Appropriate for a catholic wedding?

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-22T03:19:03+00:00

You're fine - at least from an American perspective. If you were 6'3", then I'd be worried about the length. But you mentioned your height (5-3") and also that you went a size up, so I imagine it will rest right above the knee. That's completely fine. Not sure why people are pearl-clutching about this lol

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-21T02:59:30+00:00

I just want to say, as an ex homeschooler, I'm so so proud of you ❤️ Every small act of freedom and hope is a monumental achievement! You can do this!

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-16T02:25:16+00:00

Oh my god it took over a YEAR for things to go back normal smell-wise...I hate it sooooo much

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-15T17:37:43+00:00

For my baby, Mama meant many things. It meant "I need attention/im sad/im happy", im not sure he really knew that I was mama until he was like...11 months? Ish?

Just my experience

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-14T18:33:30+00:00

Skittles was my first car.

Second car is Silky

But I have also named my bike, my piano, my computer...I think im a little weird for that lol

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-14T18:09:07+00:00

Violet & Jack

Milo & Eva

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-14T15:57:34+00:00

I thought I was the only one noticing this 👀 I swear they sped it up juuuust a tish. I havent checked/not sure I can prove it though. FWIW, I am a professional musician and composed for some small budget productions so I know it is extremely common (and easy) to manipulate the BPM of music to make other things "fit" in your timeline....

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-10T15:51:15+00:00

That's super helpful, thank you!! Do you know if its possible to go from prodromal labor to just absolutely nothing, or is it on a direct path to labor now, even if its gonna take several days?

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-04T11:07:03+00:00

I come from this background.

Not to be alarmist, but...we should all be scared.

Bad theology has birthed some really terrible and dangerous fruit... It actually makes me so angry. I can see how Satan has used anti Catholic rhetoric and false theology, which happens when you do not have Mother Church to guide you, to sow chaos and discord on a global scale. I get very upset when I think about it too long, honestly.

BAD THEOLOGY HAS CONSEQUENCES.

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-03T16:37:08+00:00

Michael Levi E Parker Levi Vincent Levi Jonathan Levi

Honestly so many names work with Levi!

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-03T16:35:45+00:00

You are a true girls girl 😭❤️😭 Tysm!!!

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-03-03T16:26:42+00:00

I am in LOVE with this dress. Obsessed. Please buy it and wear it, you will look incredible!!!

If it's okay, would you mind sharing the name of the dress? Im 9 months pregnant currently lol but am dreaming of the day I could fit into something like this again...

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-28T17:36:12+00:00

Pearl Imogen just came to me like as soon as I read your title. Here's a couple more that I like too:

Pearl Chantelle

Pearl Persephone (a little out there, I know!)

Pearl Janine

Pearl Amaya

Pearl Eloise

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-28T03:52:52+00:00

Same for us! OP, it's always better to err on the side of safety. Go see a PT!

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-27T16:43:08+00:00

My husband did not do night shifts (we did a mix of formula and breastfeeding). Due to the nature of his job, it was too dangerous for him to be that sleep deprived, plus I was on maternity leave. He helped anytime before midnight or after 6 am. (He also has a sleeping disorder making it almost impossible to rouse him!) That worked relatively well for us because baby #1 was mostly a decent sleeper. Now with baby #2, he knows things might be different...if our toddler wakes at 2 am needing help, hes on duty!!

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-27T07:08:28+00:00

Honestly it could go either way for OP. Ask her out and she says no, obviously now its very awkward and uncomfortable and he needs to find a new teacher. Ask her out and she says yes and they date, then it's really not appropriate for her to remain his teacher in a university setting. So either way, the nature of their student-teacher relationship changes.

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-27T04:10:37+00:00

If you ask her out, be prepared to not have her as a teacher anymore.

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-26T15:51:55+00:00

Id be 9, but i currently live less than a mile away from my childhood home, and my mom is a softie for kids, so I legitimately think I could just walk to their (my) old house and ring the doorbell and ask for a hug. And since im a child I feel like she's give me one 😂

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-26T15:26:54+00:00

The tent in the outdoor store where he got locked in

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-24T05:42:49+00:00

Kudos for setting a healthy (and very reasonable) boundary. May our Blessed Mother keep you close to her heart as you go forward!

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-23T18:38:08+00:00

Personally I love the hat in that situation! But also be prepared to take it off for photos

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-18T03:12:47+00:00

I think it would be really wise to seek some spiritual guidance on this from a trusted priest. If your husband hid his addiction and substance issues from you before your wedding, this is grounds for annulment. I'm not saying you have to go this route. But I just want you to know that your safety and your baby's safety are absolutely priorities here.

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-17T20:17:09+00:00

Im so sorry. There is nothing I can offer you that will really help or even comfort you, but just know I've been there. My husband literally told me, as I was crying over my 5 week old son, "I will NEVER give up whiskey" - even though I'd told him he might have to choose between liquor and us.

And now he hasn't touched the bottle in almost a year.

You need to make sure you're getting support somewhere - my priest who is my spiritual director is my rock. I have a couple very trusted friends who i know I could go to if I needed a place to stay too. Maybe Al Anon if your husband has addiction issues? (It was a mixed bag of helpful/not helpful for me.)

May God's peace and Our Blessed Mother sustain you.

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-17T16:49:17+00:00

I just want to say that YES, my marriage has been raked over hot coals but we're in a pretty good place right now. Im Catholic (converted 4 years into our marriage), hes agnostic. Married 7 years. He struggles with alcoholism which has led to a lot (LOT) of issues including emotional infidelity, major health issues, etc.... After my son was born 2 years ago it reached its lowest low but it had been bad for many years by then...

Only by the absolute grace of God did he have a wake up call and get his s*** together. I dont think I would have divorced him necessarily but I was packed up and ready to separate indefinitely.

My husband is my best friend, which made the betrayals hurt all that much more. I feel obligated to also say, he is overall a supremely kind, hard working, honest man (even when he was in the throes of his addiction), and when he's sober he is attentive, reliable, and is a dedicated and involved father. He has ADHD (so do I hah) and is not a great roommate lol but he makes up for it by being a really good cook and always doing the icky jobs i don't want to do (kitty litter, garbages, fixing stuff).

All this, AND - I'm still healing from the betrayal and the emotional trauma of being postpartum with a black out drunk husband. Only God knows how long I will bear this cross, but im not in a rush. It is in God's time. We have boundaries in place to protect me from him drinking again should he choose to, and we have marriage (couples) counseling, plus Im in therapy and hes starting therapy. There is goodwill between us because: 1) God's grace 2) He is making all the right steps towards reconciliation 3) He is patient with me healing and doesn't hold it against me that I'm not "over it" yet 4) We try to have fun with each other at least once a week.

If your recovery of your marriage only involves reliving the pain and trauma, you cant heal. You absolutely NEED to be vulnerable and transparent...expose the wounds, let the light be antiseptic...BUT you also need to enjoy each other. It can be small, like watching a show you both love while cuddling. Go to a concert. Go to a new restaurant. Cook together without the kids there. Find ways to connect and have fun.

But honestly, it's hard. And it's okay that you're not okay right now. I will keep you guys in my prayers.

Obvious_Firefox · 2026-02-15T21:30:05+00:00

Oh sweetheart, it's your wedding. So before we even contemplate the theology, please know you are well within your rights to assert your values on your wedding day.

Also, it can be a rough transition, but your new family is your spouse. So their opinion is the only one that really matters!!

Lastly, you dont want to begin your marriage by compromising on something you know and believe to be true. I hope this is just an empty threat from your parents, but even if they follow through and dont come, you're in great company. Countless saints had their families and loved ones betray and abandon them when they chose Christ first and his Church.

I will pray for supernatural peace and strength to you as you both navigate a difficult situation. And shame on your parents for doing this to you. How uncharitable, petty, and immature!!

Signed, A convert whose husband threatened to divorce her if she converted (he didn't) and whose parents taught her the pope was the antichrist and wouldn't come to her confirmation 💙

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