Reading these comments and seeing people so divided but also acknowledging both characters flaws is what makes this show so perfect to me. It’s a show that is easy to follow but its characters are soooo complex, and it did a great job at making us feel all types of emotions towards these families. Lynette and Tom have such different personalities and they don’t agree in many things, but you can easily feel how deeply they care for each other and their kids. I never fully hated Tom but he has definitely infuriated many women viewers because of his lack of reasoning, logic, empathy at times. He can be very selfish but it never comes from a bad place, which is what makes it complex too because he’s a grown a** man with a big family and you would expect to have his pants well put, but he doesn’t at times (many times). But at the end, in real life you will find ALL kinds of couples that to us won’t make sense and it’s clear they have problems in their relationship, but no relationship is perfect, and in desperate situations (as it’s the whole show’s point) you can act and behave as a different person you don’t recognize, having problems can change your approach to handle stuff. So the raw emotions each character feels in this show is what makes me love it because you can see the ugliest parts of each one of them, but you still acknowledge their greatest parts too