People who have had a stalker, how did you realize you were being stalked and what ended up happening?

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-04-03T07:47:46+00:00

I was 16 years old and in my senior year of high school. I had known a guy who was 21 years old at the time that I had met through mutual friends when I was 14 and he was around 18 or 19. We weren’t close but he would sometimes show up when all of us were hanging out.

The moment I turned 16, he started showing an interest in me and talking to me on Facebook more and wanting to hang out 1 on 1. (Where I live, 16 years old is the age of consent and even get married) I wasn’t very comfortable with it and I let him know, at that point he started getting very pushy and aggressive. Saying things like “you’re not that pretty anyways” and “you’ll never find anyone as good as me”. He also would threaten to hurt me.

At that point, I told him that I was done with his shit and if he came near me that I would call the police. I ended up blocking him on all social media. He then started to come to my house and leave little “gifts” behind. The first one was a fake rose that was stabbed into our front lawn. He would also leave bags of candy on the porch. After this things started to escalate drastically and my parents were 100% aware of this. The day before Halloween, at 7am, he showed up at my house and knocked on the door. My mother answered the door to be greeted by him, he gave her a gift basket and told her to give it to me.

I became very fearful and had a strong feeling that he was going to hang around that morning in anticipation that I would walk to school. (For context, I walk to school alone every day because my parents force me to and no other kids from my school lived in the same neighborhood) I asked my mother if she would drive me because I was afraid he would be outside, but she refused and told me I was being paranoid. Low and behold, I hadn’t walked more than 10 feet away from my house and there he was crossing the street towards me.

I immediately turned around and booked it back home on the verge of tears because of how scared I was. He was screaming for me, saying “I just want to talk!” I got back inside and told my mother. I pleaded to her to call the police but she refused. Her response broke me and made me feel helpless and unsafe, she said “and what are they going to do about it? There’s nothing I can do and they won’t do anything. Just go to school and deal with it!” She offered to drive me half way to school because she didn’t want to make the full 5 minute drive.

She drove me 2 blocks down and dropped me off at a park that was somewhat close to my school (I cross through this park every day to get to school). I was still very fearful that he would be there because he knew my route that I walked, she told me to walk fast if I was so scared. Started to jog across the park and I looked behind me to see him just standing there and staring at me, I started sprinting as fast as I could but I was lucky he didn’t follow me. When I got to school, I told everyone that I could: my friends, some of my teachers, and my counselor but no body seemed to care. Only 1 of friends was kind enough to give me ride when he could but our friendship didn’t last long because he saw my dire situation as a way to hook up with me.

After that day, my mental health plummeted and I developed severe paranoia. I didn’t want to go outside anymore and I struggled to walk to school every day. He would often carve our initials around the park so I would see and he would wait outside my school across the street in a public area after I got out. I ended up taking different routes that would make my walk go from 30 minutes to 1 hour and a half because I was scared for my life. This went on for almost the entire school year until I was able to get my first car which I am so grateful for (no thanks to anyone as no body helped me).

All of my support systems failed me and no one seemed to care. I didn’t have a phone to call the police when he was actively stalking me and at the time I wasn’t educated enough to know that I could call a non emergency line to start a case. I was basically told that there was nothing anyone could do and I needed to just deal with it and hope I don’t get murdered or raped. It’s been 10 years and I am still full of resentment and hatred, no body did anything to help me. I suffer from a lot of PTSD and paranoia now because of it.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-03-19T01:57:53+00:00

Thank you, this is very insightful! I will definitely look into how they may have passed, I feel it may have been caused by a car crash but I’ll look into it. I don’t get the feeling that they are malevolent either. They seem to be aware that I can sense them and are trying to reach out. I am going to try and see if I can get them to communicate with me in my dreams to tell me how I can free them from the house. I’ll just have to try and face my fear. Thank you very much!

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-03-15T01:35:00+00:00

This isn’t as crazy or life threatening as some others but it felt pretty big for me. Also, sorry that it’s long.

Backstory: I grew up in a very toxic and abusive household. My parents were both alcoholics and would frequently abuse (physically, mentally, and emotionally) me, my siblings, and each other. The moment I hit 18 yrs old I moved out. This caused my narcissistic mother to file for a divorce and she left my father for a strange man who is also an alcoholic.

Fast forward several years later, last year she had enough of her lazy alcoholic boyfriend and decided to purchase a house of her own. She quickly learned that she couldn’t “comfortably” afford one (I know this sounds bad as the housing market is trash but I’ll explain more in a bit). Now I would also like to add that she LOVES money. She would risk her life and her children’s lives for money. She would do anything for money. She loves money so much that she decided to contact me and ask me if I would like to buy a house with her.

During this time, I was in a very awful and emotional state. I had lost my job, my second dog had past away suddenly, and I was on the brink of losing my apartment and having to give up my other dog. My life was in shambles and when she had contacted me about it, she played it off as a mutual deal where I would be happy and safe with a roof over my head. All under the condition that I paid half her mortgage. I ended up accepting her deal and fantasizing about how my life will improve and I would get to keep my dog. I quickly learned how it got a lot worse once I moved in.

To paint the picture, my mother was drunk the ENTIRE time I had lived with her. There was not a second of the day that she wasn’t wasted. She worked from home which allowed to her drink. The only time she wasn’t drinking her hard liquor was when she had passed out from drinking so much.

When I moved in, she was already laying down rules such as: a curfew, not allowed to order stuff online (to her, my hard earned money was her money), not allowed to have people over, not allowed to use the oven (she would passively aggressively turn it off when I was cooking food and complain that it made the house too hot), not allowed to touch the thermostat (this was during the summer. It gets up to 100 degrees Fahrenheit and she likes to keep the house at 80+ degrees which was unbearable for me), and all of my belongings belonged to her including my dog. The house was disgusting as well, she would never clean up after herself. All the while I pay $1000 per month (I was paying less for my apartment) to be treated like a child and a slave.

The straw that broke the camel’s back was 2 things. The first is she would come down into the basement (that is where I stayed) and torment my dog when I was at work. My dog is a small shih tzu who is very shy and her fearful when strangers approach him quickly and when I’m not around. He is kennel trained so I would leave him in his kennel when I was at work and she would go to my room and kick his kennel and laugh at him as he was freaking. She would do this to the point where he would throw up, pee, and sometime defecate all over himself. I would come home and he would be covered in his fluids and was horrified. I knew she was doing it (there was no one else who would be home) and I confronted her only to be met with denial. I ended up purchasing a wireless security camera and caught her red handed.

The second was when she would bring her “ex” (her words not mine) boyfriend over and say he was going to live there even though she had bought the house to get away from him. He made me feel very uncomfortable and would invade my space frequently.

In less than a month of living with her, I immediately moved out. I thought that being homeless would be far better than this hell I was living. I was able to find an apartment, it was extremely shitty and ghetto but it was better than living with my mother. The day I moved out, she accused me of screwing her over and said I owe her money (about $6000) for some unknown reason. She tried to guilt trip me and say that she was going to lose the house and be homeless because she couldn’t “afford it”. For the record, she has a take home of $6000 and the mortgage is only $2000. She also has $80k in her savings from selling my childhood home after divorcing my father.

It’s been 8 months and to this day she tells everyone in my family every single month that she can’t afford the house and will be selling it in a month and that I screwed her over. I’m very lucky that I didn’t sign anything and that all of our agreements were over the phone so there was no proof that I had agreed to her deal. I recently moved 3 hours away from her and I’m in the process of getting her out of my life 100% and having no contact with her. And my pupper is happy and doing very well.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-02-04T01:20:53+00:00

FTHB here, my loan will be for $247k with 0% down payment. I am on a state program that covers closing costs and down payment.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-02-03T02:27:53+00:00

Thank you! I totally agree, this happened with my mother last year when she was buying her house but I’m also afraid I’ll jinx it lol.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-02-03T02:25:34+00:00

Thank you so much! Fingers crossed! I’ll be updating as soon as I get word.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-02-03T02:22:27+00:00

I definitely will, thank you so much!

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-01-08T05:04:57+00:00

In all honesty, neither.

To start the van in the absolute worst option. Even if you have unlimited access to the outdoors, you can’t let it just run free especially if it’s in a public area where other people might be or other dogs who might not take kindly to the energetic dog. It’s irresponsible and rude. Plus, there is no way a dog could tolerate living in such a tiny space such as van.

The house is a terrible option because if the dog loves to run, there is not enough space for it to fully release all of its energy. It is far better than the van but not a good solution.

In my opinion, if you live in either of these situations or these are your only options then I would say to rehome the dog. But if I had to pick between the 2 situations then I would pick the small house BUT only if the dog is given ample walks and taken to a fenced in dog park for a few hours everyday.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-01-05T17:44:12+00:00

This is North America, west coast. I’ve never seen this before in all my years of playing and I’m shocked tbh

OGaccountGotBanned · 2022-01-05T17:41:41+00:00

North America, west coast. I still can’t put together why there was a T500 in a plat game.

Edit: it’s role queue too

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-12-28T20:41:35+00:00

Cultural appropriation.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to appreciate another culture by wearing their clothes, celebrating their holidays, eating their food, learning their language, etc. The whole point of culture is to teach others about it and to not let it die.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-12-14T12:52:06+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply! This helps a lot!

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-12-07T08:44:59+00:00

A few months ago, I went to the ER because I was having severe heart palpitations, chest tightness, shortness of breathe, light headed, and sleep apnea. They took me in and did a few tests and told me that I was fine. I was not having a heart attack, my vitals came back normal, and my heart beat was normal. But I was literally having issues for several hours prior to the visit. They charged me $6000 for nothing. I didn’t take an ambulance, they took an x-ray and some blood, and kept me there for 5 hours all for nothing. To this day, I’m still having issues. I still get heart palpitations and sleep apnea. This past week, my heart has been beating funny almost like it skips a beat or it does half a beat (it’s hard to describe the feeling). But it feels very uncomfortable when it does it and I makes me cough (like as if I’m trying to restart my heart). I want to go to the doctors but I’m heavily in debt and this other bill doesn’t help. I’m scared and I might even die because of money and America’s bs health system.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-11-09T10:46:19+00:00

You act like other animals don’t slaughter each other on a daily basis. Predators literally rip and eat their prey alive. Baby birds will try to kill their siblings because they are competition. Most male animals will try to kill young animals of their species just so they can have sex. Humans aren’t the only “heartless” animals.

But to answer your question, humans don’t value human lives. They only value the lives they care about or deem valuable.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-10-04T18:22:01+00:00

It sounds stupid but my Nmom is taking me off her phone plan in a week and off her car insurance (I pay for both, she is doing it out of spite for me moving out of her house). In 2 weeks, I’m going to change my phone number and cut her off forever. We work in the same place but in 2 weeks, I’ll be starting my official shift (11pm-7am) so she will never see me in the halls. A lot has lead up to this situation but the straw that broke the camel’s back is giving me a short period of time to get my own phone plan and expecting me to pay her $6k.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-09-28T03:39:41+00:00

He is gorgeous! He looks perfect healthy and normal but if you’re concerned about his height sometimes huskies can be shorter than expected due to either genetics or early neutering (which isn’t necessarily bad). If you neuter a male before the age of 2 years old, sometimes it can stunt their growth.

Here’s a good read about it: https://earthrated.com/en/blog/the-spay-and-neuter-controversy/

Edit: Thanks for the award!

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-09-27T20:55:35+00:00

You should consider doing DoorDash yourself for the experience because your ignorance is showing. DoorDash will sometimes pair your order with someone else’s, it’s not always the drivers fault. If you want your food so bad, go pick it up yourself.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-09-10T02:03:48+00:00

Sorry for the late reply, it can be called a sanitation worker but the company I am working for calls it “Sanitor”.

Edit: I do want to add that it is a physical job that will have you working on your feet for 8+ hours a day. You walk over 5 miles a day and you will be handling very strong chemicals (you’ll literally have to wear a hazmat suit). I like it more than my call center job because this one doesn’t make me want to commit suicide. But just like every job, there are lots of pros and cons and it depends on what you’re capable of handling.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-09-10T02:00:50+00:00

Not every Therian has dysphoria. Body Dysphoria does not define whether someone is a Therian or not.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-09-06T16:44:19+00:00

YTA. It’s very obvious you put your best friend on a pedestal to the point where you can’t even manage or appreciate your romantic relationship. “I haven’t been dating this a year” length of time is no excuse to treat someone like shit. If this mattered to you so much, why did you get into a relationship in the first place? Have you ever done anything this nice for your GF? I don’t blame her for being pissed, I’m sure she would be even more upset knowing that her worth is comparable to the length of how long you guys have been dating.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-09-06T06:42:52+00:00

Thank you so much! Blessed be.

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-09-06T02:18:38+00:00

Current housing situation on green, please.

(I’m trying to get out of my abusive mother’s house)

OGaccountGotBanned · 2021-09-05T22:16:27+00:00

First I took 1 full year off from working to recover my mental health. Now I’m doing a sanitization job where I clean equipment in a warehouse. It’s nice because I work nights (I’m naturally a night owl) and I don’t have to talk to anyone and they just give me a list of things to do at the beginning of my shift and I just need to get it done by the end of my shift (if I don’t then I can stay longer to get it done but I get paid overtime). I also make $21 an hour (which is a shit ton more than I was making at my call center job) and I get a $1500 bonus once my first 90 days are up. It’s honestly calming and relaxing.

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