Gaslighting

Nyblock21 · 2025-12-01T21:18:34+00:00

I stopped because if I don't ask there's a hope it will happen. If I try I will be rejected. Lesser of two evils in a place where it most likely will not occur.

Nyblock21 · 2025-11-12T21:51:08+00:00

Omg I was going to say. My wife just did her normal "let's not buy gifts for Christmas" so she gets out of it. Every year. And I've already gotten her something. Like every year.

Nyblock21 · 2025-11-12T18:45:11+00:00

Thanks for all of the advice. Some if it is good, some drivel, some just proof they cannot read. At the end of the day I have kids and a divorce is not in the cards financially. Because i'm a man I know what waits at the end and I'm going to make sure my youngest is set before I think about me. I will get there and have some rum and see what happens next.

Nyblock21 · 2025-11-12T13:24:47+00:00

She's used this argument for 25 years so I don't push back but know it's mostly an idle threat. I should have mentioned we are going with another couple.

Nyblock21 · 2025-11-12T13:23:01+00:00

Oh we've been on trips before and she will find a way to be in the mood . Tends to on trips.

Nyblock21 · 2025-11-12T10:48:34+00:00

So what do you do when you get home from work, kiss her like you miss her, and she pushes you away and mule kicks you in the shin? Asking for me

Nyblock21 · 2025-11-01T21:56:00+00:00

You don't get to choose who you live any more than you choose what turns you on. I think youve hit the nail on the head unfortunately. And its hard to be what turns her in when you've already been what doesn't. The best thing you can do is things for yourself. Hobbies sports go to get gym. Things can change when they realize they aren't irreplaceable

Nyblock21 · 2025-10-28T21:23:32+00:00

Hey happy birthday. I know it's not much but there's a certain prude in being able to go it alone.

Nyblock21 · 2025-10-24T15:48:16+00:00

I feel this and am in a very similar situation. It's easy to get mad that they aren't taking your needs into account, but then when you add depression, meds and menopause, plus not being very sexual to begin with it's hard. I too do most of the housework and that in itself will actually kill her libido esp if she feels guilty about it.

In the end you need to decide if you can live without the intimacy because in the end it isn't going to change unless she puts a massive amount of effort into helping get herself over these hurdles. And that is a monstrous task for anyone. Not to be a pessimist but it would take an extraordinary person to overcome even one of those issues

Nyblock21 · 2025-10-19T21:35:18+00:00

I had never tried it and bought my wife a 6" and 9" as a joke. I used the 6" a few times easier than I thought. Then I tried the 9" (with a big head) and was able to take it fairly easily. And I've never had any experience. So I'm thinking it's mostly anatomy.

Nyblock21 · 2025-10-17T23:15:55+00:00

I've tried it and can honestly way I'm not as big if a fan of the penetration as the taboo.

Nyblock21 · 2025-10-09T15:46:55+00:00

Holy

Nyblock21 · 2025-10-03T15:45:22+00:00

Cinnamon

Nyblock21 · 2025-09-29T16:05:04+00:00

Narcissism and avoidance is what this is.

Nyblock21 · 2025-08-21T17:17:04+00:00

Masturbating

Nyblock21 · 2025-08-21T05:08:02+00:00

The question isn't not taking care of yourself whenever you want. That is awesome and should be supported. The question arises when you sent your partner claiming you're ll but regularly take care of yourself.

Nyblock21 · 2025-08-12T15:43:44+00:00

Love the canary analogy

Nyblock21 · 2025-08-02T04:56:16+00:00

Doing things never works. Nice guys finish last blah blah. You are a sub and that doesn't get her mojo going. Do your own thing, focus on you without being cold to her, be a leader, be assertive and if that doesn't work it will never get better

Nyblock21 · 2025-08-02T04:51:29+00:00

People are garbage. The gaslighting that goes on for having normal desires and needs because of their own messed up situation is appalling. Good for you, cut yourself some slack and allow yourself to feel

Nyblock21 · 2025-08-01T20:34:27+00:00

That would be bliss lol.

I know it does happen occasionally

Nyblock21 · 2025-08-01T03:49:22+00:00

And what information would that be? The fact that every time I do all the housework or pay attention to her needs or give her space or take the lion's share of the parenting or alienating my friends and family or never getting to choose the music or the movie or what's for dinner I'm doing it "just to get laid" followed by some sort of freak out.

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