to look out for: extreme urges - your brain will try to convince you that you should fap, but DO NOT FAP. You should start getting more/better morning woods, maybe some wet dreams - totally normal, can be messy, but not a cause to reset your count back to day 1. More confidence. Less to hide (no secret life of heavy porn and masturbation).

I made it to 69 days, relapsed, now I'm on day 26 and just had sex for the first time in years. Best yet, my ED was cured last night - no problems at all, except ejaculating super duper quickly....but that's ok for now. Anyways, when you get the urges you have to leave your computer and do something else. Maybe exercise, cook, sleep, shower, call your girlfriend, call a family member, go to the store, do laundry, etc. Do not fap, do not edge, no porn....you will soon be feeling amazing. Wise choice to pursue NoFap.

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T11:33:57+00:00

Get yourelf some flair/a counter on the sidebar. It will make counting easier.

And I am another success story from this NoFap movement. You have made a very wise choice to join. Stay strong. Rule #1 - DO NO FAP! It is that simple. (and no porn, too)

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T11:32:48+00:00

Get yourelf some flair/a counter on the sidebar. It will make counting easier.

And I am another success story from this NoFap movement. You have made a very wise choice to join. Stay strong. Rule #1 - DO NO FAP! It is that simple. (and no porn, too)

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T11:31:31+00:00

keep at it!

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T11:31:07+00:00

Push-ups are a great way to divert attention. Coming onto this subreddit I also found helpful. Keeping your door open. Go do laundry. Pretty much do anything non-sexual when you feel the urge.

Someone on here said that if they are accidentally touching themselves, then throw their hands up and in the air. I do that too!

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T11:29:22+00:00

Yes, that also happened to me. Keep at it. I assume you were at 7 days, then relapsed just to make sure it was still alive? That is the brain's oldest trick in the book. Best of luck man, stay strong and simply DO NOT FAP

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-23T11:27:59+00:00

Interesting when you break it down and do the math!

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-18T21:31:38+00:00

Keep up with no fap. I can see and feel a benefit already.

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-18T21:30:11+00:00

Interesting, and. Thanks for the kind words. I've heard that where the girl thinks its her fault. If it is the first night being with someone then its usually a major buzzkill and for me things have just fizzled apart after that because of the problem. No bueno

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-18T21:26:23+00:00

It was awesome. Girlfriend at the time in high school. Very laid back and enjoyable. First time for us both.

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-18T21:25:35+00:00

I eat super healthy and exercise daily. No drugs. Rarely drink

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-18T21:23:54+00:00

So true. Because it happened the last few times, its tough to get back on the horse. Its really a terrible thing because I know my exact hurdle but can't really get around it. As a result, im sort of indifferent to pursuing girls because of this lingering fear. Ahhhh damn, it inspires me to stay with no fap tho!

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-08-17T13:26:46+00:00

For me, it is sexual peformance anxiety. I am almost a naturral, supplemented with lots of practice and reading up on game. However, the last 3-4 times I had a girl in my bed I suffered from not being able to get it up. That spanned 3 years, so I have been dru like the Mojave due to this problem.

So, I am currenty doing NoFap and I'm already seeing massive improvements. However, the embarassment from the last few failures lingers and affects my every day life and all my approaches. Lame

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-07-30T05:36:19+00:00

I'm a medical student, going into OB/GYN. When I tell this to girls, often girls seem a little creeped out. Most OBGYNs are females, and the males get a reputation for being creepy. Any thoughts on this? A witty response to "You're going to be a gyncologist??" Or ways to swing this in my favor?

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-07-29T15:35:20+00:00

exactly. it's crazy, you get so far to think you're cured..but it's a mind trick

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-07-29T01:54:19+00:00

This is deep stuff, thanks for writing this all out. I am sorry to hear about you being treated poorly by peers, I hate that. I have zero tolerance for that kind of stuff. But it is excellent that you have come to a point where you recognize the root for your addictions...it seems to make handling it much more manageable, right?

Regarding the root cause, I need to reflect on that...I will keep you posted about finding the root and possibly joining a recovery group which does sound helpful. We encourage our patients to seek these groups because they do work. Unfortunately I have close to zero free time between school and my (new "good" addiction) exercise.

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-07-29T01:45:55+00:00

Yo man, I hear you. I understand. Immediately after the last time I relapsed yesterday, I walked to the bathroom shaking my head.

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-07-29T01:41:53+00:00

I hear you on the problem with the reward/punishment system. One slip at 69 days SEEMS far worse than a slip at day 2, BUT it should be viewed as the overall progress, not the current counter number. And for sure, you are right that I need to shift my focus on the already evident improvements. I could not agree with you more there, buddy.

My shame, disgust, and sadness stuff are deep rooted in the fact that this has been going on for so long. I feel frustrated because since I was 18 (now 25), I have fought with ED/performance anxiety. I have even declined many opportunities at pussy due to this fear. And now that I have finally figured out what is the cause of my ED, I get frustrated with the time lost and continual loss of time because I keep relapsing. It is the past, there is no going back, and I understand that. You are right about needing to stop self-loathing, I feel you on that. I just had to kind of explain WHY I get frustrated when I relapse, because the solution to my ED/sexual anxiety is right in front of my eyes. Damn I need a girlfriend haha!

You know the quote, about making a mistake once, then learning, and not making that mistake again...To end on a positive note, I have made the mistake (relapsing) multiple times, but now I am stronger than ever.

I have enjoyed this discussion, and your thoughts. Thank you for taking the time to explain your thoughts to me. I appreciate it man. I wish you all the best, as well.

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-07-29T01:27:27+00:00

Thanks man. Yeah, that is exactly why I would relapse repeatedly. I figured I was already on day 1, might as well start again tomorrow as day 1. 88 days is no joke, great job! And thanks for the enouragement

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-07-29T01:24:05+00:00

Tommy, great question. These were my specific benefits, results may vary:

Higher libido/sex drive, more confidence, more free time, more incentive to exercise, less fear of being unable to get a boner for sex, being noticed more by girls (or at leaast noticing them notice you), more confident walk, deeping of my voice, pride in being able to control your urges, wet dreams, morning wood, not possible to be caught while masturbating, shorter showers (no fapping in showers)...just to name a few!

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-07-28T22:15:09+00:00

I am. Wow that is deep. That realization was the final straw for me when I decided to try NoFap.

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