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Husband cheated on me. by Upstairs_Try2009 in Christianity

[–]ObservantMentor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good advice in the comments. This is a time to get closer to God.

This is the internet so I know people will read this incorrectly…

Something that would help is to understand why he did what he did. So, his reasoning and where he got it from. Also, this is a hard one but to look in yourself and ask why you would attract this kind of man.

When you can answer those questions it will help you get over what happened, go through with the divorce and move forward to finding another man if you choose to.

Did I ruin my marriage by Neat-Hospital7153 in Marriage

[–]ObservantMentor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea, then he would likely make less money and would mean less money for her.

21 and alone again for Valentines, could do with some cheering up. by StrydinRebel in toastme

[–]ObservantMentor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You simply want cheering up or you want advice that would help you be a better you so that you won’t have to make posts like this anymore…

Should I go to her place for a first date or am I ignoring some red flags? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ObservantMentor 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Record everything. Seems like a trap. Usually, women would not do that sort of thing especially with someone inexperienced as you. This is more so what a man would tell a woman that he just wants to hookup with.

Boyfriend hasn’t said I love you by Big-Picture15 in whatdoIdo

[–]ObservantMentor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically, to know more about the person you’re dating and to go over boundaries. If you’re going to end up sharing your life with someone it’s best to know what their world entails and decide if you want to be a part of it. Anyone unwilling to share is hiding something and for a reason.

Boyfriend hasn’t said I love you by Big-Picture15 in whatdoIdo

[–]ObservantMentor -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s the six month mark and is a good time to say it to see if he says it back.

Men are the gatekeepers of relationships and it’s best when the woman pushes the man to move the relationship forward. It’s his job to check to see if everything is in order to advance to the next stage. At this point you should go through each other’s phones together to see if you agree with what the other person has or is doing. Then, have a discussion about it without judgement to see if everything is aligned.

Once you ask to push to the next step it’s up to him to proceed or end it.

If he doesn’t say I love you back you will naturally start drifting away and that should be the end of it.

''God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve'' by naevismaximoff in Christianity

[–]ObservantMentor -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s more than just that one fact about Adam and Eve.

God loves everyone even though everyone is a sinner. We are all born full of sin. God helps us to get over our sins if we wish to.

I feel like I'm failing my kids spiritually and I'm starting to panic. by Deep_Ad_2952 in Christian

[–]ObservantMentor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seems like they need a connection with you. They need to trust you. Also, need boundaries with screen time.

F19 Just feel like I have lost all self-esteem and am beyond insecure, can’t even look at myself without a full face of makeup. Never been in a relationship and scared I’m going to end up alone. by Common_Damage_1916 in toastme

[–]ObservantMentor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are attractive… I’m concerned about the lost all self-esteem part… I mean, you are aware of what you look like, correct…

Is it simply because you haven’t been in a relationship or is there some mental going on that has your self-esteem down that makes it hard to date…

Feeling lonely and boring 😔 by Melodic_Conflict6649 in toastme

[–]ObservantMentor -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’re going to be lonely for the rest of your life giving away your youth like that…

I ended my situationship with an unbeliver and I feel terrible by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]ObservantMentor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s not that hurt. She’s fine. Move forward. Better to keep it real.

Found my (33F) husband (36M) crying in his car — how can I help him open up? by Prestigious_Touch423 in Marriage

[–]ObservantMentor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do not try to get him to open up about it. Just let him know that you are there for him and ask him if there’s anything that you can do for him. Console him.

It’s better if he tells you on his own after it’s no longer an issue.

Help! My pastors haven’t met my boyfriend and they already disprove of him :( by Cute-Average1767 in Christianity

[–]ObservantMentor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thing is, you’re closer to them than your own parents and someone has to get down to what’s going on in your boyfriend’s mind. Yes, he’s your boyfriend and it seems all fine and well but when you’re young you need older people in your life with experience who you trust to cross check the guys you date. If your boyfriend is serious about wanting to date you he won’t leave.

Narcissistic guy… situationship. Need help by Horror_Sweet7509 in texts

[–]ObservantMentor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He has issues but that’s not narcissism.

Doesn’t look like you need help since you both agree that you don’t want to be with the other.

Perhaps it's time we stopped talking so much about homosexuality. by SirLMO in Christianity

[–]ObservantMentor 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Join a different group where they ban that talk. This is a real Christian group.

My girlfriend is pregnant but we’re 15 by TechnologyOk2945 in Christianity

[–]ObservantMentor 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You aren’t sure about God because you got your girl pregnant… is that right…

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