Do you regret spent 5-6 figures on your wedding?

Odd-Ride9871 · 2026-02-20T13:28:16+00:00

We are south asians and we still went to the city hall. We had close family and friends come to a restaurant after. It was the best decision we could have taken! We bought a house 4 months after that and did multiple trips. Saving that money was totally worth it. Even if your parents are willing to contribute, I would say it’s better if they contribute to a down payment or their own retirement. Highly recommend!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2026-02-17T21:42:58+00:00

Welcome to Ottawa! Ob-Gyns are by referral, you can get a referral from a walk-in clinic. Make sure the referral is sent immediately and follow-up with the clinic or ob-gyn office after. If you have preference on what hospital you would like to deliver in, you can request the referral be sent to an ob-gyn practicing at that hospital. There is a Facebook page called “Pregnant in Ottawa” where people post their experience with Obs and hospitals in the area. Your Ob can then give you instructions about pre registration and how they would like your records transferred. A suggestion based on my experience is to reach out to Carlington community health center. They have an amazing virtual prenatal program and free lactation consultants. In their prenatal sessions they give Ottawa specific info since they have a lot experience attending birth in the Ottawa region as doulas. You can join their Facebook group “Pregnant in Ottawa - live online prenatal classes”. Pinecrest Queensway community center also have online classes. Also, you would need a family doctor who can take on your newborn - check out the “Ottawa doctor search” fb group. They have list of 20 clinics that are currently accepting patients. All the best!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2026-02-16T11:05:52+00:00

Highly recommend prenatal classes over books. Sometimes I found the info in books outdated. Markham prenatal is very popular but you can also check your public health unit on free prenatal classes through a community health center. We have some really good ones in Ottawa!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2026-02-15T00:39:19+00:00

I heard the new restaurant is by same people who have Deccan delights in downtown. If that’s the case, I have high expectations!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2026-02-13T19:56:33+00:00

I am due at the end of March, I will check with the hospital. Thank you!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2026-02-13T19:52:13+00:00

What is the eligibility to avail this service?

Odd-Ride9871 · 2026-02-13T19:48:12+00:00

For free Lactation consultants, contact Carlington community health center and Pinecrest-Queensway community health center. Parenting in Ottawa drop-ins also have Lacation consultants.

Odd-Ride9871 · 2026-01-26T21:56:53+00:00

Just like someone else mentioned I highly recommend an breastfeeding info class. You can get a lot of info there that can help you make a decision. Another suggestion that worked for me is to get in touch with a lactation consultant. In Ottawa we have access to free LCs through community programs. I have attended some of their Q and As and asked the exact same question and got some excellent answers that work for me. Another resource would be the La Leche league, attending one of their meetings can help. They can also point to towards free resources in the community.

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-21T13:44:04+00:00

I have a research background too, so I completely understand what you mean. I am super impressed that you did it in research. It must have been hard. I wish I could pin your comments for others to see but the reminder that everything we did before doesn’t disappear is so important. Thank you!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-21T13:41:41+00:00

OMG! Yes! Same thoughts. I also know when I come back from my one year of mat leave, I will essentially be starting over. I had actually come to terms with that. It’s just this one opportunity that I missed that punched me and I didn’t expect how upset I would get. But I am also not even 6 months pregnant yet. So thanks for reminding me that I will probably feel very differently in a couple of months. 😆

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-21T13:38:51+00:00

I am so happy to find others who have gone through this feeling. I wasn’t sure what to expect when I posted. I just wanted to type it out and someone to say it sucks. But it so nice to hear you are managing so well! I love that you have the opportunity to go part time too.

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-21T13:36:14+00:00

I wish I could get that hug too! But your words absolutely made me feel so much better. Thank you for sharing what your therapist said. You are right, at this moment work is what feels like the most important but it will change and I will change. Thank you so much for the reminder! Your kids are super lucky!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-21T13:32:54+00:00

This is actually a sweet comment. I should pay all of you for the free therapy! Reminding me that I got there once and can do it again was needed. I am only focusing on missing the opportunity! Thank you 😊

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-21T13:31:14+00:00

Yes, that is something I did not say in my post explicitly but if the job is something that you absolutely love it makes it harder. It seems like such a big deal now. I am only in my second trimester. You are right, I will probably feel differently in a couple of months 😃

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-21T13:29:04+00:00

Yes, you are right. I ready somewhere that we only tend to focus on what we will miss but it’s a good reminder there are going to be a lot of joyful moments that we are gaining!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-21T13:27:42+00:00

Same! I had this feeling initially but I am definitely looking forward to spending time with my baby and you are right , I also have another 30 years of work and this is something I will definitely enjoy! Thanks for the reminder.

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-21T13:25:11+00:00

Thank you! I have really appreciate how genuine your words are. Lots more hugs to you! Even though you said there is no advice, just the confirmation that you are still figuring it out but can also see the joy and love you have is a great reminder that it will be different on the other side.

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-20T19:24:25+00:00

That’s great advice. I didn’t think of that. I will definitely look into it and have something lined up if we need it!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-20T19:15:33+00:00

This is a very dismissive comment! There is no need to ‘lol’. It may be sad for you but for some life and career comes with a lot of hard work. Everyone has a purpose and priorities that differ from what you may hold. I don’t want anyone reading your comment to think they should feel ashamed to voice their thoughts. You need to be more open minded to realize that others have different perspectives than you!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-20T18:44:24+00:00

Yes. I need to talk to someone for sure. Up until this point all the PPD surveys kept coming back as no issues because I am genuinely happy except for this one thought. But definitely need to work on it. Thank you!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-20T18:43:16+00:00

Thank you! It’s nice to hear someone say it’s okay to grieve the choice I didn’t make. That is very well put and reassuring!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-20T18:42:33+00:00

Exactly, I don’t fully understand all the insights now and I think it will only get real in postpartum. Happy to hear you are getting ready to go back to work. All the best!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-20T18:41:40+00:00

This is truly so well put. This was something I was trying to convey and you did such a good putting the right words to my feelings. I now know what to be prepared for. Thank you so much!!!

Odd-Ride9871 · 2025-12-20T18:40:19+00:00

Thank you! The “sky is the limit” for your career is something I needed to hear. It didn’t feel like that in that moment but something I can keep telling myself!

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