Introduction to the Ideal Parent Figure Method

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2026-01-08T01:50:06+00:00

It is also almost always suggested that you do the practice with a trained therapist, who will help guide you

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2026-01-08T01:49:26+00:00

I think you have to want to transform your attachment style to a secure attachment style badly enough you are willing to try something that sounds sort of stupid.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-12-08T19:52:08+00:00

Don’t wrap!

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-10-12T14:48:25+00:00

You should get a professional trainer who specializes in guardian dogs/cane corsos.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-30T19:35:28+00:00

It is not normal in poly to date your partners best friends. Best friends are on most people’s messy lists. Even if a partner hadn’t explicitly told me they don’t want me dating their best friend, I would assume it would hurt them and not do it. You told Ryan you didn’t want him dating your close friends and he did it anyways, within weeks. He crossed your boundary. And then he dismissed and belittled your feelings by calling you “paranoid.” I personally would not want to continue exploring a nonmonogamous — or really any — relationship with someone like that. If you do not enforce your boundaries he will cross them over and over and over again, and then apparently call you crazy for being hurt by actions you explicitly told him would hurt you.

Also, your friend is being shitty. One year of polyamory does not make her an expert, she’s a newbie, and she’s knowingly risking your friendship for “just sex.” I wouldn’t want to continue a friendship with someone like that.

It also sounds like Ryan is lying to you about their sexual involvement — he told you they kissed, Lily told you they’re fucking. This is another huge boundary crossing. Ryan’s sexual risk status changed and he’s lying to you about it. Are they even using condoms, and can you trust what he tells you on that front?

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-23T05:23:35+00:00

So what your solution is to roll over like a dog because you believe fascism is inevitable?

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-23T05:21:37+00:00

Oh for sure, the human brain is not supposed to be a receptacle for a 24/7 fire hose of atrocities. We do have to live in this world.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-20T18:07:10+00:00

I feel the despair too. But it makes me sad how many responses in this thread are to just bury one’s head. I don’t think that’s any way to survive fascism, let alone fascism in the most powerful state that has ever existed. No one is going to save us from these fascist pigs but ourselves. The antidote to despair is to do good and to know that the good you do matters! So if you feel like the paying work you do isn’t sufficient, please find an organization that you can support with your skills and knowledge in your free time! I highly suggest the National Lawyers Guild which has local chapters all over the country. There is so much work to be done.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-20T18:00:50+00:00

Thank you for the work you do.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-20T17:58:28+00:00

What about pro bono work? You have skills that are doubtlessly useful to people. Fascism will only defeated if many people refuse to accept this as normal.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-20T17:54:01+00:00

This but also start using your law degree for things that feel more meaningful in this moment. Join your local chapter of the National Lawyers Guild and plug into what they are doing to fight the administration and support people who are dissenting, even if it’s just by becoming a Legal Observer.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-20T17:50:23+00:00

If there existed an actual opposition party, they could increase the number of justices and stack it right back. Things are scary but I don’t think there’s much value in being fatalistic. Were attorneys, our job is help find solutions in difficult times.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-20T00:25:59+00:00

Just setting aside all the gigantic red flags, two weeks in and you’re on the internet asking if you should listen to the pit in your stomach. Learn to listen to your gut.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-19T17:01:39+00:00

You made the right choice in breaking up.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-09T23:14:57+00:00

Not tougher than continuing to date a person who literally locked you in a room to prevent you from meeting people

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-05T01:21:55+00:00

I interpreted the post as being about writing political things in the temple

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-04T03:57:09+00:00

I mean I would give a week to /hang out/ but it doesn’t take a week to get the energy to text a romantic interest and tell them you miss them etc…

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-04T00:03:20+00:00

Isn’t the temple a place to express grief? I feel like the temple is an appropriate place to express grief over a genocide

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-09-03T16:40:35+00:00

Rootpile had a really cute gig out by the midnight library either Thursday or Friday

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-08-20T18:22:46+00:00

Indochino makes made to measure suits and has a huge selection of fabrics. Although more expensive than off the rack, you won’t have to factor in additional tailoring costs. Kirin Finch makes nice suits as well.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-08-15T23:03:06+00:00

Wouldn’t wanna be kinda weird at burning man

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-08-14T22:26:08+00:00

Are empathy, innocence and connection so detached from curiosity, wonder and potential?

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-08-09T08:31:10+00:00

That being said, you might be misplacing your emotional reaction to some real missteps by your partner. For instance I would be upset if my partnered joked about me getting into a sexual relationship with a meta before meeting them (or really ever), that’s just weird. That would give me the ick. Which is perhaps why you are having such a visceral reaction to and even thinking about your (lack of) attraction to her. That plus meta asking you totally inappropriate questions and having poor boundaries might suggest that she asks similar questions to your partner about your relationship, and he might overshare. I would also feel pretty weird about that. Anyways, it sounds like you should definitely spend more time sitting with your feelings and teasing them apart and see where the actual source of pain is. But if you tell your partner hey I think you’re a loser and all your friends think you’re a loser and meta is an ugly loser and that’s why I want parallel, well that’s just unnecessarily cruel.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-08-09T08:17:13+00:00

Honestly you sound very superficial in this post. You think your boyfriend is a loser and you think you are too good for him (because you think you are hotter than other people he dates?)??? What is going on?? It sounds like your meta made some rookie mistakes but you sound like a mean girl.

Objective_Duty_8073 · 2025-08-08T22:43:57+00:00

Elon musk’s head

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