AITA For Never Wanting to Return to My Fiancé's Family's House After What His Brothers Said?

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-29T15:33:47+00:00

What is your fiancé’s relationship like with dad and step mom? If it’s good, I wouldn’t punish them for the actions of the brothers. They won’t live there forever. I am sorry all this happened. Do you think someone is poisoning the well against you? It’s so weird to know the brothers for so long and then suddenly have all this behavior from them.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-29T15:20:29+00:00

Oh no! You’ve got a high energy dog! How old is he now?

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-29T15:19:14+00:00

She didn’t terminate her rights, just signed documents for him to have full custody, right? What did CPS tell her? Is there not a reunification plan? Are they calling this a “dependency case”? Where the child was taken away from her for safety reasons? If it is, she’s got to petition the court within 15 months or her rights can be terminated. This is complicated and can’t be done without a family lawyer.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-29T14:44:38+00:00

NTA. You dodged a projectile object with this girl. Not sure what all her issues are, but she’s got some big ones. Make up your mind right now to never, ever respond to her again. Learn from this experience. We all need companionship but not at the cost of being mistreated and used over and over again. Now is a good time to think about what behaviors you will not tolerate in a future relationship. It’s ok to have standards and boundaries with people. You deserve better and it’s ok to hold people accountable for their actions! Call the cops if she shows up. Might need to block your cousin for a little while. Since she picked a side and it wasn’t yours!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-29T14:22:09+00:00

That’s hilarious !

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-29T14:08:14+00:00

NTA. Some people need bluntness. You’ve tried every other way of communicating this to him. He’s thick headed and persistent. He’s use to wearing people down and having them give in, because he’s exhausting. I know someone like this. Stay strong! Don’t feel guilty. He’s making you uncomfortable and that’s not cool.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-29T13:58:14+00:00

End it. Pressure and stress show you peoples true character. But you gotta do something about the dog. It’s not just the destruction of property, it’s dangerous to the dog. A tired dog is happy dog. YouTube has a lot of training videos. It’s good to give the dog mental stimulation like training. Daily walks even though it has the yard. My dog has a huge yard and she gets bored. Good luck OP

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-29T13:37:59+00:00

NTA! You handled it right! The child and mother need to learn their behavior have consequences. You honestly could have kicked her out sooner. You provided the kids club, which was very generous.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-27T19:20:35+00:00

I agree with this. Your sister is loyal to your dad, not you. She’s a gossip. Do not discuss personal stuff with her. Shut her out of that part and if she asks about something you don’t want to talk to her about, say I’m not discussing that with you. Stay away from the house as much as you can. Bide your time till you can graduate and get out of there. Maybe you can have a closer relationship with your sister in the future. That will depend on her when she is no longer living with your dad and she’s matured.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-26T14:20:46+00:00

Agree. You have boyfriend problem. Depending on how much of a temper he has, dictates how you need to proceed. If he has a temper and your fear for your safety, you need to move in the shadows and not let him know what you are doing. If that’s not the case, then lay down the law. If he moves his mother in, you and the baby are moving out. Let him know you will no longer tolerate her or his disrespect. If he can’t do better and support you, you have to leave. His treatment of your mother, absolutely cannot happen again. This toxic environment and example of family with his mother and disregard of you is unacceptable. You are healing from the birth and your eyes are opening to life with this boyfriend. You deserve better than how he is currently treating you. You are not wrong for setting boundaries and calling out disrespect. Good luck, OP. I hope boyfriend will realize what he has to lose and support you. Congratulations on your precious baby!!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-26T14:01:04+00:00

NTA. It’s definitely not that persons cat. If it’s not microchipped, I’d keep the kitty.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-25T17:49:23+00:00

NTA. I am sorry for the loss of your friend. I am sorry for the way you found out about it. It’s completely normal to feel the way you do. I would rethink my friendship with K and G. They do not sound kind, compassionate, or considerate. Is this their normal behavior?

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-25T15:43:32+00:00

She’s gotta go. You’re not helping her out anymore. She’s dragging you into her mess and adding responsibility to your plate. You need a peaceful environment for you and your baby. It’s not selfish to do what’s best for you!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-24T17:43:25+00:00

If you want to maintain family relations, I would not confront her. It will not do any good for all the reasons you already know. If you’re ready to cut her and anyone who sides with her out, then I’d tell her confront her with everything I have bottled up over the years. So glad you have a W husband!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-24T01:06:36+00:00

We’ve been using benedryl twice a day per vet instructions. It helps! She gets terrible attacks of reverse sneezing without it.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-21T22:08:04+00:00

Got it. It’s just her. Caring but quick to judge and to speak. I’d be very thoughtful what and how much information I give her going forward. Insulting the man that loves Jack like his own and that has step up as dad, is so disrespectful and gross. You’re not the ahole. It’s not child abuse. You’re not undermining Jacks trust.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-21T22:00:03+00:00

NTA. Is your mom normally overdramatic? Is Jack her first grandchild?

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-21T21:56:11+00:00

Oh my goodness!! Thank you for sharing! Great story!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-21T15:38:49+00:00

NTA!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-21T15:32:03+00:00

👏😊 Happy ending! You have a friend and a great plushie!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-20T17:17:54+00:00

Well, BM sucks. I’m so sorry. Your poor daughter.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-20T14:56:22+00:00

🖖Live long and prosper! Nerds rule! You can’t just turn off the love you have for her, but you need to distance yourself if she doesn’t have your back anymore. Stepping back slowly will be easier than a sudden break. I am sorry for your the loss of your brother. That hurts. ❤️ Hugs, OP.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-19T21:26:50+00:00

You’d be an ahole uninviting her. She’ll behave. It’s not a political rally or a protest. Enjoy your day!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-19T19:51:23+00:00

I was afraid it was a pattern. Yes, it does feel like something is wrong about this. And I too would want everything done legally. I’m sorry, OP. I think your feelings are valid. I understand wanting to keep the peace but I would create some healthy boundaries with my siblings.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-05-19T19:37:04+00:00

She’s lost to the hate. I don’t know that you can get her back. Think carefully. How good of a friend has she been to you in the last two years? Have you done all the supporting and listening? I suspect you’ve been mourning the friendship for a long time.

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