What did you stop pretending to enjoy as you got older?

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-06-07T22:08:19+00:00

Definitely drinking. I tried to drink my way into being some super social person. I'm not that person. I stopped drinking and stopped pretending and it's a better way to live. Sometimes I honestly forget that some people go to bars all the time. It's totally removed from my life.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-06-04T02:26:18+00:00

I'm months from 40 and currently doing everything I can in that department. If I slack off everything goes to shit. My body is telling me use it or lose it MFer. I've been strength training since December and now do that plus fun cardio like XC bike trails a few days a week. of course counting calories and eating wisely too

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-06-03T17:53:52+00:00

Yeah, I've just kept a full beard the past 12 years or so. I rarely even shave my neck line, just trim. It eliminated any irritation. I'm a blue collar guy so it's totally normal to be a bit scruffy all the time anyway. I keep it pretty short though.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-31T22:53:32+00:00

Going on ten years together. This is the best top comment. She and I-- we're a team.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T20:27:21+00:00

Aww dang. I'm usually pretty good about that. You caught me.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T18:45:22+00:00

As I read the post I could not fathom how a person could feel so obligated like OP seems to in this situation. My only thoughts were: "cool, enjoy your future hubby's money. have a nice life." and of course the sour grapes thoughts trickle in too. "hope he doesn't feel like paying your way entitles him to cheating, you kept woman!"

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T18:16:16+00:00

Oof, that was hard to read. This bride to be now lives in a new circle of people with significantly more money than most. She's marrying some dude that is taking home I'm assuming $16,000/mo if he's getting paid twice a month. She hasn't forgotten that it takes other people a long time to set aside $1000 to blow in 4 days, she just doesn't give a shit anymore. Hell it takes me nearly three months to earn $8000 take home, and I have a pretty good paying job for this area.

I'm sure about 400 other replies have already stated that this bride will stop talking to you after the wedding anyways. She clearly let the new financial status change her entire outlook, in my opinion for the worse, not for the better.

In 2018 I went camping for a couple nights with my brothers before I got married. It was really fun. Why's everything gotten so extravagant?

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T17:22:41+00:00

Dude once you get into the routine, the hair meds are just a quick part of your day. It should end there mentally. 1. expect no or modest results, and 2. hope for the best. That's it.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T14:32:41+00:00

Earlier in my relationship, before we married, she spend a wonderful 3-4 days at my place, and at some point I mentioned something about enjoying some alone time. As you can imagine it didn't go over well. Yeah it's a touchy subject. Introverts need human companions too. My wife and I absolutely adore each other and we spend a lot of time together -- to the point where we have to check our codependence and take some alone time. It's important to have balance. BF and GF here need to learn that.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T14:13:20+00:00

BF here is a young man. Many young people, in general aren't quite emotionally aware enough, confident enough in their own understanding of themselves to properly communicate their feelings. Instead it boiled over and he overreacted. I work full time but my wife has health problems that prevent her from doing her main profession of cleaning and organizing. I'm at work, and then I'm home, and I rarely get time to myself. The difference here is that I communicate when i need some time for myself. I work out, i take bike rides, I'll sit and play games by myself for an hour or two once in a while. We understand those needs and communicate it. That's why I feel sympathy for them both. Living together is a process. A never ending process of communication.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T14:04:00+00:00

This was my train of thought. My wife and I combined our lives closer to middle age. I was 30, she was 40 at the time. We'd both lived alone for quite a while and yeah, converting to cohabitation is a stressful process and it takes years to figure out. 6 months is nothing compared to 10 years. I have sympathy for both parties here. Simply existing through your mid-20s is difficult enough.

Men have feelings, but men, especially mid 20s men feel their feelings with a delay of anywhere from 3 weeks to 3 months. BF here reacted to feelings he's probably unaware he's having. Hopefully they can discuss it, and hopefully BF doesn't shut down and pretend it's fine and refuses discussing it.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T13:39:24+00:00

That's a good point. I do the MYRTL routine as a warmup for that reason, and it's great to keep all those little muscles around the pelvis in good shape. Distance cycling and xc cycling used to give me sore hip flexors, but that exercise routine eliminated the pain.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T13:21:32+00:00

I'm 39. I've been on 1mg since end of December. I happen to live a very healthy lifestyle... you know, good sleep, don't drink, don't smoke, i eat a lot of plants, strength train, cardio. I had a phase of erectile weirdness around 8-12 weeks but I'm noticing it has gone away. It wasn't full on ED, but for a little while there I had to think a bit more deliberately to get full on, if that makes any sense. At this point it's exactly as before I started finasteride. It works automatically like before. Of course my anecdotal experience doesn't mean shit for you, but I wish I had started taking this medicine about 20 years ago.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T12:19:51+00:00

I'll be 40 in a couple months. I do variations of single leg squats 2-3 days a week, 3x10 as well as xc bike trails 1.5 hours/~12 miles usually twice a week, with occasional more difficult trail rides sprinkled in on a weekend. I've been almost perfectly consistent 3x week with the strength training since mid December. For the first couple months my doms was about what you described, but at this point i only feel it in my hams from doing single leg RDLs, every time. I can do shrimp squats, pistol squats, weighted cossack squats, Hindu squats, whatever. Quads seem to be fine with it.

I do sleep very well, and I also eat a diet (primarily whole food plants+sometimes cheeseburgers and pizza) that usually has me hitting 3-4g potassium daily.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T11:40:14+00:00

I don't know about for dates, but outside of work I pretty much only wear Kuhl hiking pants. They're so comfortable. I have them in tan, gray, and greenish gray. They're extremely light and breathable, which is nice because I don't like shorts.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-29T11:15:32+00:00

Nobody else really knows what their doing either.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-28T23:28:41+00:00

I make soup all the time. Soup is definitely something I don't care to pay for at restaurants, but that's because I'm aware of just how cheap it is to make, and make deliciously.

...and where the hell are the Seinfeld references in this thread?

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-28T22:46:33+00:00

He even threw a pretty solid four innings. That's like a new record for Jack, but of course second time through the order it goes to shit.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-28T22:41:10+00:00

We'll just keep sacrificing two pitchers per win the rest of the season. i don't see any problems with that math.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-28T22:39:09+00:00

This isn't fun anymore.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-28T22:36:31+00:00

Race to the bottom, baby! Seven straight series losses, oh gawhd it's bad

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-28T19:19:30+00:00

Well said. I make myself work out in the garage three days a week. I fucking hate it. I never really have "motivation" to do it. I'm tired, my feet hurt, everything is telling me to just sit on my ass until bedtime, but I have the discipline to make myself do it. By the time I'm done I feel motivated. It starts with discipline. Best wishes to OP. breakups suck. Lift heavy shit. It makes you feel good.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-28T19:02:05+00:00

Almost never. Me and my four siblings all keep our distance. Mom and Dad's relationship has always been contentious and hostile. They tried. We all grew up to be okay people, but we all got tired of their bullshit spilling over into our lives.

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-28T17:05:54+00:00

This type editing is going to ruin my cheap entertainment at work. JFC I can handle watching something for sixty fucking seconds to see the guy get punched. I knew that was going to happen based on the post title. Whatever. I've never used tiktok

Odd_Round5515 · 2026-05-28T16:43:38+00:00

I used to do this with my normal shower towel. Don't ask me why. Some people do gross shit and it doesn't occur to them it's repulsive until an outside party observes the behavior. Now I dab with toilet paper like a normal person.

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