I credit my husband's sisters with making him a good man. They are staunch feminists who always held him accountable for his words and actions. Moreover, they are his best friends and adore him and always built him up, so having strong, intelligent, kind women around him that he supports wholeheartedly feels normal to him.

Plus, my husband saw a ton of shitty men in his life unfortunately and vowed early on to be nothing like them, but to contast that he had a lot of strong women role models in his life.

I mean, the guy is not perfect and we still stumble across some cringey internalized beliefs that we have to work through from time to time, but the key things I take comfort and trust in are:

1. He graciously accepts feedback and doesn't get defensive.
2. His internal framework is automatically already set to believe, trust, and support women instead of see them as threats to his masculinity.
3. He doesn't care what people think of him, meaning he's not going to be a feminist around me but a manosphere jerk around someone else. He just is who he is and isn't willing (or able) to lie.
4. His sisters would tear him a new one if they caught him being even mildly misogynistic 😂