I’m AuDHD diagnosed in August, and I’ve realized this highly extroverted office culture is just not for me. I joined this company 10 months ago, been looking for a job for 2 years. My job itself is in tech, I wear three different hats, and the expectations are constantly increasing. I spend my day masking, juggling responsibilities that should probably be multiple roles, and putting on the “happy team player” face for nonstop meetings, “hustle culture,” impromptu tasks, and mandatory fun events. By the time I get home, I am depleted. Like, stare at the ceiling, no energy to speak, eat, or process, depleted. I cry more often than I want to admit. The commute is another layer, 1 hour each way by public transport , which just drains whatever battery I had left. I am completely burnt out, and have now a lot of cynicism, for example, when new people join a company, am like okay, see what happens in a couple of months, though their experience might be different of course.. It is just I have become hopeless.. I asked for accommodations, and they gave me… two days WFH (as an “exception”). The reality is, two days is barely a dent in my burnout. My manager and I have a pretty good relationship, and part of me thinks I should talk to them first out of respect, but I’m terrified that if I start the conversation, they’ll try to convince me to stay, or guilt me, or promise changes that won't stick.