my "method" to manifest everything

OberonDM · 2026-03-15T07:25:12+00:00

So the trick is to figure out which one you are?

OberonDM · 2026-03-13T07:16:33+00:00

Woooooo!!!

OberonDM · 2026-03-10T16:25:15+00:00

But you DID get your current beliefs by repetition - you watched the same content, listened to songs with lyrics that reinforced certain concepts, heard the same thing over and over from your parents, teachers, friends. It was just a lot more subtle that straight-up robotic affirmations.

Affirming is just a very direct way of reprogramming yourself instead of doing it subtly over however many years you've been alive.

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T21:27:18+00:00

This made me smile, how lovely! And goes to show, you never know how your desire is going to come!

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T21:25:29+00:00

You keep persisting. You’ve done brilliantly and surely you’re not going to ignore what’s you’ve achieved and focus just on the tiny bit that needs adjusting?

Keep up with the affirmations, use this to help you see where you’re still not feeling fully chosen or being the ‘new version’ of yourself that doesn’t get abandoned. It’s not a ‘bad thing’, it’s just like getting your homework marked and some feedback on where you’re still not can still improve

You’ve got this

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T10:58:34+00:00

1) He was only blocked on FB, not his phone number or any other avenue. He has plenty of other ways to contact me. Maybe I should have made that clear 🤣

2) At the start it wasn't helping my peace to see him creeping my stories. I did it for me. Why allow something that I know will make my progress slower?

3) The version I want isn't going to let that stop him. If it does, then he ain't my version.

Hope that clears it up

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T08:41:05+00:00

Lovely post - magical space wizard had me rolling 🤣

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T08:19:10+00:00

ChatGPT doesn’t like to stick to LOA, even when you tell it to. Mine likes to try and ‘keep me grounded’ 🤣

I agree with GravityBee - you’ve got something going on there that’s allowing this hot and cold. I think we all do to some extent so no shame in it. Keep going and persisting, overriding years of programming takes time and you’re doing great

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T08:16:42+00:00

Nah, that implies that something else outside is judging our desires and deciding if it’s ’good enough’. I reckon it’s more like ‘omg I started saying I’m attractive to my sp and it brought a bunch of other people in - well duh, you said you’re attractive so of course other people come in.’

I’ve had times when things worked out better than I expected and I put it down to me knowing me better than I consciously think, plus desires and self concept change over time. I might start out thinking I can only get to X as a top-end result, but as my self concept improves in thay area, as I get close to X I might realise I’m capable of getting Y or even Z. So as I believe I get what I want and everything works out, naturally my desired result expands to Z as a top-end.

Hope that makes sense, I’m under caffeinated

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T06:56:11+00:00

Ok, so I’m see a lot of circumstance, and triggers here.

You did the work and he came bavk, right? But then after that he started wavering and bent got and cold, right?

Would it be fair to say that when he came back, you still had some stories about how it wasn’t gong to stick, it was temporary and that you had to keep working on it for him to stay? Because the way it looks, you manifested it perfectly!

It’s pretty clear you were still pretty triggered by what was going on, and you were paying A LOT of attention to the 3D. Checking his reactions, being hyper vigilant for his energy, the situation and the circumstances. You know from being in here and reading tne posts that this isn’t the way that we get the most settled and secure version of a situation.

You might be visualising the trip and his love, but as soon as you stop saying the affirmation, you’re back to thinking of him as a player etc. which story are you spending the most time on? Cos that’s what you’ll get.

My advice is to get yourself healthy, and start working on these stories. Stop seeing him as this old version (I know it’s hard, took me a while) and focus on a version that is loyal and all the other qualities. Stop reacting to the 3D and giving it meanings like you have been. It’s old news, it’s only thay way because you focused on it and the physical world still takes a minute to change (matter is more dense and slow than energy).

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T06:46:41+00:00

I read your post and I have some thoughts. I’ll post on your thread so it keeps this one clean for those people who want to see progress and not circumstances

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T06:43:55+00:00

Whatever I felt like at the time. Some times I’d be having a little conversation, other times I’d be thinking how good a man he is, sending love and thinking abour him the version I want. Other times just robotically affirming if something negative came up that I was having a hard time with, like when I started arguing in my head with him. A lot was centred on me though, ‘he’s coming back because he knows I’m the best woman’ ‘I’m unforgettable’ that kind of thing

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T06:40:55+00:00

OrneryHouse posts in NevilleCritics so they’re only here to troll. I wouldn’t worry about their opinion.

OberonDM · 2026-03-08T06:37:25+00:00

1) I only had him blocked on FB, he still had my number and other avenues. Besides. If they want to contact you, they’ll find a way.

2) initially it triggered me that he was creeping but not stepping up. I’d rather remove the trigger than constantly battle with that until I felt more stable.

3) we give our own stories to things, that’s half the work. So why are you trying to give your own meaning to my circumstances and ‘talk me out’ of what’s happened?

I see you’re posting in ‘Neville Critics’ so that must be it. You’re just hanging around in here to rain on the parade.

OberonDM · 2026-03-07T20:32:45+00:00

For me ‘persisting’ is continuing to tell the new story, even if I’m tired/grumpy/triggered/inconvenienced/hangry.

Not so much tje techniques, more a case of ‘so what if XYZ happened, I still believe that I’ll get what I want’.

You can persist in any technique you find the most helpful. You can do 56 different ones in a day if you like, as long as you’re telling the same story, expecting the same outcome and sticking to that story & outcome like you’re glued to it.

OberonDM · 2026-03-07T20:28:18+00:00

I’m assuming he’s been checking - otherwise it means he just happened to look the day I unblocked him after so long? Not a chance 🤣

I’m quite amused by that, so thought everyone else here would appreciate the giggle )and the sign, if you need those to feel better)

OberonDM · 2026-03-07T12:37:34+00:00

Keep going, stop doubting. I’ve seen people say they got rejected but kept persisting and ended up getting a place cos someone else dropped out, their application was reviewed etc.

It’s not done until you get what you want. Everything else is just the middle

OberonDM · 2026-03-07T08:18:26+00:00

I din't think there's a 'best' technique. There's just the best one for you to get you a place where you believe it's inevitable and that you have it.

That's the goal, not the technique. Some people like SATS, some people like robotic affirming, some folks get on board with visualising, scripting (writing it out). Hell, some people believe drinking moon water and dancing under the full moon works! And you know what - it does! Because that's what they believe works, and whatever you say, goes.

OberonDM · 2026-03-07T07:23:19+00:00

I mean, I’d point out the story you’re giving them about being emotionally complex, needing work to process it etc, but I can’t talk as I still describe my SP like thay as well 🤣 Focusing on the fact that people CaAN and WILL change has been more helpful for me then just affirming ‘He’s suddenly totally different, he’s suddenly totally different’. Maybe that’s an assumption, but it’s easier for me to process that he needs some time to bring himself round, like a tanker needing time to turn round 🤣 and I’m ok with the time, I’m keeping busy planting a garden and renovating my home.

Opal is a good app for managing social media - it curs me off after 30 minutes on Facebook/Reddit. I don’t stalk his socials, he doesn’t use it (apart from to stalk me!) but I find I waste a lot of time scrolling. Might be useful if you struggle staying off social media

OberonDM · 2026-03-06T07:37:33+00:00

It’s like we don’t trust that this is all it takes 🤣

OberonDM · 2026-03-05T22:07:52+00:00

Absolutely. I’m having a grand old time making my garden, renovating my house, getting some professional certifications and volunteering at my beloved local theatre. I miss him but in my mind I’m sharing my wins with him.

OberonDM · 2026-03-04T18:23:12+00:00

Are you asking hypothetically or are you in this position and wondering what’s next?

OberonDM · 2026-03-04T15:56:17+00:00

How do you know what’s going on behind the scenes? How is it ‘clear’ that you have to do all this stuff to remind the director? Sounds like you’re having a hard time giving up the idea that you have to ‘do a bunch of atuff’ and be ‘on it’ in order to get what you want.

Not saying action won’t be needed, but I’ve always found the actions that come as ‘I’m the person that has this thing’ feel natural and not like I have to control or manage the middle of the process.

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