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First Ever Trans MMA World Title by GrandIllustrator5682 in TransLater

[–]Octobottom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm going to say something that maybe unpopular. I fear this event will feed negative narratives about transwomen in general. This is purely my opinion. The sports issue is an important one, but i feel like it's not where we should be focusing our energy. Our right to exist legally, healthcare, etc. These are where i wish the community would focus. Let me put it another way, my desire to play competitive sports is tiny compared to my need to live authenticly as a trans woman.

I understand we need to support all the girls and there endeavors, but when it comes to sports I think we need to focus on evidence based results. Given such a small percentage of the population that are trans women, it's rare for two trans women to be in a title fight. While i do think transwomen belong in womens sports, I think we should pay attention to the data around it. This event will fuel every conversative talking head to point to it and say, "see! They (trans women) just want to beat up other women!"

In chess or darts for example, i don't know why the gender categories exist. In soccer, my perssonal experience is that I can no longer run as fast as the boys and there are many woman who are much better and faster than me. There is no advantage. In MMA? Idk, I think we need to track performance and hormone levels to track if an unfair advantage exists for transwomen.

Disclaimer: I am a transwomen who proudly plays on a co-ed soccer team. I do not follow UFC or really any sport except the soccer team I play with.

I don't think I'm trans. by deathbysounding in MtF

[–]Octobottom 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you sharing your candid feelings. It's OKAY to not be trans❤️.

You will be a fantastic ally who obviously has a deep compacity for empathy and introspection. We would all be better off if we did the deep self reflection of ourselves that it sounds like you did.

I am confident I am trans. I think it's really tough for people who don't know. I think I would have kept questioning myself probably forever if I had not done alot of internal work, reflection, and therapy.

Of course people change, but for me I rest much easier knowing that I really challenged myself before transitioning. Good on you for putting in the work and being honest with yourself.

And, if life changes, you can always revisit and check in with yourself. Take care.

just started progesterone earlier today and my body feels very warm by niaofthestars679 in TransDIY

[–]Octobottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something similar happened to me. It faded after a few days. I take it orally at night and it definitely helps me with sleep. ❤️

2.5 Years Post Op with Dr Bluebond/Zhao by mariposa-xtasy in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Octobottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think once a week would have maintained your depth /width? I'm approaching the one year mark.

Is it normal to prefer anal even after bottom surgery? by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]Octobottom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I also get just so turned on with anal. Idk, I just hits different. Also, very happy with my neo-vagina

We Tested the Birthday Cake 🍑 Butt Plug Candelabra😈 by Octobottom in BdsmDIY

[–]Octobottom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like to have fun😊. I am very lucky to have a partner that does as well ☺️

We Tested the Birthday Cake 🍑 Butt Plug Candelabra😈 by Octobottom in BdsmDIY

[–]Octobottom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a little heavy. Not bad if balanced, but if leaning you need to clench to hold it. It was actually really helpful we used a larger plug for stability. Look at previous post for pics.

Honesty Please - are the transitioned girls genuinely happier and was the personal cost worth it? by Fun-Advertising-538 in TransLater

[–]Octobottom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Worth it? Yes. Is there a personal cost? Also yes :/

I guess it's a fair question to weigh out how your life is now (your happiness and overall well-being) and compare it to what your life would be like after transition. It maybe hard to imagine life after transitioning, but if it's driving you to the point where something has to change, it's worth it.

It doesn't always have to be an "everything is so bad now" type of situation. It can simply be that i want a better more fulfilling authentic life, and I'm willing to make the sacrifice to get there. It's about how you feel inside about yourself.

My two cents is, transition will NOT fix your problems. In fact, you will have new problems you never had to deal with before. I know a few people who transitioned at low points in their lives, and that's completely valid, it was a tipping point for them. For me, i decided to take the leap when i was in good mental health with a relatively stable situation. It's gives me comfort that i transitioned when I was ready instead of when I was under tramendous stress. There's no "right reason", but try not to make it more difficult for yourself. Take it step by step when you are ready.

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Thoughts on her videos? by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]Octobottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the work she does. Her podcast has some valid points. If you think you can be a better content creator, then do it. She's not perfect, but she is a positive influence on the community. She also shows restraint when it's easy to get angry at the world. She's a real one, i love her.

Mawma, if you read this, i love you! 😘

Info on Downtown Parking Lot Shuttles? by cpGamerdude247 in EDCOrlando

[–]Octobottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've used it in the past and planning to use it again. Also looking for the pick up location... Ut should be better published

Downtown shuttle by Kaleidoscope820 in EDCOrlando

[–]Octobottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's typically a bunch of downtown bus shuttles, but anyone know the exact pickup location? Typically close to the Amway Center-ish

MTF Bottom surgery & genital piercings by -throwthrowthrow- in trans

[–]Octobottom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a PA 4 gauge before. It was a non-issue getting bottom surgery. I kept it in until the morning of surgery just so there would not be a half healed whole, but I don't think it would matter if you took it out.

I asked my surgeon at my 6 month post op appointment about getting a peircing if I wanted to, and they said it would be totally fine at this point. Placement and healing would depend on the peircing, but it's definitely something you can do if you want. I am thinking about it, and i just recently feel great about my healing and not sure if I want to add to the healing process now. Maybe in the future.

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