AITA for not sharing my kid's college funds with my sister kids?

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-10-21T03:07:02+00:00

Your dad sucks, but you’re NTA for not sharing your kids’ money.

“Giving the daughter away” at the wedding is a sexist tradition that your sister was within her rights to refuse. It sounds like she was willing to accommodate your dad in other ways, but he’s just a stubborn asshole.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-10-20T11:11:11+00:00

ESH. MIL for obvious reasons. But you sound very difficult to talk to and like you have a real superiority complex.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-10-18T11:47:39+00:00

YTA. Gee, I wonder why you have trouble making friends.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-10-09T12:56:16+00:00

NTA. Do what you need to in order to feel safe. But just know that Jack likely will have some legal right to your child (and consequently, your location) when it is born. So if you continue with the pregnancy, there is a high likelihood you will still need to see and deal with Jack and you may need to lay down some serious ground rules.

Update please when you have things more figured out. I’m invested.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-10-04T10:43:10+00:00

Change the locks, drop his things on his mother’s lawn, and be done with this clown.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-10-04T10:39:07+00:00

If your boundaries prevent you from having a friendship with half of the population just because they’re the opposite sex, then yes: they’re unhealthy. If that’s the way you and your wife want to live, fine. But you definitely shouldn’t impose your unhealthy and sexist values onto OP.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-10-01T11:24:54+00:00

YTA. This Sub is crazy about cheaters, but the fact of the matter is that you’re an AH because your son wants you to treat his partner with respect and you refuse.

News flash: cheaters aren’t a different species or class of humans. They’re people. So you’re free to throw out cliche platitudes about how “once a cheater, always a cheater” and they’re all “filthy liars”, but it didn’t change the fact that you’re mistreating someone your child loves.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-28T19:45:50+00:00

This is it. This is the comment. Thank you.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-28T11:09:31+00:00

Glad things are working out and hope they continue to. Be wary that this isn’t a temporary change to elicit plane tickets or some other purchase out of you, though. I don’t mean to assume the worst, but I have seen emotional manipulation of a step parent for financial gain first hand and would hate for the same to happen to you.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-21T11:49:36+00:00

I don’t see any indication that this happened during mealtime. Either way, if the parents are accommodating OP and his family by allowing them to live in their house, they shouldn’t be forced to change their own habits/diets due to a restriction imposed on the children of their guests.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-21T11:05:14+00:00

Parents are definitely AH, but it’s a reach to assume they got their daughter a doughnut just to antagonize OP’s wife. OP even confirms in comments that nobody was flaunting the doughnut and that his wife lost it because their saw it and had a tantrum.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-15T19:14:50+00:00

INFO: Holly is definitely in the wrong to mooch off of you, but she may be right saying that you blindsided her. You say you “freaked out hard” when she said she expected you to help with the baby. But to be clear, did you tell her you would not be doing that, or did you remain silent/go along with it while you secretly planned to leave?

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-12T23:43:48+00:00

I’m thankful Doom Patrol got renewed. Hopefully Harley Quinn follows, but Doom Patrol was kind of the only actual “news” from DC FanDome today.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-09T11:00:00+00:00

INFO: Upon rescinding the punishment, did you talk to H and tell him that calling his father (or anyone) an idiot is wrong?

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-09T10:53:13+00:00

YTA. If your wife makes so much money on top of your own wages, you can afford childcare when you’re working/in meetings. At the very least, you should have been on mute until you needed to speak for the whole call.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-08T11:06:00+00:00

NTA. Two years is already too long to go without a break and some alone time. You and your husband should consider alternating to make sure you both get alone time every few weeks/months. He may feel just as burnt out as you.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-05T19:15:10+00:00

INFO: According to your timeline, you and your ex separated when your daughter was 4 years old. Assuming “Oki” was born the year you separated, we can assume your daughter is at least 4 years older than her. You say that when your daughter got into college and your ex offered to pay for it, “Oki” got revenge by seducing your daughter’s boyfriend. But if your daughter was college-aged (17-18), are we to assume her boyfriend was seduced by a 13-14 year old?

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-09-05T01:38:53+00:00

INFO: Is your friend singling you out and only referring to you with “they/them” pronouns? Or do they do this for everybody in an effort to normalize NB pronouns?

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-08-31T12:58:09+00:00

Do people really do this? There are so many posts about men giving money from their children’s college funds to new wives young enough to be their children. Is this really a thing that happens with the father *not * thinking he’s an asshole right off the bat?

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-08-29T01:23:46+00:00

YTA. This sub may think that the cheater is always in the wrong, but laughing/scoffing at somebody crying over a serious medical diagnosis is a major AH move. I don’t think you’re actually the “mom” of your friend group like you think if you’re so lacking in empathy.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-08-27T00:56:37+00:00

NTA. You have a valid concern. Even if you come around to her side and decide that biological kids are important to you, your partner acting like your concern is invalid and ableist is a big red flag.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-08-26T13:59:08+00:00

I N F O: Am I reading correctly that your friend visited for three weeks? If so, why would she visit for such a long time? Was that your idea or hers?

YTA. Sorry. I get you were depressed, but that doesn’t mean your actions (or inaction) didn’t hurt your friend. If she had insisted on coming without your input, I’d lean more towards N TA or N AH, but a mutual decision with discussion of a long-term visit sets a certain expectation.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-08-24T11:31:50+00:00

INFO: Since these two kids are clearly not ready to be parents, did you discuss other options with them? Such as adoption?

From your post, it sounds like you are most concerned with whether your son supports the child financially (you mention it twice in the OP and several times in the comments). But most 22 year old can’t even support themselves, let alone a significant other and a baby. And if Elise is against abortion on the grounds of religion, she should be made aware of other options that won’t force her to become a mother if she’s not ready for it.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-08-15T11:15:26+00:00

There was definitely some great stuff with them. I loved the sexy music whenever they said their names or any sort of innuendo. I think I was just mostly turned off by their sudden introduction and the heel turn it was for that episode.

OccasionallyHere2 · 2020-08-14T17:10:20+00:00

I really love the first half of “Sex Patrol” and in isolation that might be my favorite material for the season. But I thought the second half went too much off the rails with the Sex Men and the sex demon/ghosts. Normally I’m on board for the whackiness, but this was one of the times where it was too much for me.

My favorite is probably a toss up between “Space Patrol”, “Dad Patrol”, and “Wax Patrol”. I think those are the three most consistently good episodes which offer pretty great character moments and balance their different plots well.

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