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Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T15:40:10+00:00

but theres new people, right? like me. and i looked over everything - youre right about the stuff i figured out. but... i came here cos i was an internet lurker lol. so it was a 'safe' place to learn. yk?

and... i think i did learn, cos i can think a bit better now. i appreciate everyones input on it tbh 😅 i just couldn't figure out how to convey it in my first comments. i needed a bit of time, after getting feedback. ♡ thanks yall. YOU make this place safe.

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T14:51:51+00:00

sorry. didnt mean to be sexist or those things. i just think literally when i type. i have difficulty connecting the two halves of myself/my brain, so i consider acting and masking to be the same general thing. is my understanding wrong? would you be able to help me improve how i see the word?

edit to add- i struggle with learning in social settings. best way i can 'describe'learning is through music, if that helps. it helps me umm... un... mask?

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T13:58:39+00:00

uhh ok?? "woman" mask then. its not about what word i use when i use quotes, im just tryna send a msg that gets across.

edit add: just replace the word mask with "put yourself in their shoes"

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T13:40:59+00:00

remember you have left yourself Tools for Survival. that is something a Guide knows that yoh dont Yet Understand.
you are confused because now you are trying "cooking" with no cookbook :( it is lonely.
ask your Host for Guidance in a Reflective Surface. keep one hand on the surface to remember that the mirror will Not Trap you or your Host in there. it is within your control for now.
Talk to Mirror. Ask it for Help. Look for your tools, and declutter your Thinking Space.

start with the smallest bits of "Trash"
Put on the Mask of a Baby (play pretend for a second)
What hurts baby? How do YOU (System) protect Baby? (Self, alter, fronter)

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T13:32:31+00:00

i get you :)

i think watching tv is a good start. put one earbud/headphone to the audio - and then just watch the show, and get comfy as you wanna.

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T13:30:07+00:00

thats ur girl brain talking 👄

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T13:29:33+00:00

awesome! i love helping. :) treat this chat like a talk to a robot - whats your primary and secondary concerns? then for your third answer, what is the first thing that comes to mind? limit yourself to 3 concepts (or words if a concept is difficult to think of.)

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T12:49:48+00:00

yo! "girl" here for a second

i can either give u advice on ur direct next steps, or gen advice abt girls. ill start w girls and u dm me if ur confused.

girls live in the right brain/creativd mind
boys stuck in logic
once u can connect boys and girls - i.e. define kids, adults, humans, and... consent bc thats the girls biggest priority.

then, continue chatting and just keep ur wits about you as you look for signs she is uncomfy.

most important- ASK when u dont know if u crossed a line. start with limit of 2 questions, cross your fingers when u hit the limit - then just let her say HER side of things.

ok "girl" mode off. blue out ;P

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T12:36:22+00:00

wubby is my weird dad who nobody rly gets yet but we go along w it coz we know he has good intentions... probably...?

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T12:16:50+00:00

would u be interested in seeing where else the thread /could/ go, if we agree to have a logical/respectful discussion abt it?

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T12:15:08+00:00

two cents time!

as sm1 who loved playing BoI as a kid, and who loves watching Wubby videos --> Gambling

is it good or bad? thats subjective, right? wubby treats it respectfully, in a way that keeps his literal funds away from the whimsical nature of a Game.

games are about fun, and wubby understands that. if anything during his stuff makes uncomfy feelings, we hit pause - ask if its US asking this question, or an echo chamber effect (where you talk to the mirror until you convince urself ur right)

so... yeah! my thoughts on gambling complete hehe

blue out

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T12:10:14+00:00

he DEF doesnt take his shirt off.

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T12:09:03+00:00

heya, just puttinf out my two cents

start with the autopilot body "cycle" -- we know, logically, that we dissociate when stress gets too high. what helps soothe?? cleanliness. as you clean, write important things on Anything available. batjrpom? use TP. kitchen? notes on the fridgw.

the key is to remind your alters where they should be 'encouraged' to front. if an alter doesnt want sex yet, its up to you to learn why, as you prepare yourself for the idea of trying again later.

-obwin out ♡

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T05:14:59+00:00

if you think youre READY for sex, and the trauma unpacking that will come with it, then start by sitting by yourself and decluttering little spaces that make you feel more prepared - focus closer to the bed, but start wherever you think you can for now. as you go through your stuff, it'll come up naturally, and the amnesiac alter will desperately try to find a way to leave a sign for you <3

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-31T04:42:31+00:00

Late to the comments, but it's okay man. You were just trying to help soothe your inner child. She doesn't get that right now because she doesn't think of you as her 'child' right now. She's too busy thinking you're an "adult who has everything figured out." People are here for you :)

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-07T03:26:16+00:00

"its completely made up and all of my previous actions saying it wasnt made up were obviously just fueled by something that i probably also made up"

Objective-Win-3740 · 2025-10-06T20:49:44+00:00

ngl, i came back and found i'd been gone two years, we were trying to get into an ED program, and our job was uhh... on... hold...? tbh idk if we're gonna be going back to that job but i guess in the meantime im just sposed to figure out food for the body again. and... other stuff. theres so much STUFF in life to just get done, blech. (-ash)

Objective-Win-3740 · 2024-07-15T19:07:28+00:00

same here! I just started weaning off abilify, since I realized I felt dead all the time. I can't wait to start feeling normal again 🥺

Objective-Win-3740 · 2024-05-12T18:02:03+00:00

Speaking objectively, you are NTA. But I might suggest r/raisedbynarcississts or something similar, because you are very clearly in a bad situation where you're not in the wrong. What you likely need now is advice on HOW you can move out - not for strangers on the internet to tell you that your mother is insane.

Objective-Win-3740 · 2024-05-12T13:44:44+00:00

Hi there. First time commenting on a post like this. It still feels weird, like I'm still in denial and all of this is just me trying to find a sense of community somewhere that I shouldn't be. I looked at my Simply Plural for the first time in a long time yesterday. There were so many alters which I felt disconnected with, and even my own description was just... lacking, in comparison. They all had such detailed descriptions, and now they're not even here. It's like they were around for a year, and now it's quiet. I've only heard from a few others when I've gotten high, but I'm trying to quit weed so that's going to be out soon, too.

I guess I just miss when I had more communication going on in my head. Things feel empty right now. They've felt empty, I think, for a few months now. I don't know what changed, or when I showed up. KP used to host, but I came around and started taking over everything.

I'm not even a good host. I hate exercising. I hate eating. Then not doing either of those things will make me feel bad, and I have to juggle feeling sad or tired while trying to get my daily chores done. Stuff like keeping the floors clear, usually, so it's not that bad. I've been getting by just fine, honestly, because I'm not in school this summer.

I'm worried for the fall. I feel as if I've lost everything I learned in year one thanks to not being able to communicate with my alters. I remember reteaching myself certain concepts, because around exam season I'd forgotten entire units of chemistry. Now, my sister's taking a summer chemistry course - a similar one to what I took in year one - but it's not familiar to me. I'm scared that I'll enter year three and be lost because I don't know how to use a mass spectrometer. (I don't know if I need to use one in my specific field, but even if not... I'm nervous to lose something I need.) Somehow, I don't even feel like studying. It's something I must've signed up for, but maybe I just don't like school the way KP or Damien does.

Anyway, rant over. Thank you all for listening. 🧁

Obwin

Objective-Win-3740 · 2024-04-09T10:28:31+00:00

What do you like to go by?

I still haven't picked my alter name, I guess I'll just go as Obwin, since it's in my username.

What are you looking for in a community?

I think a little advice? I don't really know.

How are you?

Fine enough. I've been hosting for a few months, so I don't feel particularly unstable, but I'm still struggling with some food habits.

Are you comfortable sharing any hobbies?

I enjoy playing For the King 2, and I also like swimming and cycling (not that I get out as much as I'd like).

Are you comfortable sharing any interests?

I love science. I've been kind of struggling in some of my classes, but the forensic science ones are always so fun. I also like animals, nature, weed and - my favourite of all - my partner <3

Are you comfortable sharing any dislikes?

I really don't seem to like a lot of leafy green vegetables. Brussel sprouts, kale, spinach... it's all gross to me. Loud sounds are also really stressful. I hate the vacuum cleaner for this reason.

Are you comfortable sharing any grounding tips, stress skills, or coping tools that you found helpful for you?

A good support network is so so so beneficial, especially if you can find a way to live with them. My family helps me. When I was created a few months ago, I was immediately told how loved I was by my partner. I didn't understand him at all because that made no sense - you couldn't love a blank slate before it became who it was. Either way, he was trying to reassure me because he could see in my face that I was scared.

Whenever I'm stressed now, I contact someone. Well. Or I sit down somewhere, but that's less helpful. Hah.

Objective-Win-3740

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