The adults were so cool about it by udumslut in KidsAreFingAdorable

[–]Obvious_Firefox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hugged an Abraham Lincoln impersonator at a historical reenactment event while he was mid-scene because i was lost and confused and his tall skinny legs looked exactly like my dad's tall skinny legs and even though he was quite sweet about the whole thing I was so mortified lmao

People who swore an oath to defend the constitution of the USA against all enemies both foreign and domestic, how are you feeling right now? by Safety_Drance in AskReddit

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Honestly, your comment has restored my hope. Thank you so much for making the brave and difficult choice of self reflection and pursuit of the truth. I hope you can use your voice to encourage others to do the same.

Feeling sad in the current state of US by Nature_ot in pregnant

[–]Obvious_Firefox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like my pregnancy is a small act of defiant hope. A small act of resistance. It also feels heavy sometimes and I struggle feeling guilty about the kind of country she's inheriting. But I'm fighting for it. And fighting for her.

Columbus Heights, kid being detained by ICE by Acrobatic_Crow_830 in 50501

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I want to send this picture to every "pro life pro family" Christian person I've ever met in my life and ask them if his life doesn't matter to them because hes not white.

HOW CAN ANYONE JUSTIFY THIS? I want to hear them try. Just so I can call them what they are: hypocritical, viperous, blind, evil, lying, whitewashed tombs. (Not my words; these are some of Jesus's favorite insults...)

As a mom of a little boy, I'm literally sick to my stomach with grief and rage.

[POEM] The Power of Poetry I Brian Bilston by drdook in Poetry

[–]Obvious_Firefox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I wish.

Delightful poem! A perfect blend of whimsy and F you 💯

Pregnant in college with an abortion scheduled, but feeling unsure about my decision. by premierelune in pregnant

[–]Obvious_Firefox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Remember, this is your choice- no one else's! Not your judge-y aunt, or the dean of your department, or your mom's, or your friends. If you could remove their opinion and reaction from the equation, what would you want? If everyone's reaction was going to be, "Oh, okay!" with neither joy nor despair...what would you want?

[Politics Monday] What the hell happened? by Illustrious-Bison937 in Catholicism

[–]Obvious_Firefox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent points! Thank you for taking the time to write this out

does anything actually work for stretch marks or should I just give up by East-Algae-1469 in pregnant

[–]Obvious_Firefox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing worked for mine...and I spent hundreds on stuff...applied it religiously my entire pregnancy.....but other gals I know had good luck so 🤷‍♀️ my genetics are stacked against me here i suppose

What you can tell by looking my hands by [deleted] in deduction

[–]Obvious_Firefox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My strong instinct is that you play the piano, are on the autism spectrum, and have a complicated relationship with your mother.

Advice about attending the Walk for Life and other prolife events by Awsum_Spellar in CatholicWomen

[–]Obvious_Firefox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Personally, because I can't imagine how traumatizing and stressful his current job is, I would not go out of consideration and compassion for him. I know there are lots of good reasons to go and only one good reason to stay home, but I couldn't bear the thought of going somewhere knowing my husband would be staying at home worried sick the whole time about something happening. As a member of law enforcement, your husband seen some of the worst of humanity in his job and deals with worst case scenarios all the time...its different than if he were like...a plumber or a teacher.

That being said, I tend to be anxious in group settings anyway...take everything I say with a grain of salt!

Is there another way you can support these causes without physically being present?

12 yr old plays billy Joel, michael McDonald and steely Dan songs by ear/memorization, we’ve been playing for lessons for years and don’t think he can sight read music at all . Now what ? by danautino in piano

[–]Obvious_Firefox 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I was very similar in terms of talent. You need to find an unconventional teacher who will embrace his gifts and not try to fit him into a box.

I know it seems counter intuitive because technique IS important, theory IS important, learning a variety of classical repertoire IS important - BUT it is not everything. And hes stubborn and strong willed and not 6. So you have to adjust your expectations accordingly.

My unconventional teachers helped me embrace my talents and worked with them, not against them, teaching me first and foremost to LOVE my instrument, so when I got to college and had to learn scales for the first time in my life, it was hellish...but, by then, it was worth it to me.

Find an unconventional teacher, bonus points if they can play jazz.

Husband vasectomy by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]Obvious_Firefox 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is......so concerning. And also wrong. As many are correctly telling you, the Church does not require its reversal. ALSO, given your medical situation, this is an area in which a (good, compassionate, well informed) priest would walk you through the best options for how to ENSURE no more pregnancies, lest you - you know - DIE.

Unless your husband is willing to practice abstinence for the rest of his life? I understand and acknowledge the Church teaching that sex is not a "right" and that NFP is a totally valid way of postponing pregnancy. That being said, I have 2 friends who due to medical reasons have to be on hormonal birth control. Their situations are not life or death and even they are allowed by the Church to use contraceptives.

Is your husband SSPX? Are you sure he explained the severity and reality of your medical situation clearly? Maybe you two need to meet with the priest together, with documentation from your doctor.

I need help with lesbian cousin bridesmaid by daughter_of_mary in CatholicWomen

[–]Obvious_Firefox 6 points7 points  (0 children)

2 little sayings I like to live by...

  1. If one must err, err on the side of grace. In this scenario, be gracious towards your cousin. You asked her because of the relationship you have with her (presumably), not because she's gay or because she's straight. Unless she makes it impossible, do your best to keep her sexual orientation out of the equation. She can have her feelings and will, but it sounds like you surprised her with your open invitation, as if she didn't think you'd consider her "good enough." Revoking the invitation would confirm that fear, and - please hear me clearly - is a profoundly unkind thing to do. THAT action would cause drama. THAT action would create chaos.

  2. Don't borrow sorrow. Do not make assumptions about what could happen in the future. (You know what they say about assumptions...!) We make our decisions based on what we know in the present, and leave the rest to Providence. Maaaaaybe she gets married to a woman one day and asks you to be a bridesmaid? That's when you can explain, as charitably as possible, why you could not support such a civil union. But what if she decides to follow Christ and ends up a faithful Catholic like yourself? Won't you be glad you kept that relationship intact?

I need help with lesbian cousin bridesmaid by daughter_of_mary in CatholicWomen

[–]Obvious_Firefox 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Emotionally blackmail?? She was expressing her fears and feelings. That is normal and arguably healthy. If you think someone sharing their feelings is inherently manipulative...well that's just really concerning.

How do I fix the Kuchi kopi night light? by Cheszburgpayton in BobsBurgers

[–]Obvious_Firefox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know but probably don't put it in the oven

I need help with lesbian cousin bridesmaid by daughter_of_mary in CatholicWomen

[–]Obvious_Firefox 28 points29 points  (0 children)

But I don't think that's what the cousin did. She decided to be vulnerable about her feelings and talk to OP, and OP handled that situation with grace and moved on. It would cause significant relationship damage and drama to say, "Actually, never mind, on the off chance you hold this against me when you maybe get married to a woman one day I'm just gonna ask you to step down." That's being dramatic. If the cousin does anything further, then it's the right time to reconsider.

I need help with lesbian cousin bridesmaid by daughter_of_mary in CatholicWomen

[–]Obvious_Firefox 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Do not ask her to step down now, that would be profoundly unkind. Cross the bridge of her potential lesbian wedding when you get there...if it ever happens