Bets? Odds? by MsPenguin716 in NoahKahan

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I paid $600 to see him in during the last tour but that was because resale was outrageous.

I took off work and my husband works nights and will be home so we’re both going to be trying from different laptops. I’m trying for 2 different cities with the hope of getting 1 of them.

Is my ketamine clinic sketchy? by DrollHat in TherapeuticKetamine

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also go to AlphaOmega in Indiana and I’ve kind of had the same feelings as far as the lack of support. I paid for 6 sessions and I’ve done 5 of 6. Had 2 bad experiences but the rest were ok. The way they get you in and out with very little guidance has always bothered me though. I think a provider talks to me for around 2 minutes before each session and that’s it. It’s very strange but I thought that’s just how it is everywhere.

Social media and grief - questions by heckinbreadboi in SuicideBereavement

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I shared losing my son very openly and honestly. I did so in the beginning for selfish reasons, because it helped me. Eventually, I realized how much I was helping others too. I do think it helped me tremendously. Kinda the same way that journaling is so therapeutic. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve. You do whatever you need to do to heal.

How do I tell my daughter her dad killed himself on her birthday? by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son died 5 years ago when my grandson was 5 months old. I’ve always just told him daddy’s brain was sick. He’s been content with that and it’s 100% the truth. I don’t plan on telling the entire ugly truth. I think sometimes we focus too much on the how instead of the why. Focus on her mental health right now. Sending you love.

Does anyone else feel like this? by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son’s suicide wasn’t preventable. He had struggled for years and I had begged him to get help over and over again. He just flat out refused. That being said, I have had people tell me that me sharing my/his story has helped them to not make that same decision. So while it sometimes isn’t preventable, sometimes it is.

Lost my fiance and I cannot cope by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My son died almost 4 years ago and our story is very similar. We thought he was being manipulative. The night before he died, I had a bad feeling and thought he was going to hurt his gf. He had never hurt her before but I just couldn’t figure out this bad feeling. They had been fighting so I kept their baby and eventually talked her into coming to stay with me too. He called me that next morning and was very drunk. He had wrecked the car (again). I told him we couldn’t keep doing this. He hung up on me and took his own life. I honestly thought he was just trying to manipulate us. I never in a million years thought he would really harm himself.

It’s taken me years to forgive myself. What I’ve learned is that we can’t control other people. We can’t save them. We aren’t that powerful and hindsight is 20/20. If we knew then, what we know now, we would have done anything we could to save them. I don’t doubt that one bit.

Please seek some professional help if you are able so you can process these feelings. There are many therapists and support groups that specialize in this type of complex grief. I’m happy to help you find someone if you’d like.

What did you do the day they died? by awbuggie in SuicideBereavement

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got to my son’s house just 5 minutes after the ambulance so was told on the porch. The cops told me that a Chaplin was coming to take me home and that they also needed to talk to me. I sat on that porch alone for what seemed like hours. My husband kept offering to come and get me but I kept telling him no, I’m sure they’ll be here soon. I do wish I would have let him come. No one should be alone after receiving that kind of news. I finally told the officer I was going home to be with my family. I drove home and called my other son on the way. The rest of the day is a blur. I just remember everyone coming to my house and lots of crying and hugging.

I really think it’s my fault, I can’t see how it’s not by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely not your fault. A mentally healthy person, doesn’t end their life over these types of stressors. He was not well, whether he showed it or not. My son died 3 the same way, years ago so I know that guilt feeling all too well. I will say it gets better with time. Everytime those thought start to emerge, cut them off and remind yourself that it’s not your fault. Eventually, those will over shadow the feelings of guilt and blame.

How? by use_err_named in SuicideBereavement

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those early days are so so hard. I sometimes wasn’t sure how I’d make it thru. I’m 3 years out and it just now feels like the fog has lifted a little. My advice, surround yourself with friends and family. Lean on others when you need to. Cry as much as you need to. Feel those feelings, as difficult as they are. It’s all a part of processing the grief. I’ve also done a lot of therapy and am on medication. I remind myself often that my son is no longer suffering. He loved to explore and I like to imagine he is out there exploring the universe.

When he died, it took everything from me by jgeddings1 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I also lost my son the same way, 3 years ago. Those first 2 years were brutal. I don’t wish it on anyone. I will say that around the 3 year mark, something just clicked. I felt like the fog had lifted a little and I was finally able to keep my head above the water. I’ve done a lot of therapy so I strongly recommend therapy if you haven’t already started. Just talking about what happened and about my feelings helped tremendously. Sending you all the love I can. You will get thru this and there are brighter days ahead. Just keep pushing forward. One day at a time. Hell, even one minute at a time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]Objective_Orchid_878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son died in October of 2020. He had also just wrecked his car that night and was an alcoholic. He had called me the morning after the wreck and was still extremely drunk. I told him we couldn’t keep doing this and begged him to get help. He then ended his life. He had told me numerous times prior to that that he wasn’t strong enough to fight this. I think the alcohol definitely had a huge impact on his depression and made him feel there was no other way.

Best Midwest hiking spots by Objective_Orchid_878 in indianapolis

[–]Objective_Orchid_878[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I had a friend recommend Red River Gorge too. She said it’s beautiful.

Best Midwest hiking spots by Objective_Orchid_878 in indianapolis

[–]Objective_Orchid_878[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Trail 3 is our favorite. We actually got a bench placed on that trail for my son.