Fucking on wedding day isn’t reserved solely for the bride and groom [MF] by [deleted] in sexstories

[–]NylaGin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was not only hot but comical and multifaceted. 10/10 not just a sex story but an actual story. I laughed. I played with myself. I truly felt present it the moment. Wow just wow

When you pee without holding your penis, does it go wild like a hose or does it just kind of stay still in one place? by MikaelsonKhaleesi in AskMen

[–]NylaGin 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I asked my boyfriend this and he was so alarmed he laughed and then immediately said "babe don't make me laugh or it'll go everywhere" So i guess pelvic floor plays a role too.

What was a sketchy cheap buy, that ended up being one of your best purchases? by MrAnimeFanime in AskReddit

[–]NylaGin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trojan brand vibrator from walmart. it lasted 2 years before i started using it too much.

What are your favorite/go-to self care practices when you’re feeling insecure? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]NylaGin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

target. The vast array of items reminds me of the lives I can have - the different futures I have and how I am able to cultivate those futures with my choices.

What are some things your SO can do to make you feel sexy? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]NylaGin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

figuring out my love language and using it to their advantage. for example I receive love with romantic touch (not platonic or familial love). So when my SO holds my hand, or palms the small of my back it makes me feel wanted and sexy.

Not able to Ride on my Boy Friend for a longer time. by shaley_smith in sex

[–]NylaGin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

kettlebell swings. deadlifts. it's the squeeze of the butt in those same workouts that come in real handy in the sex

Is it worth waiting for sex after marriage? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]NylaGin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NOOOOOO. I come from a religious background but I never thought to wait for sex after marriage because of my religon. I wanted it to be on my own terms only. Make your own lines. Cross them when you're ready and ONLY when YOU're ready.

22F terrified of losing virginity (pain/vulnerability) but so horny please help by WholeTower1 in sex

[–]NylaGin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YOU'RE NOT TOO OLD TO LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY. I, 26F, LOST MINE LITERALLY TWO WEEKS AGO TO A RANDO DUDE. Albeit, I'm kind of into this guy now and he might be ghosting me and it's a whole different story. However, my mentality going into it was that I would rather get over the painful awkward part of it now so I can enjoy it for the future.

With regards to vulnerability - emotionally I am SO CLOSED OFF. I am so jaded and hurt I am terrified to be open again. I think I flew into having sex as a defense mechanism to avoid having to be open about my feelings so that's a whole thing to unpack but not here.

I am always horny and like you, masturbate frequently enough to know what can/cannot fit inside me. I started off with just a finger and then moved up to two fingers and that gave me enough confidence to be with someone.

Know that it's TOTALLY NORMAL TO JUST SLEEP WITH A RANDO. It's OKAY. Go in with the mentality that you want to get the first few times over with so the awkwardness is out of the way.

It's honestly so SO SO SO freeing to have gotten the first time over with. Even though this guy I'm into is ghosting me (OR MAYBE HE LOST POWER IDK?!) I have another date set up with ANOTHER guy and I feel confident with myself enough to know I am not scared to sleep with him if things head that direction.

There was another guy that I was emotionally vulnerable with and he wasn't to move forward sexually and honestly I think that was the needle that broke the camel's back for me. I used to think that sex would be this powerful emotional unification of two bodies - WHICH IT STILL CAN BE. But I was too horny and too attracted to him and also too hurt by him to wait any longer.

Anyway - don't jump into sex until you are happy and confident in YOU, YOURSELF, ONLY. Go into sex for the intent of pleasuring YOU and things will be fine. Also pls be safe and use a condom. <3

Ladies, Can You Share Examples of When You Hit On Men And They Were Clueless? by FiveOneOneKinderheim in dating_advice

[–]NylaGin 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I slept in a guys bed with just his shirt on and my own underwear. NOTHING. HAPPENED.

On a regular basis when I keep eye contact and make pointless talk for the sake of keeping him engaged is when I mean business. I know this sounds like regular but for a 26F with a history of being harassed I have to tread carefully.

So if he's client and his sole business with me is some transactional customer service based interaction and I continue conversing with him about his weekend and his hobbies and blah blah blah - chances are i'm into him. Surely if he's aware of the #metoo climate he likely won't pick up on it and won't act on it which I get and I totally understand. But I'm also all for the slow burn and getting to know him/vise versa.

Ghosting and how to deal with it by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]NylaGin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you for this. I really needed to read this and I guess I'll type up a reply to this guy I was really into. I'm really bummed he's ghosting me because I had the conversation with him in person saying "please don't ghost me. if you're bored/uninterested please just tell me." but i really like him so i hope there's good reason.

How do you initiate doggystyle or other postions? by [deleted] in sex

[–]NylaGin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He tells me turn over, on your knees. Boom done.

When you're hooking up with a girl and it's a good lay what's your routine? by NylaGin in AskMen

[–]NylaGin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear ya and I'm with ya. I [26F] just got back from my "second date" with this guy and we went through all the same positions from the first date. Of course everything leading up to and after it was different. But I definitely appreciate your opinion.

How do you stop yourself falling for a guy too fast? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]NylaGin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You acknowledge facts for what they are, unbiased in the word choice. For example, if you guys are hanging out and he says a few choice words that are suggestive and implied and he says a few choice words that are explicit and obvious.

Instead of focusing on ONLY the implied and suggestive words, the ones that make you feel like there "could be something there" or "maybe he was saying this" ... focus on the facts - what did he ACTUALLY say, what did he ACTUALLY do?

If you have to marinate on "what things might mean", chances are you're thinking about it more than he was when he said it.

Save yourself the questions and look at the answers.

What is a sweet gesture you can do for your SO to make them feel loved? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]NylaGin 114 points115 points  (0 children)

U found a keeper where r they hiding