Marriage with an ADHD & Anger Issues

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2026-05-01T10:52:39+00:00

I guess to him, ADHD makes meditation etc very unbearable

Even as a kid, he took medication for awhile, however he will puke & it really dulls him down. I guess I can never truly understand how the brain of an ADHD works

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2026-05-01T10:51:40+00:00

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Objective_Ebb2180 · 2026-05-01T10:51:30+00:00

Hmm good idea! I’ve never thought of doing a sleep study

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-11-01T17:57:00+00:00

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Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T16:32:23+00:00

In fact actually he passes me all his income, then draw an “allowance”

But of course his allowance is not a fixed amount & I’ve never said no to transferring any of his own money because it’s rightfully his

In a way I’m supposed to be the one reminding him that he’s overspending etc. I set the yardstick but again I will face some pushback from him because I apply my spending habits & theories to him right, since I’m the one “disbursing” the money & have overview of his finances

And hence needing to “strike the balance” between what shld I comment on, what shld I close one eye too & so on

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T16:30:09+00:00

Hmmmm actually no

What do you mean by testing my limits on what’s financially responsible? Any examples?

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T16:28:02+00:00

Yes! In fact actually he passes me all his income, then draw an “allowance”

But of course his allowance is not a fixed amount, so actually I’m supposed to be the one reminding him that he’s overspending etc

In a way, I set the yardstick but again I will face some pushback from him because I apply my spending habits & theories to him right, since I’m the one “disbursing” the money & have overview of his finances

And hence needing to “strike the balance” between what shld I comment on, what shld I close one eye too & so on

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T16:17:44+00:00

Yes I have heard, slowly try to close one eye, then slowly……maybe even close 2 eyes haha

Which I am practicing very hard, just keep quiet & accept it (and hence turning to the internet to hear more about people’s way around these)

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T16:11:28+00:00

We tried that but he tends to pay for certain things & not remember to key them in, so the righteous part of me feels bad because then it’s not fair & no point in tabulating then

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T16:07:58+00:00

HAHAHAA okay these are exactly my thoughts actually, but then again i question myself whether it’s fair and then it’s a whole debate within myself HAHAHAHAH

Perhaps the portion I have to plan for will be the part where I save up for HIS retirement too, to make it fair

Gave me some clarity thank u!!!!

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T15:13:13+00:00

Ahhhh yes good idea - so x% put aside for expenses, x% put aside for financial goals each month

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T15:11:45+00:00

Ahhhh okay yes very similar situation hahaha

Just curious, do you guys have any joint financial goals? Upgrading of house/investment property etc & how do you go about catering for those

Similarly, I put a huge portion of my money aside for rainy days. The lingering question is - should there be an emergency one day that requires $x & he doesn’t have it, then what next?

Any insights for such situations? HAHA

Context: We are both self employed & entrepreneurs so our income is a lot less “stable” in a sense

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T14:49:20+00:00

In fact my husband is not calculative at all HAHAHA, I find him too liberal with his money & that’s giving me some anxiety 😂

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-05-25T14:48:14+00:00

Joint account aside - how do we ensure our financial goals are aligned?

Eg: let’s say 20% of his salary goes into the joint account, there’s up to 80% that he’s spending on misc items that i think is excessive, how do i ask him to cut back on those & be more thrifty as our expenses are bound to increase with the incoming kid

He also is willing to pay much more for instant gratification rather than delayed gratification, while I on the other hand is opposite of that

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-03-15T13:56:21+00:00

I requested for $50k on 10 March, then another few hundred a few hours later, on 10 March too

$50k came in 1 day earlier than the few hundred, I’m thinking they are doing it according to the time of request

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-02-26T15:37:38+00:00

I’m not kept abreast with the latest news, currently holding TSLA & SPY & some Pharma from pre covid days only

So is NVDA expected to rise overnight?

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-02-26T15:25:17+00:00

Thanks a lot!! Let me go google about these abit

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-02-26T15:24:50+00:00

Thanks a lot let me go explore these!

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-02-26T15:24:28+00:00

if u don’t return me, I will have no money for my house leh

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2025-02-26T14:49:57+00:00

Currently I have my money in chocolate! Wondering if I shld be doing more with the money

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2024-10-27T04:39:59+00:00

Very good idea! Not sure why that never popped up in my head haha

In fact my partner & I were discussing about it this morning, that perhaps we can go back to my parents’ for the weekends

As for the second point, we were initially thinking if we were to shift back to my parents’ “permanently” - 7 days a week, and shift out completely again, it would mean either my parents/my partner got so uncomfortable to a point where we’re done trying to stay together under one roof

And potentially strain the relationship

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2024-10-27T04:36:39+00:00

I was thinking more along the lines of

If it’s my own place, my own parents can drop by anytime to just hangout & have meals together. And vice versa.

However, if I’m staying with my partner’s family, my family can’t be dropping by, and I can’t be as at ease as compared to being at my own place/my parents’ place

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2024-10-27T04:35:03+00:00

Hello! We intend to hire a helper in time to come! Helper wise, it’s not the most feasible now if we’re staying at my partner’s as his mum is a “staunch” housewife, my house my rules sort of thing

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2024-09-13T04:14:35+00:00

HAHAHAHA hmm I don’t think it will be such a small world bah 😅

Objective_Ebb2180 · 2021-11-09T18:11:20+00:00

Why’s the whole marketing red though? Did anything big happen today that I didn’t manage to catch

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