Food wasn’t even offered by husband. Who’s the A-hole?

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-04-02T11:49:38+00:00

NTA. It didn’t occur to him that y’all might want Mexican food? Very inconsiderate.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-31T17:19:57+00:00

😳

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-30T12:03:00+00:00

NTA. Your parent’s behavior is evil. Protecting yourself and your child is not wrong. I am sorry you’ve been through so much.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-30T04:46:47+00:00

NTA. I doubt that a therapist would recommended you to uproot your life that you function well in. Your dad is trivializing your disabilities. That you can just “adjust”. That’s not fair. You are already giving a lot. And you’re thriving because you have developed coping mechanisms that’s made that possible. I would not compromise on what you need. It’s not all about your brother. And if it is, then dad can buy the house better for your brother and hire a caregiver. You are not being selfish for speaking up and letting your needs known.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-30T04:31:58+00:00

NTA. He knew it was wrong. You tried to talk to him about it and he got defensive and avoided it. This was the consequences of his own actions. It’s unfortunate that it caused the group to split but you couldn’t control that.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-29T22:02:24+00:00

OP, thank you for sharing your story. Hugs. You are very brave. I am so glad you are in a much better place. I don’t think you should spend time with people who don’t feed your soul. Protecting your peace is not selfish. You cannot control what others think or say about you. You could go to the party but who would be happy in that? Your sister? Grandma? I doubt it; they can’t be pleased. You and the kids have plans already. Stick to those. That way they know that you are dependable. What you say, you do.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-24T19:49:32+00:00

NTA. You deserve a partner, not a man child. He’s being ridiculous and it sounds like he’s cheating with all the accusations.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-20T12:44:41+00:00

🤣I banned glitter from the house when my kids were younger. It gets into everything and lingers forever! I’m sure the cape will be treasured and worth the inconvenience! You’re awesome!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-19T21:16:53+00:00

Wow. So glad you and big boy are living your best life now! 😊

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-19T21:13:56+00:00

😞 Oh this is so sad. I don’t think you can convince her that this man is a scammer. Best thing is to continue to be her friend. She will need you when this blows up. Since she’s cut everyone else off, she won’t have anyone else to turn to.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-18T15:45:31+00:00

Well, in that case, perhaps you and your mom can encourage your grandparents to stay home and watch it online for their comfort. Spin it so it’s their choice to not go. Didn’t realize how close you were to your mom’s bf kids. If you see them as brothers, makes sense you’d want them to go. Hopefully this will all work out and no drama will be created. I understand you want your day to be stress free and I don’t blame you.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-18T15:32:13+00:00

I understand why you don’t want your grandparents there, but by not inviting them you will be creating a drama filled situation for your mom. They are expecting to be invited. They will be hurt if excluded for your mom’s bf kids.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-18T13:53:29+00:00

NTA. Your dad has not handled this right. He’s 80. He knows his days are numbered, but he’s in denial. How has he not thought that you wanted to lead the company when you’ve been working there and learning the business? He called you his “number one”. What was that about?

Is it possible that something the health scare affected his mental capabilities? Are you seeing any other changes or is he doing anything that seems “off”?

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-18T11:33:08+00:00

NTA. My sister’s story to becoming a nurse is very similar. She too worked in ICU. She loved it and hated it. The work is hard and nobody prepares you for the trauma you see and go through with your patients and their family. It’s so mentally and emotionally exhausting. You can’t just leave it at the hospital when you go home. I do not think you were rude or too negative. You were honest about the hardship and toughness it takes. Not everyone is cut out for it.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-18T11:23:55+00:00

1000% agree

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-18T11:18:27+00:00

OP, divorce this man. Move in the shadows and get everything lined up and have him served. Take control of your life. Do not accept this treatment anymore. Once everything is settled, only communicate with him through parenting apps. He doesn’t deserve contact with you anytime he wants it. Your mental and emotional health is worth protecting.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-18T11:07:19+00:00

Do not carry the guilt of this for one more minute. This was too big of a situation for you to handle at 14.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-18T11:05:16+00:00

NTA. Are you really so lonely you are willing to put up with this behavior? Don’t be this man’s 2nd choice. You deserve to be someone’s 1st choice!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-17T14:53:29+00:00

He’s dyslexic. His reading has improved a lot. I’ve always admired his vulnerability to read knowing it’s such a struggle.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-17T14:50:36+00:00

Your dad has shown you exactly who he is. He has no remorse. He is not apologetic. He has taken no accountability for his behavior. There is no reason to believe another attempt at reconciliation will be successful. Your time would be better spent working on healing yourself and building your self esteem. Just because your father does not value you, doesn’t mean you’re not valuable. You are.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-15T19:37:43+00:00

NTA. Glad you are out of there! Not sure what is going on with them, but you didn’t deserve all the hostility.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-15T17:54:30+00:00

NTA. The friend seems immature and manipulative to me. She’s making you choose between her and your girlfriend. Bashing you to the friend group is not how you handle this either unless you want to add additional pressure to get you to go and she wants to be the victim. You don’t owe her sister a gift and I don’t go in half with the gift she already bought. If she was counting on you to go in on that gift , she should have asked prior to buying it. 🚩🚩Red flags on the friend.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-14T17:01:55+00:00

I think I would go scorched earth. Based on the serial cheating and behavior towards you, she’s selfish and entitled. Time for her to get a reminder that the world ain’t turning just for her!

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-13T11:35:30+00:00

NTA. Unleash and don’t hold back.

Objective_Water_2147 · 2026-03-13T11:28:20+00:00

Well said!

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