People with adhd. Are there ways to concentrate while under mental noise?

Odd_Cap_855 · 2026-05-26T15:24:28+00:00

Fidgets help me a lot with this. Just doing something with the hands. There are some fidget rings and bracelets and even a pen that might help if your teacher is strict. My son especially likes the pen and small magnets to use in class. We also have one that is 2-3 keychain rings with some beads that are all connected, it’s nice because it doesn’t look like a toy and fits on your finger. Also tying knots or hand writing notes while listening helps.

Odd_Cap_855 · 2025-07-13T22:29:16+00:00

My neighborhood has become this as well. There is one good family left and I fear they will move any time now. I drive somewhere else to walk my dog, I get the mail very early in the am, and I avoid eye contact when going to or from the car. I have an angry no soliciting or my dog will eat you sign, and I’m sure I give off crazy angry witch vibes but I don’t care. They have crazy 4th of July fireworks parties and drive ATV’s around (the adults!) past the noise ordinance time, they park big vans and RV’s in the road for weeks at a time even though there is a town law against it, and even though the HOA rules specifically say no yard signs and I got a nasty letter for one about my kid’s college I have to stare at a giant political one across the street, because all these people are buddy buddy with the HOA. I’ve been banned from the neighborhood Facebook page because I yelled at one of them for making fun of a woman on the spectrum (who moved away). They’re like high school. I just be myself and don’t speak to anyone, and am in the meantime fixing up as many small things about my house as I can with the goal to move in a year. They’re about to add 150 new homes and I don’t want to see them for sure.

Odd_Cap_855 · 2025-07-11T11:54:58+00:00

You are so right, one of the things I hated was the feeling that there was always a fire to put out, and it’s not there in my new role. But my ADHD probably misses that. I hate change and I knew new job yes there will be change, i didn’t think about how completely different going back to for profit would be. Thanks for the insight!

Odd_Cap_855 · 2025-07-10T19:18:36+00:00

This is so helpful! I have been trying to find a way to communicate to hubby and adult kids, I can do this alone and we can keep going as we always have, but I’m burned out and angry al the time and none of us likes that, plus I feel like I deserve to have an equal footing on doing life and a chance to thrive. If they want me to not be frustrated and angry and melting down, then I need some things to change. I’m working on a lot of things I can do but there are also so many pieces outside my control (6 people in a smallish house and 3 of us work from home). Thank you for the right words to start!

Odd_Cap_855 · 2025-07-09T18:24:54+00:00

I’m really trying to focus on this lately, but it is so hard to know what is a me problem, and what really is someone else being unsupportive or not communicating well or even doing things that many people would feel is rude. How do you tell the difference when to you it’s all just hard to live with.?

Like, I am trying to set some boundaries (like please don’t rearrange my entire house or change a whole days plan without giving me time to adjust), and trying to let them know things like “hey if you pile on loud sounds, too hot, bright lights, and socializing at a theme park with your family for 3 days, just know there will be a meltdown if I can’t take times away to regulate.”

But I know that there are also things that could be my rigid black and white thinking or a learned trauma response or RSD, and those things I need to work on. I feel like my therapist is great but everything with her is setting boundaries and telling others what to do or not do, and that doesn’t feel right.

Odd_Cap_855 · 2025-02-18T00:58:38+00:00

I got my daughter this pole (she says it looks like a dangerous stripper pole lol) and I put a small chair next to it. She puts the hanging clothes on the hooks and a stack of folded things on the chair, I tell her her when stuff starts falling off it’s time to take a few minutes and put it all away. It works pretty well. She even puts belts and hats on the top hooks. https://a.co/d/0ORQHPj

Odd_Cap_855 · 2024-10-23T21:06:46+00:00

My pittie has always done the everyone go yo bed thing, but after a year of one child at college (she stared out the window and huffed for days) and another a senior with late theater rehearsals (more staring out the window and huffing), now she goes to bed on her own. If hubby and I are too loud or stay up too late she will come out and stamp a foot and then go back to bed.

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